Before or after session? Before you leave the session? I'm new to this and need some clarification please!
The consensus from reading all pro cuddler responses on the subject is that payment should take place before the session starts so it’s out of the way and you can just concentrate on the cuddling and not having to think about collecting afterwards. In my limited experience with pros I’ve always made it a point to take care of payment before the session starts. I’m my last one that was back in March I had to point out like two times that her payment was on the table because we just kept on talking (she was very nice) and when she was about to go to the bathroom to change clothes I reminded her for the last time and she then put it in her purse. Not to be negative but in case something goes wrong during the session it would be better if you already had the money with you if you need to leave for any reason. Hope that helps.
Hi Mello, this does help. So payment should be upfront when you're both together before the cuddling session begins.
What @Mellow said is correct. You get your payment before the cuddle begins. He is exactly correct: you get your payment first in case your client turns out to be disrespectful and you have to leave before the session is over.
Yes that makes sense. Is cash only accepted or have you paid with a credit card?
That's entirely up to you. While many clients prefer to pay cash, I had one who preferred to pay with a credit card. I fortunately had a card reader with me. You can get a free Square card reader which plugs into your phone and you can do credit card transactions that way, but you need to have access to wifi to use it. You can also use Paypal. Best to discuss the method of payment with your client before the cuddle so you can be prepared.
I almost always host and I leave the money on my coffee table which is right next to where I cuddle on my living room sofa. This has always worked out great. Some pros will grab it and put it away right away and some will grab it when they are leaving. You should always offer it up at the start of your session though.
Thank you everyone!
Per the Client Service Agreement:
"10. The Cuddler will ask for payment from the Client for the Full Session Price as previously agreed between the Cuddler and Client on the website. Payment for each session is due before the session or at the very start of one."
Thank you @lilredmage
@BlueIris I have a square reader. You need WiFi in that it doesn't work over cellular data?
PayPal is also really easy
I do PayPal with friends and selling stuff, but I like square for business sales... More organized and better platform for a business.
I always paid at the end of the session, I was never asked to pay at the beginning, didn't realize it was policy.
One of the reasons I like to receive money at the beginning of the session is, that it is out of the way and you and your client don't have to think about it any more. Especially not at the end of the session when your client is in a relaxed, blissful state - it would just ruin the whole experience and you don't want that ;-)
What if the cuddler pro walks out leaves or asks you to leave ?
@mb2567 Only time I hear of that happening is when the person is trying to push for more than cuddling, getting inappropriate and creepy, or makes them feel unsafe.
@mb2567 In the 1/1000 chance that you pay the cuddler and she walks out after having not cuddled (and you had done nothing to broach the Client Agreement) -- well, you've been robbed. You can file a police report, I guess. And report the cuddler on here.
Uh, but I think that's sort-of a non-issue.
So when setting up a cuddle session with a client would the client want to meet at their place or another location?
The reason the policy is to get the money upfront is in case something goes wrong in the session and the client starts pushing boundaries or makes you feel unsafe you don’t have to choose between getting paid and your safety. I also require a 50% deposit at the time of booking from first time clients, since first time, clients also tend to be the ones to cancel/no-show, the most.
So payment doesn’t happen through the site?
@anrimari Client paying pro doesn't go through the site. The pro is to collect that, via cash, card or app. Pro paying CC their fee via the Credit Card on file) is the only payment that happens within the site.
How much is the fee and when does it get extracted?
2 days after the scheduled session the site charges the 15% of the booking fee.
@LadyVel is it autodebited or is an invoice sent to you?
@Morpheus It is Autodebited.
If needed, Pros can see the details on their "past" cuddle calendar after a session and it lists the number of hours, amount, and the 15% fee that will be or was debited.
I left an eight hour session half way through tonight. I reported the user. What happens now? (The user paid, but absolutely breached the agreement). I also had to lie to get out of there because he’d armed his home security system! So, I said I had to do something and I’d be back. He texted me after I reported and then blocked him. I was honest, told him I was uncomfortable with any confrontation considering I was basically locked in his home. But, now I’m not sure what happens?
@jlc02571 Yikes. You definitely don't need to explain yourself - you've reported him, and the site will most likely ban him right away. Predators don't deserve honesty or an explanation, and certainly not an apology from you for making things uncomfortable for them. He knows the rules and decided to push into sexual assault territory anyways.
I'm glad you were paid (in full I assume). He certainly doesn't deserve a penny back.
@jlc02571 I'm so deeply sorry that this happened to you. I'm so glad you got up and left! Great job reporting him. The moderators will look into it, likely ban him, and if he leaves you Karma lying about what happened, and the mods can tell, they can remove that, as well.
I would strongly recommend attending some facilitated group cuddles that focus on boundaries and consent, where you can practice, and say "no". Group cuddles following the Cuddle Party ethics can often be found on MeetUp or Eventbrite.
Unfortunately, situations like yours seem to happen quite often. It is extremely important to screen potential cuddlers before meeting them, and watch out for any kind of red flags that they have non-platonic intentions. Of course not everyone is dumb enough to tip their cards and reveal their true intentions, and there's only so much we can do, but there are many signs we can watch for in hopes of avoiding creepers like this.
I hope you stay safe out there!! 🫂🫂
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Thank you both, yes I can see he’s been banned. I couldn’t send his payment back if I wanted to. He was using a fake number. He texted me more after that, but I just blocked the number. I am just a non confrontational person, and the situation was odd with the fancy security system. I will definitely be doing some of the group cuddles and keeping myself safe(er) from now on.
@jlc02571 I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you. I would have been freaking out a bit too. 🥺🫂
Even if you could, you don't refund their money. They paid for a service and you tried to provide said service but they broke the terms so they don't deserve a refund.
In regards to the home security system... was it just a panel on the wall that he hit armed on or something else? If it was just a panel on the wall, I would so just walk out and not give a damn if the alarm went off. 🚨🚨🚨