The notion that cuddling or physical affection can be desirable when one is in a more upset mental state is certainly nothing new... think about the commonplace practice of people taking dates to horror movies just so people can hold each other when scared for instance. The cathartic or soothing aspect to cuddling is something I certainly appreciate, and if I had to pick my perfect state of mind in which to cuddle, it would probably be one of an abstract melancholy or generalized dread... about which I could take no action but simply find escape and release emotionally via closeness with another.
I wonder the extent to which it is desirable, however, to bring "intentional negative emotional states" into cuddling sessions. Certainly, watching a sad or scary movie to cuddle to can be a fun experience if both agree, but is it odd or counterproductive for someone to try to bring up their actual trauma or anxieties intentionally before or during cuddling? I primarily only cuddle with professionals, and I'd also be curious what they might think of this notion, if it's something they've encountered or might expect as a part of the service?
What are folks' thoughts on this topic ❤️❤️❤️❤️🥲🥲🥲🥲?