I’m VERY big on mood lighting, oil diffuser if a client has no allergies, and calming music, almost like a spa setting. Do you guys do this as well? What do your clients prefer?
Good ambience is nice, but I don't notice it that much. I'm with a real live person that is interesting and wants to cuddle. I'm pretty engrossed in that.
Ambience always matters. I should put that I am an admirer of Cuddling Feng Shui in my profile.
Yes!! All the way spa vibes. I usually like to use lavender, sage, or lemongrass essential oils, but occasionally my house might smell like CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIES while I bake. I play meditation music too. Mood lighting is imperative. Soft blanket is a must and room temp. regulation. Can people post photos of their spaces? I'm curious to see everyone's vibes.
Yeah , less about the room and more about the company
I sleep better if I am in a nice hotel with fresh paint in a safe neighborhood than a flop house with peeling paint and cockroaches in a high crime area, so ambience always matters. Cuddling cribs add a touch that the person cares about your experience which immediately makes me feel cared for. It can also be something as small as freshly laundered sheets. It is not essential, but the message a cuddling area with extra touches sends is “I care and you are not being taken for granted.”
It's important, but its not that important. For example, how the person handles the first two or three seconds of the acquaintanceship is more significant than ambience.
The best ambience is one you don't notice. You just feel comfortable and welcome without knowing why.
The ambience in the room is only 50% of the ambience component. Other features of the location, such as the spaces you pass through on the way to the room and the clothing of professional, are also important.
A significant part of the room ambience is created by stuff you can't change, like the height of the ceiling. The most important single thing you can do to create the right feeling is choose the right room.
The next most important thing is probably lighting, as the OP implies.
I don't really understand why people play music during cuddling, it's just weird. There's so much to listen to already, and so much sensory input, the last thing you need is more. I know it's not a perfect analogy but when you're at a concert you don't put on headphones and listen to different music. Or play tennis while you're driving.
I'm not allegeric but oil diffusers often give me a headache. I think it depends on the quality of the oil but I'm not sure: I suspect cheaper oils are bulked out by additives and they are what cause the problem.
Just thinking about it, perhaps the most important aspect of ambience is the breathing rate of the other person. If we define ambience to be strictly the physical characteristics of the place, then outside in the woods is definitely best. The more you can make the room feel like that the happier I'll be. Anything that makes it feel like inside is therefore not ideal. However, I cuddled in a deeply inside room recently - no windows, low ceiling - and the ambience was great. I think it was to do with the plethora of soft places where you could recline. The lighting was low and good too. Oh, and practical convenience. Obvious and convenient places to put my shoes and phone and water and so on.
@CuddleDuncan the reason I put on meditation music is because many people (especially new people), feel deeply uncomfortable around silence with a stranger but also don't necessarily want to talk. I find that soft unintuitive sound is often helpful to aleviate that anxiety. But of course, to each their own. There are plenty of sounds that I would also find distracting.
Ambiance is important. I have had great cuddles with two different pros who host in their homes and they both really put in the time and effort to create a perfect cuddle environment (lighting, essential oil diffuser or scented candle, music, temperature, etc). However, I have also had fantastic outdoor cuddles on a blanket in a park even when the temperature was a little warmer than we would have preferred.
I’ve had many blissful cuddles that were purely about relaxation and connection. I’ve had other cuddles, with certain cuddle partners, that were much deeper and more emotional because of things going on in my life that they were able to help me work through. I guess what I am saying is while ambiance is important, what constitutes “great ambiance” is situational.
I do really like cuddling outside too. I'm trying to maximize this possibility with cuddlers as I live near the ocean and a bird sanctuary, but it's actually been hard to find people who want to do it because it's a bigger time commitment and it feels less private even though there's usually nobody out there. I found the sound of the outdoors to be very soothing too.
@MxSmith - you just hit all my buttons. I am a cyclist and I love the beach and the sound of the ocean. Cuddles in nature are amazing! I know they feel less private because of the chance of someone walking by but as long as both cuddle partners are comfortable with that, it is an awesome experience.
@JohnR1972 ohhh. A cyclist who loves the beach and nature. You would hate my neighborhood
@MxSmith - OK, I am now officially jealous 😉