So... let's say that you (intentionally or not) crossed another cuddler's boundary. Or perhaps, they crossed yours. How would you handle it (as a hypothetical) or how did you handle it (if it's actually happened)?
I'll go first:
I had an amazing first-cuddle experience with a very reliable cuddler. And we seemed to hit it off great this time around. But at some point, I noticed something different and asked what was wrong. At first, they seemed extremely surprised I even caught the energy change, but once we both acknowledged it, we fond ourselves in very deep places emotionally. As it turns out, we were both coming to the session with a bit of emotional strain, but had also, at different points, misread each others energy, which made both of us more self-conscious than I think we originally anticipated.
I still think it was a great cuddle experience, and we were able to communicate some of our anxiety and emotional strains. I also learned that my energy at one point was "invasive" (I always ask for candid and unfiltered feedback). This really shocked and saddened me because I genuinely wanted to do everything possible to create the most safe, comfortable, and enjoyable experience. But, clearly, I had failed to accomplish that.
I am extremely grateful for their honesty, as it taught me to more carefully control my facial expressions, body language, and perhaps how I conduct myself. But now I'm wanting to open additional dialogue in order to be a better cuddler and cuddle-partner for this particular person. I also want to maintain a friendly relationship that would keep future sessions on the table.
So, in my case, or in your own experience, or in a hypothetical situation, how should someone address (in the moment or after a session) when things went less than optimally? How could someone best open dialogue, discuss and hash out the positive and negative experiences, and, perhaps most importantly, keep the door open to future cuddling?