Guys are you really comfortable cuddling ladies with spouses and bfs

timetocuddle07

I know some maybe honest and tell I'm sure some may not tell. But I ran across one who literally said she would have bf in next room while she cuddled another. Adult and porn reference removed, @timetocuddle07 [-Sid]. It just seems awkward to me but maybe I am over analyzing

MxSmith

Sounds like maybe you dont view cuddling as a platonic activity?

sunnysideup

I’m okay with it as long as their spouse is okay with it. Cuddling on CC is platonic, though some people in relationships may find that to be cheating.

Letsholdeachoth

I'm not okay with it when there are no lines separating the two. I had one tell me she's trying to make money for rent because her husband just started a new job and asked me to schedule a session with her. I declined and she then asked if I wanted to purchase lewd pictures of her. Um, no thanks.

ILikeWarmHugs

I sure am! I don’t care about gender or relationship status. We are being platonic so as long as the other party is okay with it, I am too.

WriterGF

I think someone's attitude toward this may depend a little on how THEY would feel if their spouse or partner was doing this (professionally or not).

Even if it’s platonic it would totally ruin the fantasy / vibe if the husband was one room over.

If the husband exists but isn’t around… meh whatever.

Of course it would be platonic. And nothing but platonic. Someone wants a fantasy, there are other sites to explore. But not here. Understand, @tacocowbell ? [-Sid]

Libra0

I would leave if the boyfriend/husband was in the next room. I wouldn't feel right, God forbid if I walked into him going to the bathroom or something!

SuperManCuddles

I have met spouses, cuddled others that were in a relationship with each other together, or just one if the partners before with the other in the same home. I am comfortable as long as there is agreement and understanding. If the partner was jealous and or I felt at risk, would not be. I would ask her if the other partner/knows and or the boundaries, before deciding to cuddle or not.

CuddleDuncan

I find this question .... weird and disturbing. You are right to raise it @timetocuddle07 because I know it's not just you who thinks this way. However, cuddling is not a sexual or romantic activity so the question seems strange.

It's extra strange (please note @timetocuddle07 I am not having a go at you - on the contrary, I'm glad you've raised it) because cuddling with women who have husbands or boyfriends is a completely normal and ordinary part of cuddling. It's common for professional cuddlers on the forum to refer to husbands or boyfriends. I reckon about half the professional cuddlers I've met were attached. At least one had her husband in the next room, while another had her brother. If I met one of them in the hall on the way to the bathroom I'd just smile and say hallo. It' s not a big deal but on the whole I think it makes me feel a little bit more safe and secure because I know the cuddler has somebody to lean on.

Your use of the term 'fluffer' does suggest that you view cuddling as a sexual activity. Which it isn't. Consider mothers cuddling babies, soldiers cuddling dying buddies, sports people winning (or losing). I saw a cracking hug on the telly the other day, on one of those "could you be in the special forces" shows. Some guy got kicked out, and the chief SF instructor was giving him the good news. It was near the end of the series so I presume they knew each other quite well. Anyway, that was a monstrously long, close and meaningful hug. Remember that SF (and regualar) soldiers do full-on cuddling in very cold environments, to share body heat and stay alive. When I was living with my partner and things were good, on a quiet night there was a choice: sex or cuddle. Our standard cuddle was physically very similar to our routine way of starting sex but the two could not have been more different. Cuddling is in fact the antithesis of sex.

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@Letsholdeachoth I'm really sorry that happened to you. I sense from some of your posts that you've had a number of less-than-ideal experiences with cuddling. I hope you Reported her. Don't get me wrong, I wish her well - the family obviously isn't having the easiest time - but I wish her well on another site.

Keep trying. There really are caring, thoughtful, skilled professional cuddlers out there. You'll find one eventually.

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@tacocowbell what fantasy?

CallMeMikey

No problem for me at all. It's happened many times over the decade I've been cuddling. I sometimes wonder what they may think about the laughter my cuddle partner and I might be sharing at any given time.

No it’s not normal or healthy for people in relationships to cuddle members of the opposite sex. That kind of intimacy should be reserved for friends, family, and your romantic partner if you have one—not strangers. If you are single, then have at it.

CuddleDuncan

@Ster

No it’s not normal or healthy for people in relationships to cuddle members of the opposite sex.

That is simply wrong as a matter of fact.

I will give you an example. A professional cuddler told me this story.... are you sitting comfortably? Then I'll begin.

Her regular client was an elderly married man. The couple loved each other but all affectionate touch had gone out of the relationship. The wife knew of the professional cuddler and grudgingly approved.

The man told the wife happy tales of cuddling. The wife watched the husband become a happier person. The wife started asking questions. The husband eventually asked the cuddler to talk to the wife on the phone to answer some of the questions, which she did. The wife and the cuddler got on like a house on fire, and the consequence was that the cuddler was invited to the house for dinner and to stay over (not unusual in the country, where the couple lived). That's where it was left when I heard the story. It was abundantly clear that the wife was desperate for a cuddle, but hadn't quite plucked up the courage to ask. The cuddler's plan was to go, and teach them to cuddle each other again so that she could be fired. All good professionals dream of being fired - it is frequently the goal of their work.

I don't know how it actually ended but I'm pretty sure they all lived happily every after.

Ahmedali999

@SuperManCuddles for you it's ok because you are a bodybuilder 💪 ,but someone skinny like me no☝️ maybe the husband/boyfriend get jelouse😡 and beat me up 👊🤛🤕 🤗 just joking I agree with you

cuddles_ndream

Im with @WriterGF , & no I wouldn’t want my spouse to do this professionally, & no I wouldn’t want a cuddling partner to have her spouse or partner in the next room over, & yes I view cuddling as romantic intimacy, and just because I view it as romantic intimacy doesn’t mean I’m gonna try & date / or be a boundary pusher / or expect anything more than just being a gentleman, respectful, making my cuddling partner feel 100% comfortable & super safe , & I understand that the chances of an enthusiast seeing it as romantic intimacy are much more higher than a pro seeing it the same, & I’m sure that pros who have been here for Atleast several months with 5 bookings or more know that a lot of guys here are romantically or emotionally starved for the most part.

