Get excited...even though i want to cuddle because i have crazy anxiety. New to this site.
Welcome @Goodfellow3. This is a website for grown-ups, so you can just say what you mean. Are you talking about having a panic attack, or getting an erection, or what?
@Goodfellow3 So you cuddle for your anxiety but you are afraid that the dolphin might want to raise up out of the water, the Bishop may arrive in full headgear, or the cyclops may stand up for a peek? Just change to a different position and these characters will take leave.
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Thank you boys for being gentle and fun. 😊
There are a MILLION threads about "what to do if you get excited during a cuddle" My FIRST SUGGESTION....... Read the Forums. There's a PLETHORA of information out there. What @FunCartel said..... change to a different position . Next be honest about things. Its natural. When you haven't gotten good snuggles for a while it feels pretty dang gooooooooood!!!
I agree with @sillysassy . As a female enthusiast it has happened in almost every cuddle I have had with a man. Likewise we women can become aroused. When the issue is on my end I sometimes say “I need a minute” and I just switch positions and then when I feel all calmed-down we continue cuddling. When it’s on their end I trust them to adult and just continue to cuddle within their comfort zone (which could mean taking a break, changing positions or whatever works for them).
OMGOSH!!!! @Chris55555 THIS........ "I trust them to ADULT" Women just don't feel the need to post a lot of threads about it and our arousal isn't "out there for everyone to see" If either party is struggling with being in charge of themselves then I say you should reassess your ability to "just cuddle" or get a professional to help you out with defining and keeping boundaries etc. Being new in the cuddle world isn't easy but people like these boys will help out with info. @CuddleDuncan did an EXTENSIVE bit about how it works best when you are NEW.
THANK GOODNESS FOR HONEST COMMUNICATION!!! 😊
The suggestions above. Also, you can choose to tame your dragon like the day before * you meet the person whom you'd like to cuddle with, which may help. Or maybe practice nofap in your regular daily life and try to get used to controlling your feelings that way to see how that goes. Additionally I am not sure about men, though you may wanna make sure you don't mistake needing to go peepee for your dragon being a little devil when you need it to be on its best behavior.
You can also imagine that who you're cuddling is your sibling, family member, etc.
If that doesn't help, then I don't know what will.
@Lovelight "Or maybe practice nofap in your regular daily life"
What is "nofap"?
@quixotic_life
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Fap is something you hope happens before a cuddle session.
Oh... "NoFap" or "Fapstinence" = No fapfapfapfapfapping Oh-kay then... My, "learn something new each day" quota has officially been met now. 🙄
Please carry on... 🤦♀️
For those that chronically fap and can write words on a surface, they will tell you to read the faption. The favorite word to write is “sticky”.
Eww... 😖🧼
Well, life ain’t no crystal stair.
True. No matter how often we may buff, polish or spit-shine, it really isn't...
Note to self: Do not eat or drink while reading @quixotic_life’s postings…
@Lovelight I learned a new word😳 @FunCartel 😂😂😂you crack me up! @CuddleDuncan you get right to the point 👍🏼 @sillysassy 😂🤗 @CharlesThePoet i will follow your advise sir🤩
@Goodfellow3 welcome to CC as a fellow anxiety buddy, I will tell you this! cuddling eases your anxiety. The month of April was heaven lol I reduced my anxiety meds, you do have to get a great cuddle buddy who understands and works with you. I hit the jackpot in cuddles. Now I’m back to 0 I emptied & utilized all my prize money😭😭 I hope this helps🤗
Totally natural... just always take inventory of your intentions internally and endeavor to be respectful in how you handle the situation... keep in the mindset of just cuddling and the situation will resolve itself
I've been cuddling for a while now, and this hasn't been an issue for me at all. On the other hand, I find myself forming strong emotional bonds. You might call it a heart-on.
Sorry: couldn't resist.
