Pro vs enthusiast Cuddler

RayOfHopeRayOfHope
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I have karma from a few professional cuddlers. I recently approached an enthusiast cuddler and was told that since I cuddle with pro Cuddler she would not cuddle with me as she thinks since I pay money to cuddle I should not be getting free cuddles. Is that how this is supposed to work?

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  • SuperManCuddlesSuperManCuddles

    @RayWah Nnnooo!!! Sounds like a personal choice by her. I have cuddled and continue to cuddle many pros and enthusiasts on this site!!!🤗😁

  • Sunrise_SnuggleSunrise_Snuggle

    That's the first time I hear that one. How incredible prejudiced of her. Wow. She's saying that because you cuddle pros, she doesn't think you're good enough for her. :s :s :s Gross.

  • sunnysideupsunnysideup

    Not at all, that person is crazy! I'd probably just ignore them. You can cuddle with enthusiasts or professionals as much as you like.

  • LovelightLovelight

    Me: Reads the title

    Me: "Let the match begin!! 😀

    On a serious note, she sounds shadier than the shadiest shade you can find. Sorry you had to go through, I'd suggest putting in a report so the mods can look into it. Cause that ain't right. I in fact have a bit of a softer spot for those who had to hire a pro, because I can understand how tough it likely is for them. Though sometimes those who could really use it, can't afford it either or struggle to.

    Though good on you for asking the community for their input on the situation and welcome! :)

  • MelancholyMelancholy

    She sounds like she's terribly misinformed.

  • [Deleted User]CharlesThePoet (deleted user)

    Honestly, rejection is a GOOD thing.

    Especially when that rejection is for a reason entirely beyond your control.

    You no longer need to spend any time or energy on that dead end.

    In fact, they saved you time and energy by revealing themselves and their preferences sooner, rather than later.

    Every moment you spend, every bit of energy you put into worrying about it, is now a waste that is ultimately your choice.

  • Nature_Lover_Nature_Lover_

    No set rules or guidelines regarding either snuggling only pros or only enthusiasts as far as I know. Definitely sounds like just her personal preference which is fine as well.

  • RayOfHopeRayOfHope

    @CharlesThePoet , im not worried neither I care. I put up that question to inquire from the community, if cuddling with pros makes you off limit for enthusiasts.

  • [Deleted User]CharlesThePoet (deleted user)
    edited September 2021

    @RayWah

    Ah, sorry.

    No. Cuddlers of all sorts, clients, enthusiasts, or professionals can accept or decline anyone.

    For professionals it gets a little trickier, in that rejecting clients not only costs them business but can also reflect poorly upon them and lose future possible business as well.

    Personally I gave up a long time ago trying to puzzle out people’s motives.

    I simply accept their actions and believe them when they show me who they are.

  • CozyWolfyCozyWolfy

    That just makes no sense to me. Sounds like she has some weird standards that I definitely don't think are common. I think a more common way people would look at it as a positive thing if somone has good karma.

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    It’s her loss my dude so don’t worry

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    Wow!

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    Its like she said, “you paid all those cuddlers to cuddle & I’m supposed to be the sucker to cuddle you for free? no way!”

  • cuddler5617cuddler5617
    edited September 2021

    That’s horrible in my opinion and 100% personal choice. I myself have had little luck with non pros even when offering a free session. Sometimes I just want a cuddle and it’s not about the money. If it was me I would have. An enthusiast who has cuddled pros are more than likely better cuddlers. I myself take each session as a learning experience to make myself better. I have two enthusiasts who have reached out to me for possibly booking a session both of which have studied heavily into meditation. I offered them free sessions to teach me. Honestly it sounds to me like the one you spoke with is missing out. Keep your head up and stay positive which it sounds like you are already doing.

  • Lev136Lev136

    Personally I have had no luck with enthusiasts at all for various reasons. Not many respond to me. One who did however, also rejected me saying that pros 'provide phony love". There is a misconception of what pros. actually do many times.

    Other's just are looking for dates...which is not what this site is about.

  • PeopleLikeUsPeopleLikeUs

    It sounds to me like she probably doesn't like men.

    @CharlesThePoet "No, cuddlers..." I think you meant "No. Cuddlers..."

    "For professionals it gets a little trickier, in that rejecting clients not only costs them business but can also reflect poorly upon them and lose future possible business as well." This is not at all true. Rejecting clients is a sign they are thinking rationally and realistically about what they are doing. It means they are looking out for their safety and that action has zero effect on their future business dealings with others.

  • LovelightLovelight

    "as she thinks since I pay money to cuddle I should not be getting free cuddles." This is the part that makes me think she's not just talking about her preference and thus concerned me a lot. Though oh well, it's the kind of time I'd say good riddance!

    @PeopleLikeUs I think @CharlesThePoet has a point in that pros don't have as much luxury (or really even interest, generally speaking) to reject, because it can and does reflect poorly on their work. That is, those who want to take it seriously and make some money anyway.

  • LovelightLovelight
    edited September 2021

    After all, it is a business/work and the less *rejection has to happen the better it does. Like a cafe saying "yeah we don't accept so and so" now not only does the cafe lose that group's business, though others who vehemently disagree with that may also choose not to go there. Especially if the rejection doesn't seem reasonable and really necessary.

  • NickoliNickoli

    She may just feel like she would be stepping on the toes of the pros in the area. I know that if I were getting free cuddles I wouldn't be paying a " Professional " . Don't see this as her looking down on you or her being a bad person, simple move on and don't put any more energy into this.

  • alexis831alexis831

    That is really strange. As an enthusiast myself, I actually prefer to see men who have seen pros before. Or at least 1 pro, and have feedback of some sort so I know they're legit.

  • Dante2Dante2

    Seems odd. If you paid and have karma or not report should be a good sign for what you are really looking for. You are willing to pay so I would think it would make a woman more comfortable

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