Or is everyone just fishing for dates and hookups masquerading as cuddlers...
Yes, I want to cuddle and I have done.
There are a few people who have not grasped the true nature of the site - which is cuddling - but the vast majority are genuine cuddlers.
The ones fishing for dates and hookups don't last long.
At all.
This isn't Craigslist. This isn't Tinder. This isn't Hook-Ups-R-Us. This isn't a side gig for OF.
Each and every offender get shown the door. Quickly.
Thank you for clarifying. 🙏
I am here for the cuddles. I don’t yet have any enthusiast platonic cuddle buddies, but that is exclusively why I am here.
@Charlie_Bear me too
After you actually get to cuddle you will realize the answer is YES!!! Although there is some of what you mention but then that’s up to each individual if that’s ok or not.
After you wade thru the people looking for sex and the pot-stirrers who want to pointlessly perpetually parse, there are some good cuddlers to be found. PM me @jenessence if you want advice on how to separate the ore from the slag.
@achetocuddle haha omgosh. I see myself as Iron but I hope to become copper soon. I aspire to be diamond on this Christian Minecraft server.
I’m sorry, I play way too many video games.
@Charlie_Bear lol!!! I was just about to say “I suddenly feel like playing minecraft” 🤣🤣
There are @Jenessence , however there are unfortunately still folks looking for more . Everyone has a screening process, and sometimes its luck of the draw but there are def ones here who want to cuddle and that's all.
Also one thing to consider , your profile mentions some rather specific types of people who you are looking to be contacted by and preferences for cuddling . I support your right to have preferences, just am pointing out that the less narrow your criteria, the more you increase your chances of finding someone who might be a good cuddle friend
@Sheena123 hahaha yep after reading @achetocuddle comment I did too 😂
@Charlie_Bear Lol. I suspect you are well on your way to becoming precious (metal). So kind of you to explain the video game reference to those of us that are not with it. Lol.
@Jenessence It can take time to find a genuine cuddler, but it should pay off.
Yes, I would say so. I have met so many terrific people here, so glad I found this site. I have been contacted by a few that I could tell was looking for more but by the time I read there message they were already banned.
I would say there are less people who want to cuddle on here, and more people who want to cuddle in person. 😋
@achetocuddle thank you. I dm'ed you. @pmvines thanks. Yes I do have a few preferences. I'm sure the right alignment will come.
Yes! Most of us do at least, some just want to talk, or hang out or they’re here because they’re curious but maybe not ready to meet anyone yet. ❤️🥰
~ Sunset Snuggles
@Jenessence I'm speaking from the perspective of an older man. We live in a cynical world, so it's not shocking that you should ask this question. But it's this cynical world that makes such a website necessary. I imagine a mother holding her baby closely, and that bonding is primal and essential to connecting. The society we live in sells things with sex and then turns around to make us feel guilty for wanting sex. But the fundamental closeness that generates healing oxytocin is something that we get shamed and ridiculed for needing, particularly if we are men. There are lots of us older men here, who know the pitfalls and emptiness of sexual entanglements, but feel the need for human contact, even if we have good relationships with friends. Cuddling feels good and clean and safe. It's not like older men stop feeling sexual but I think we learn restraint and what's important. So definitely I know people here are sincere about cuddling. *And she's not even here anymore 😂
It's sad that people have to keep asking if this site is genuine.
@UCpaaHVg6u0
"We live in a cynical world, so it's not shocking that you should ask this question."
I sincerely have to disagree with this. I think the world is subjective and people place objective perspectives in conversation as cynical creating influence for this belief. Spreading a cynical ideology is infectious specifically those that adhere to the, "status quo." Do you think people are cynical when they go on hikes? Meditate? Allow the ebb and flow of perception after a few books? To say the world is cynical is just incorrect, in my opinion. That's basically saying we've all subscribed to this idea the world is bad and as you put it, oxytocin is the only escape. In doing so, you're just creating an echo chamber regardless how you justify it. The world isn't life.
