The hardest thing for me, which made me hesitate actively using the site a very long time, was trying to convey a need for platonic touch that is not being provided by a relatively happy marriage. I don't want to cheat, but what does it say when a man who is affection starved reaches out because he is married to someone who does not like to be overly touched, is very germaphobic, and is religiously clinical about that which should be spontaneous? Is it normal not to consummate a marriage until night five of the honeymoon? And that was twenty years ago. The voices remind me that I've fought it off this long and accuse me of being evil for even being here. Yet now knowing that much of the affection I've received was hesitantly given out of a feeling of obligation, I no longer expect it or seek it. Still I feel like a cad for trying to fill a void. I feel like being honest on my profile is the only way to go but it's also why I haven't cuddled. Feel free to be harsh with your comments.