Edit: and these are just my views & it doesn’t mean i see it as being everyone else’s view

CuddleDuncan

@cuddles_ndream I remain starved romantically, sexually and in a number of other ways. However, I am fully feasted in other respects by the world of cuddling. There really have been weeks when I didn't want another hug or cuddle.

@CuddleDuncan You proved my point in your reply. You stated that the wife “grudgingly approved” indicating that she was not happy about or comfortable with the cuddle arrangement. You also stated that “all affectionate touch had gone out of the relationship,” which is a clear sign that their relationship was already unhealthy. The husband only went to the cuddler because something was wrong with his romantic relationship. The goal of the cuddler became fixing the couple's intimacy issues so that the husband would no longer need to cuddle outside of the relationship.

WriterGF

As far as pros go, I would not be surprised at all if they had partners -- while I am sure they love to cuddle, this is also a way to make some money. It's not a hobby, it's a business. For an enthusiast, it would be easy to say they must be lacking something in the relationship they are in, but that would be unfairly painting with a broad brush. There are probably as many different reasons to do this as there are people on here.

Ahmedali999

I have had cuddled pros who had husband and brother next room as @CuddleDuncan mentioned is ok because they inform us in advanced. No need to worry If you been informed.

carino

Doesn't brother me one bit if they are married or have a partner its their business not mine
I have a clear conscious ..nothing for me to be concern about

Melancholy

It should be completely irrelevant if someone has a spouse or bf.
This is a platonic activity. Its like wondering if your massage therapist had a spouse or bf...who cares?

goodguy197636

I'm uncomfortable with it and don't care who likes it and who don't. This is me and my opinion. I've heard some say it's a safety issue. Ok I can say that on my end as well. What if the person is not good with them doing the cuddle thing and decides to speak up ruining the experience? I am just into us being at a location with both agree on and give 100 percent attention to each other and make this a great experience for both sides. I'm sorry I don't explain things very well but that's something I'm working on is my communication.

SleepySheep1

I think this almost exclusively a male insecurity because when I lived with my GF no one had problems that she existed, or would be in her room during a session- but I was wise enough to not mention having a BF when I had one because clients thought it was weird, even though he did not live with me. In addition female enthusiasts and clients have never even asked me if I was partnered at all, whereas almost every guy has. To each their own I suppose.

WriterGF

Guys know a lot of men are monstrously insecure and probably don't believe the boyfriend/husband is okay with it, even if he says he is. Especially if cuddling with someone else is something they would never want their girlfriend or wife doing. There are probably also some guys who want to nurse the foolish delusion that their platonic cuddler is going to fall for them, and knowing she has someone already wrecks that.

cuddles_ndream

Once again I’m with @WriterGF … if I book with a pro & her spouse/partner is in the next room over, I’m going to feel several things, but the main being that they’re not really cool with it at all, & unless she was doing this before them (which I would never know) I would feel that it is out of necessity so there is someone uneasy in the other side, if i set up a cuddle session with an enthusiasts & her partner/spouse is in the next room over, I’m gonna feel several things but the main being that they are not providing this need in their relationship, & her needing this & doing it in their presence is to show transparency, & only because they appreciate the transparency doesn’t mean they’re ok with it … maybe I’m using personal bias on how I would personally feel about the situation but yes, & for me its not about them having a partner or spouse (which I would never ask & think its inappropriate to ask, & I would rather not know) for me it’s having them on the other side.

CuddlesByGracie

My husband works full time from home so he's pretty much always in the house when I have cuddlers over. I make sure people know he's there because in the reverse situation where I was visiting a stranger's house, I'd want to know who else was home and not be surprised. He doesn't come out and meet cuddlers (although he'd be happy to if it would put someone's mind at ease) and he has no issue with me cuddling anyone, we're secure in our relationship and he still gets plenty of cuddles from me too 🤗

MissX

I can sympathize and understand why some guys would be uncomfortable if their cuddle pro has a SO present in the same house/apartment where the cuddling is taking place. I think it could be uncomfortable for the SO as well even if they are onboard and support your cuddling. I've actually cuddled clients with a wife in the house or mother and it was a little weird at first. That's why a hotel is great to give you a neutral site. However, if you are only willing to cuddle someone who is unattached that does lead me to believe you are wanting more than cuddles even if you're not planning on pressing it. Would you require that you're massage therapist be single? Your therapist, doctor, etc.?

NQIGCyan

I’ve met a pro cuddlers significant others before. I never found it awkward and would usually say hi when they were around before a session.

On the flipside I’ve seen a pro cuddler who was dating around looking for someone. We usually spend at least part of session talking about her latest exploits and adventures. It’s been interesting to see her perspective.

Ahmedali999

@GracieGirl 🤗👌 I'm still having beautiful cuddles 😍 as long as you ☝️inform Clients in Advanced. People who are uncomfortable they judge without trying. The pros i I cuddled who had boyfriend/husband same house ,haven't heard any noise yet is like no body at home and was very comfortable. very respectful.

CuddlesByGracie

@Ahmedali999 Yay! I'm glad 🤗 Exactly, it's everyone's choice what they feel comfortable with, so I let people know in advance and they can decide for themselves 👍

cuddles_ndream

The pros i I cuddled who had boyfriend/husband same house ,haven't heard any noise yet @Ahmedali999

😅😂 you’re the best bro I swear, I love this dude! Lol