Wish there were such things as "cuddle shops". They'd be like coffee shops but where you could go to get a quick boost of happiness. I feel great after cuddling but I've noticed the couple days after I feel more down/lonely.
@KamikaziNinja86 … maybe you are on to something. Combine cuddle, coffee and maybe kittens and or puppies and that would be awesome!
I read about something like this which they have in Japan? https://www.alittlebithuman.com/inside-the-world-of-japanese-cuddle-cafes-sweet-or-sad/
If i had the dough i would back that idea up, we need places like that 😮
Human societies once existed in regular cuddle environments. For proof of this, look no further than our primate cousins.
Wanting to cuddle stems for a need to satisfy that primal craving of touch.
Humans, at the same time, are extremely adaptable. So if you don't cuddle for a long time, you get used to it and don't really know what you are missing anymore.
So, when you experience that one-off cuddle, while it may feel good in the short term, you are reminded of what you are lacking, hence the unhappiness in the long term.
I hate to throw cold water on a great idea, but I have serious doubts about whether that would work, at least in the U.S. Politicians who know nothing about the subject (which isn't all that unusual), would have a knee jerk reaction: "Prostitution! Shut it down."
A cuddle shop would be amazing! Oxytocin drop is very much a thing unfortunately. The bonding hormone surges when we get cuddly, leaving most feeling pretty good for a day or two, and then it can crash. Self care and being kind and easy to yourself can help
It would be neat if coffee shops allowed professional cuddle therapists to hang out to snuggle patrons. I picture people with a little sign saying "need a cuddle while you sip? come on over!"
Not that I've ever been, but I hear Asian Massage Parlor therapists take requests. I'm sure they'll be happy to give you a nice long hug, for a small fee, of course.
. . . or get a Tshirt that says, "Ask me for a hug. - really," and put it on anytime you need one. Might get free hugs.
. . . and, CC should have PDF flyers people can print and post at schools, libraries, senior centers, laundromats parks, etc. to increase cuddlers in their area.
@JohnfromVienna - what’s stopping you from making your own flyers?
@JohnfromVienna err ... they do ....
https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/site/print
@KamikaziNinja86 interesting post 👍. It reminded me of the table games in Vegas where they have massage people come right to the table while you play !
@MCcuddles2 - I think you nailed it. I had been touch deprived for way too long before finding this site last August. When I began cuddling, it was instantly enjoyable but it left me emotionally confused for a couple of months as it awoke parts of me that had been so long buried that I had forgotten about them. Last fall I lost my ability to focus and get stuff done as I started really feeling emotions again.
Thankfully I found balance, worked through some painful memories, and am now feeling better than I have in many years. Cuddling has been an important and ongoing part of my journey to better understand myself and my need for platonic, physical connection with others.
