I’ve cuddled about a dozen guys from this site in not quite four years plus one more at the recent picnic. Of those dozen, there are four I would cuddle a second time (and have in two of those cases). The rest were boundary pushers I would not give a second chance and a couple I ended up reporting for doing things like suggesting nude cuddling. In addition, there are at least two guys I met but did not cuddle because they were already pushing boundaries, like trying to kiss me. All of this after I clearly explained I was getting a bit frustrated because I kept meeting guys who were clearly looking for more than platonic cuddling.
Point being: yes, some guys do get women who answer their messages, some of those conversations lead to cuddling, and some of them blow it for themselves and the guys coming after them by not abiding by the rules to which they agree.
@Babichev - Yes, I believe they answer some messages (otherwise I'm not sure what they're here for), but it seems like hundreds of guys are competing for the attention from a few enthusiast females that exist on the site. People sometimes complain about there being pros who charge money, but I think if it weren't for them, most guys wouldn't get cuddles at all. It's easy to pick up a side hustle and make $200.
I also will never understand why guys push boundaries. Part of the enjoyment is knowing that there is mutual consent. How can you enjoy being a creep?
@Mike403 - excellent question.
As a massage therapist I was good at avoiding encounters with creeps through good screening and acting hyper professionally if anyone displayed the least hint of non-platonic intentions, but I still got a few over the years. The newer, younger women, though, got it a lot more precisely because they were young and new and easier to intimidate. Would it make a difference to these guys if they realized exactly how much upset they caused these young women? Probably not.
In recent years I started wanting to sit down with these guys and ask them really pointed questions. Why are you doing this? Do you realize how much harm you are doing? Do you realize some of these (usually young) women end up seriously traumatized? For what? You know these are licensed massage therapists, not sex workers. I really wanted to hear what they had to say. I never did it, though.
I loved the scene in the movie Thelma and Louise where they pull over and confront the truck driver who has been harassing them on the highway. He thinks he’s finally going to get lucky. Instead, they confront him about what he’s been doing. “We think you have really bad manners. Yeah, what is that thing you do with your tongue?” And then they blow up his truck, leaving him stranded in the middle of the desert. Every one of these guys should have something like that happen to them, maybe it will make them think a bit about how they treat women or even people in general, because if they are that much of a jerk to women, they are probably a jerk to other men, too.
I guess this is wandering a bit off topic but not entirely. This is, unfortunately, a contributing factor to why men and women both can have a hard time finding a good cuddle buddy. When you find it, it’s golden.