Some of these answers...😄
Like @Lovegirl21 says, it's a natural reaction for a guy and doesn't necessarily mean that the gentleman has, shall we say, dishonorable intentions for the session. No need to fuss over it and make a big deal out of it, just nonchalantly change positions, if necessary, and carry on.
Another solution for a guy; if he's really worried about "presenting arms" during the session, he can always take the bullets out of the gun beforehand....
@Johnny_Snuggles Well said.
This guy has some good answers on this:
And
@nurturingman — These are very helpful; Thank you for sharing these videos with us.
@nurturingman Nice vid share!
@quixotic_life hahahahhahaa Dear Lord you make me laugh..... ahem.... see below
Internet community of people that want to stop watching porn and masturbating to it. NoFap is a website and community forum that serves as a support group for those who wish to give up pornography and masturbation. Its name comes from the slang term fap, referring to male masturbation. NoFap - Wikipedia en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NoFap
@JoyfulHeart 😂😂😂
a heart-on
Can we address the other side of the question? How does one manage someone having an anxiety attack during a cuddle session? Or any other issues? For example, my brother has Williams Syndrome, and is moving all the time. How do you address someone with any other involuntary action/reaction whether it is physiological or psychological? Goodfellow expressed a vulnerability straight out of the gate, and I don't feel it's fair to him or anyone else for us to get tunnel vision without expanding our view on other possible scenarios. I mean, compassion is the most logical answer, broadly speaking, but how do we express that? How do we let that person know whether the session is done, or whether it can resume once the involuntary response has subsided? Is there a way for us to know that the panic/anxiety attack can be abated in some way? I may be completely misunderstanding his question; it may be all about physiological changes. But the scope of my life experiences interacting with others is broader than that, and if I am taking it to where it was not intended, I'm fine with that feedback, too.
Ahhhhhhh @cookiecrumb I was thinking the same thing actually! I'm glad you said something. The OP definitely said
What happens if I.... Get excited...even though i want to cuddle because i have crazy anxiety. New to this site.
I was wondering if A. BECAUSE he has anxiety there are different challenges that he deals with physically, or B. if he is anxious and that's why he REALLY needs a cuddle C. or if he might get too anxious in the middle of a cuddle. Maybe @Goodfellow3 will weigh in on his thoughts....
My daughter struggles with anxiety and has panic attacks, and you are right it can be a bit challenging if someone is unaware or unfamiliar. Again.... I think communicating is key and anxiety is not something that should be minimalized or downplayed. You also bring up some other valid thoughts about involuntary reactions.... Hmmmm. I suppose I might handle it like extreme emotional reactions and such.... Hopefully we are both there having a mutual connection and sometimes we emit all sorts of things we are ill prepared to handle. Wow..... something to think about.
@cookiecrumb
I experienced an anxiety attack that triggered an entire depressive/defensive/lack of self-worth cascade the one, and only, time I hired a professional cuddler.
It utterly sucked.
Short term I simply rode it out, hoping it would subside during the scheduled time, but it grew worse and worse.
Long term I learned that I should not hire anyone to be professionally affectionate with me.
There is actually a very well-put-together 10-minute video by the Omeleto organization showing in a skit how anxiety, depression, intense emotions, and self-worth issues can cause build-up for someone during a cuddle session, and how one cuddle pro and the depressed/anxious enthusiast handled it:
@NicoSnuggs
Thank you, I’ll take a look at that.
Nice vid. Important to note that everything changed when the pro connected with her pain. She introduced herself amiably and amicably to a normal person, but the client could not connect with that. I've made the mistake before, of thinking I was looking out for one's best interest, and I was, but failing to connect with the person in the process.
@cookiecrumb ty for such a thoughtful response to the op’s question instead of assuming / picking apart/ or trying to persuade others what the op meant or didn’t mean… really!! 🌌
@CharlesThePoet I'm really sorry to hear that you had such a difficult experience. I will be interested to hear your thoughts on that film.
It's a good film. Very helpful thing to have to show to various types of idiot, thank you @NicoSnuggs.