I really like this short video explaining the concept of Unconditional Positive Regard, as part of an approach to counseling (but could be applied to other professions, relationships, and parenting):
From the video:
Unconditional Positive Regard
- Acceptance
- Non-possessive warmth
- Respect
- Prizing
- Affirming
- Non-judgment
"People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be."
Everyone has their own reasons for everything they do.
A counsellor's own values and judgments can sneak in if they aren't careful, leading to assumptions (and "false empathy").
It is not enough to feel positive regard, it must be communicated through warmth in touch, facial expression, and words.