@Saysoh Whoa, we can leave ageism out of it. Edit: Thank you.
Is copper a higher end metal in minecraft?
I like how y'all make me think hard. Thank goodness most people are not as cynical as I am. I make sure to leave that behind when I post here and I mostly spare individuals I talk to here and IRL
I appreciate this thread.
@SunsetSnuggles
Nevermind. Calling someone, "Old Timer," is a thing is Texas. It's actually a sign of respect.
@Saysoh The OP was asking if cuddling is a real thing or just a hook up. I think she was suggesting something cynical. The saying "sex sells" is not an empty phrase. Sex is used to sell things. I find that to be cynical. That doesn't mean that everybody and everything is cynical. It refers to a dominant ideology though. If sex really does sell things, then why? I think many people are dissatisfied with their inner lives, and try to compensate with materialism, consumerism, pornography, drugs, sex,... I think cuddling brings us back to an essential state of being. Oxytocin is involved, but it doesn't act alone. We are cuddling with another human, feeling warmth, feeling satisfied with just the state of human companionship in the now. I brought up that older men are often lonely. Maybe at your age you're not seeing that yet. As a demographic, loneliness among older men is a real thing. I wasn't sure I wanted to respond to your comment to me because frankly trying to parse what you were saying was giving me a headache. That could just be my old brain cells not keeping up with your pace, so forgive me for that.
That's all fair and I appreciate your comment regarding cuddling. I was more focused on the, "we live in a cynical world," portion. Not all of us are cynical. Not all of us distrust people and by definition, that's what, "cynical," means and really wanted to explore more of that with you. Why is the world cynical? Why is that a standard? I'm not attacking you., just curious of your perspective.
"Maybe at your age you're not seeing that yet."
Kind of snarky and assuming without having a conversation with me, which I'm 100% down to have just to listen to your perspective. I do think about lonliness. I'm 45, never married, no kids. I just wanted to build the portfolio and have a nice title on a business card. I'm aware lonliness is a real thing, but just because I'm younger than you, doesn't mean I don't understand.
@Saysoh It was snarky, and uncalled for. Yeah, I guess that I felt defensive. You were just reaching out to me. I apologize. I see this site as a refuge. I have always felt an overwhelming cynicism coming from the world at large. I struggled with alcoholism and drugs early on, and put it down decades ago, yet still felt the void. I struggled with unhealthy relationships with women. I started to connect with people who were not feeling so lonely and cynical only in recent years. It's a process to learn to trust and to feel human enough to accept another and be accepted. I guess that's what we are here for.
I just wanted to comment that I don't think loneliness has any age requirements. Loneliness is simply a lack of connection, which can be experienced at any age. I was lonely through most of my childhood, growing up in a very disconnected family structure. Young adults can be lonely when moving out and trying to build their own new life. It can be lonely to stay single and without children as all your friends get married and start building their own family. It can be lonely to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't connect with you. It can be lonely getting older and having experienced these things for longer or as you start to lose your close friends and partner (though loss knows no age either; I lost a close friend when I was only 29). It's why cuddling is so powerful and needed. We all experience loneliness to some degree and understand the pain involved in having a lack of connection. 💜🤗
@ubergigglefritz Your point is valid but in making it I can't help but notice that you seem to obscure that there is a process occurring when people age, where they almost all seem to lose connections. That was the point I was trying to make.
@ubergigglefritz @UCpaaHVg6u0 Sorry to butt in on your conversation but I just wanted to comment on how polite and respectful you both have been in expressing your views and responding to each other.
Your posts above are a model of what civil discourse should look - state your opinion without disparaging anyone, respond to someone else’s comment by sharing your perspective even if it differs, and acknowledging common ground and elaborating on points of difference without anyone getting offended.
Thank you both for sharing your opinions (I found myself agreeing with both of you even when you expressed different ideas) and for being the respectful genuine people you are!