I do not get it

I was not sure how to title this discussion that is why the title.
What I do not get is people signing up for this site and then never signing back in. There have been several people over that last few months that have created profiles and then never signed back in. There are very few cuddlers in my area and I am always happy to see some one create a profile. If I meet their criteria a message them a welcome. Then when I check in I notice that they do not sign back in.

I do not understand. I sign in daily to keep updated.

hugonehugall

@sbcoldguy It depends on who it is. If it’s a female cuddler chances are you were the 20th dude to message her in the 1st 15 mins her profile up , 5 of which generously offered to turn her bones into wind chimes an offer she politely declined and decided this site wasn’t for her. Some got cold about the whole thing in general. And some signed up thinking it was a way to earn a quick easy buck until they learned otherwise. Or it could be as simple as they forget their login info the moment they logged back out the site and just never bothered to reset it.

cuddles_ndream

I feel that many people find this place very intriguing & appealing … the fact that there’s such a site for platonic cuddles & comfort , but once they sign up they get cold feet, for numerous reasons … it could be that they aren’t sure or trusting that people will actually keep it 100% platonic …

I also feel that many others sign up strictly to try & be pros, maybe they read somewhere online or word of mouth through someone that this is a place to make extra $$$ but again when it comes down to it, they get cold feet about it all for one or more of many reasons, & have a change of heart so you won’t see them log back in again or go the next step of becoming pro …

These are the 2 main reasons why (I personally believe) are the outcomes to your question.

cuddles_ndream. I have had the same thoughts but you put them in a better way. Thanks and I will just keep trying.

cuddles_ndream

Np & thank you … hoping you make wonderful connections that lead to amazing cuddles for both you & your cuddle buddy.

Mr_Cuddle_Bear

I signed up while traveling for work, realized I would have problems scheduling during my trip and never signed back in.

2 years later, I came across a Youtube video about cuddling, remembered this site and logged back in.

CuddleDuncan

Sometimes I bump into something on the internet, sign up, and then forget it exists. Or sign up just to see what it is or how it works. Sometimes I think it's going to be X but turns out to be Y. There are a million reason why somebody might sign up, even do something, but then never come back.

quixotic_life

I left for a bit for a few reasons...
• I'd found a partner at the same time as my life flipped upside down. He was providing a lot of the support and connection I'd been seeking here (as well as fulfilling my high level of touch needs) so not engaging here was pretty natural.
• At the same time was the percolating knowledge that I really needed a break from the site - I primarily play in the forums and was getting a bit too invested in my own opinions and getting a wee bit (okay, incredibly ranty and indignant at times. Yikes!

I've come back from my 6 month absence for a few reasons too...
• Some friends I'd made here were either tagging or PM'ing me recently to check in &/or to let me know I'd been missed. So sweet ~ Thank you 💓
• Some of the crazy big time drama in my life is finally resolving, freeing up energy I can put toward connecting with others again
• My partner is working 10 to 12 hour days and my need for physical connection (outside of weekends) is starting to resurface. With this being summer vacation time, maybe I'll get to find a daytime snuggle buddy...? hrm... I should probably update my profile... again.

sunnysideup

I tend to message people in waves, as it's pretty exhausting sometimes.

Sheena123

@hugonehugall turn her bones into windchimes 😂😂😂😂😂😂

applepie55

I actually took a months long break form this site because as @hugonehugall said, I was bombarded with messages. I put up my price to $200/hour because I just wanted to take a look and get a feel for the site before setting anything up and I received MORE messages from men asking me what I was going to do "to make it worth it." I left feeling like this wasn't the site I thought it was. Just this month I was feeling a but down and remembered this site. I logged in and read A LOT of forums and decided to give it another go with stricter boundaries and a better vetting process. I'm hoping for better experiences this time around.

I can understand what Ceciapple is saying. That is another thing that I do not understand about people taking something that is caring and nurturing and turning it into something else. That is another topic.