@MrMarkAndrew
She's cold calling and when she didn't get the bite she wanted she blocked you so she wouldn't "waste" her time again in the future, so to speak. Consider yourself lucky she blocked you. No more spam in your inbox. 😉
@CuddleDuncan
And, more importantly, any time spent imaging why someone blocked someone else is entirely a waste of time.
@Envie
Yeah, the whole thing was rather odd.
@CharlesThePoet wise words!
I guess the original post was either changed or deleted. An entire thread and I have no idea exactly what it is about. Anyone care to explain?
@Babichev don't worry about it. A conversation between a professional and a potential client didn't go as well as the client hoped. Nobody really knows why. The End.
Thanks.
The OP needs to learn an immutable law of life:
“What somebody else thinks of me is none of my business”
Yeah, @Babichev the issue and the details provided made zero sense to me at first because they lack continuity given I popped in after the main premise was deleted. But I wanted to know, so I read through and took some notes... 🕵♀️🧐🤔 (Which btw was a nice way to get through some of my insomnia. So thanks OP!)
Details gleaned from other's comments (given the OP deleted the content of their initial post)...
He was conversing with a "New Pro" He has prior experience booking and meeting with Pros They spent 10 days of on and off chatting, with a total of 20 messages exchanged.
He was conversing with a "New Pro"
He has prior experience booking and meeting with Pros
They spent 10 days of on and off chatting, with a total of 20 messages exchanged.
Taken from the OP's comments and condensed with comments...
"On the first interaction, offered her that she wanted to meet in a public place before meeting up for session and that’s how I usually meet people. So that we know who we are meeting."
"...offered her that she wanted..." interesting word choices here 🤔
"The first day I interacted, third question, asked if she's okay to cuddle at hotel. She said absolutely YES"
Huh, again with an, "I" statement vs a, "we" statement. Another interesting choice here. Wonder if anyone else picked up on that?
"She also said she could do late night sessions like 10 o’clock."
Is this start time, finish time, and how long was this potential session?
At some point he asked about an, "Extended Session"
Ah. An open-ended time frame. That would be too much for me to accommodate personally. If with a friend fine. But someone new to me? I'd want to know what I'm getting into and have some tight boundaries. But her being new, this may not have occurred to her or she may just be more of a free spirit who can go with the flow, or.... who knows?
They weren't able book since she was going on vacation the very next day (the day after her [Pro?] account creation)
Maybe not the best timing on her part, but perhaps she was thinking, "I'll create an account and use some of my vacation time to fill out my profile, take some nice photos, figure out rates, etc." Not everyone thinks to do all this stuff ahead of time.
"Wanted to keep in touch and were exchanging messages."
Unsure which wanted this or if both did. But I know I'd be a bit miffed that someone was continually messaging me while I was on vacation. And not feeling like I could ask them to stop, and them not taking the hint, wouldn't sit well either.
She has blocked him
Umm... Yeah. I may have too.
Some suggestions... Next time you @iDream21 post a topic in the forum, pick a narrative and stick to it (don't delete the premise and continue to add random details in replies). Changing your point of view or understanding over time makes sense, but changing the "facts" you want considered doesn't.
I'm not sure what you were looking for with this one either, but if it was confirmation that, "Asking more questions to a Pro is bad?" Then your answer is very likely, "YES!" for her it may have been.
A potential take-away for future interactions with those you want to book with (both new and experienced alike) for anyone struggling...
Take note of all the questions you posed, and...
Put them all into one document. Arrange them in order of the importance for you to know before going into a session. Add in any others that come to mind in this process. Then save and leave your list for at least 24 hours.
24 hours (minimum) later...
Read your questions aloud revise further. Make sure they are clearly worded. Provide concise background info for why you're asking. [An example: "I want to be sure I'm being respectful of your time. In the past I've met with Pro's and wanted to extend the session by an hour or so. If that's something I'd like to do with you, may I pay for the extra time in the moment? Should I prepay now and ask for a refund or future session credit if I don't want to stay that long? Or would you rather I stick to the time we've scheduled (and I've paid for in advance), and book a longer session with you the next time?] Save your list (for the next time you're considering meeting with a new person)
Read your questions aloud revise further.
After fully reading their entire profile of a new to you person (which will often answer many of your questions)...
+Review your list for relevance. ++ Modify if necessary. +++ Paste & Send it ++++ And finally ~ Give yourself a pat on the back for a task well done!
And remember...
Nobody owes anyone anything in messaging. Your confusion, hurt feelings, etc. are your responsibility to unpack and examine. She's blocked you for whatever reason. If you think it's for asking too many questions, follow my advice above. If you now think it's something else, work on that too.
When something troubles you, it's an invitation to sit in some self-reflection. To dig in and see what lessons there are to be learned. Trying to dissect another's reasoning is deflecting and is ultimately going to get you nowhere.
If on the other hand a block makes you think, "Huh. Well that's unexpected. l've considered things and don't think I've done anything wrong, so I guess I'll just wish them well and am going to move on to contact and hopefully connect someone else." Then congrats!!
Letting go of our hopes isn't easy and often feels like a loss. But it really is okay, and appropriate, to accept things as they are, let them go and move on.
Good luck. 💓🍀