What are Questions you Ask during your first in-person cuddle session?

NicoSnuggs

I understand that these questions will be different depending on who you are cuddling, how long you have been chatting online, and if you video-chatted or met in public before the cuddle session.

That being said, what in general are some good questions that you like to ask when meeting a cuddle Pro or enthusiast in-person for the first time?

DaringSprinter

"Do you need a photo for your security person?" is usually a good one.

No matter how long you've chatted, making sure someone outside the cuddle has a current photo of who you're with is a pretty sane move.

cuddleNsqueeze

@DaringSprinter, this is not the same but.. I use to ask to see his Drivers License when I'd go on a date with someone I met online, just to confirm their name and age, and I would text that to my sister. I haven't done that with Cuddled though, I feel this situation is more about privacy... but when I first started as a Pro I would ask for a photo before meeting and would send it to my sister... nowadays I at least send her the address, just in case.

TheFunCartel

Do you like shows that John Walsh does and have you ever been in the spotlight on any of his episodes?

DaringSprinter

@cuddle4health: 👍🏽

Safety questions! They're good ones when meeting someone from the internet for the first time.

cuddleNsqueeze

I always ask if they are comfortable and if they have done this before... it gives me an idea of what to expect and how easily we can dive into cuddling or if we need to take it slow.

Sideon

1. Socks or blanket for potentially cold toesies?
2. Water with or without lemon/cucumber/lime slice?
3. Okay to use words and not make assumptions about positions, temperature, music/silence, talking/not talking, etc?
4. Which House do you belong to at Hogwarts?
5. Star Wars or Star Trek?

For starters.

TheFunCartel

Do you like fava beans? Fff-fff-ffft

ahhh, with a smooth cianti..

cuddles_ndream

What’s your favorite color 👀

“What brought you to the cuddle world?”

Is my go-to conversation starter.

happybear

I had some ask me that she hopes not to end up as a bag of hair and box of teeth, we cuddled for 6 hours and laughed about it at the end 😊😜

Nature_Lover_

@FunCartel 🤣🤣🤣🤣

While I don’t have a script and prefer more of an organic flow to conversation and connection asking about boundaries, comfort level, needs, expectations and anything pertaining to safety is always ideal.

JoyfulHeart

I ask a meta-question:

"Do you believe that the question, 'Does pineapple belong on pizza," can be answered correctly in only one way?"

If they are unable to see that the answer depends on whether the person asked LIKES pineapple on their pizza, then I hesitate to cuddle with them.

Morpheus

I always ask a new cuddle partner if there’s anywhere they don’t want to be touched.

@JoyfulHeart pineapple is good on anything and everything.

quixotic_life

Pretty sure the first thing I said to my first cuddler upon seeing him in person, and while walking towards him, was something like, "Hi, this is me, I made it! Can we please hug now?" and dropped my bags on the floor.

My latest (who traveled here but kept getting delayed) was similar... something like, "Yay, it's nice to finally see you in person! Can we hug now?'

All the other stuff (safety, preferences, etc.) gets covered prior to ever meeting...

@happybear "bag of hair and box of teeth" 🤣 I had a similar convo, that started with, "Whoa, that's a lots of property, with a lot of trees. How about we stick to places a bit more public?"

desi_babe

Mine aren't nearly as fun as everyone else's, but
1. Do you prefer touch to be soft, firm, or a combination?
2. Are there places you prefer not to be touched?
3. What type of music do you prefer?
4. I ask "is it okay if I _______" or "is this okay" a lot as well

notmymichael

I like the idea that we have an introductory FaceTime chat before meeting. Make sure we both pass the vibe-check, as the kids say.

LorraineMorgan

I ask them why they are looking to be cuddled and I explain why I am too, so we both get to understand that it's purely for a comforting and platonic experience during the time we spend together.