I want someone that I can talk with and share things with and also cuddle when things are good or suck or my anxiety is high. I don't want pressured for sex. I get sex is a big thing and desire but I just want a friend to connect and cuddle with.
You're in the right place. I suggest searching for group cuddles near you (or not so near you, if necessary). There is an amazing community, out there.
~ Sunset Snuggles
Most guys I've meet from here have pressured me for sex. I don't understand how it's so hard to just be friends!
I hope you find someone, Peony. It's hard to find someone to talk to, hold up, or be there for you in your time of need. Having a good friend is amazing. 😊🤗
That's the goal
@Peony84 you are in the BEST community for your goals!!!!
@Peony84 Sorry for your struggles. The way I see it, Many guys, especially immature guys, see sex as some form of validation and so jump on every chance they get. I’ve struggled a lot with sex and relationships, and googling for help, there is a lot of unfortunate advice out there. A lot of sources imply you can’t be very upfront and somehow have to “trick” girls into agreeing to have sex with you, hence the saying they just want to be friends, just want to watch a movie, etc. This is only a rough gist of the problem and there are other layers to it that I’m sure I didn’t cover.
Everyone in here who pressured you for sex should be reported, and hopefully banned.
There are decent guys on here who are honest about their intentions. @SunsetSnuggles has a good vetting process, maybe you can PM her for help.
Or maybe just cuddle with women?
@Peony84 I'm really sorry to hear of your troubles. It's not just you, it's a serious and widespread problem here.
Don't give the benefit of the doubt, it's very rarely worth it. Report and Block at the drop of a hat.
Looking at your profile, it might be worth adding a sentence or two about being very strictly platonic, that might help a little. Also the first thing you say is 'fun' and that word is frequently used as a euphemism for sex by sex workers pretending to be cuddlers, so I would suggest changing it. Again, I doubt it will help much but there's no harm in trying.
@CuddleDuncan Thank you so much for your kids words and suggestions. It's nice to have another input on my profile with suggestions.
@sunnysideup 🤗 Thank you!
@Peony84 posted: "Most guys I've meet from here have pressured me for sex." How fast do you meet them in person? I always prefer to get to know someone through PM's, here, first. Then meet for coffee. Then schedule a public cuddle like in a park.
If people have other intentions, it usually becomes apparent long before cuddling happens. They won't waste their time talking about your interests or sharing about their lives. You can tell how they direct the PM's, if they insist on getting your phone number, if they don't want to talk about their work or hobbies but just keep asking to meet. Those who are truly interested in friendship will enjoy getting to know you and not pressure at any point. The others will fall off the map.
Best of luck, and, as Sunny said, you can PM anytime! 😊
@Peony84 You are not alone! Many of us want what you are looking for, and also have a difficult time finding it. I've been regularly active on here for a couple of years now, and have only met a few people. I spend that time reading, participating, fine-tuning my profile, developing my own sense of confidence with regards to what I'm looking for... all ready for when those gems pop up on my area! With all that under my belt, it's been much easier for me to spot the ones that aren't going to be a good match for me, and engage the ones that have that potential!
@SunsetSnuggles Well said - I already take some time and precautions regarding talking to and meeting people. I'm also discovering that the cuddle dynamic is more convoluted than I previously imagined. As well as noting some people have less than platonic intentions. I was aware of the possibility but it's disheartening to say the least.
At the moment, I'm going down the rabbit hole on these boards and researching cuddle courses another mod recommended - thanks @Charlie_Bear!
So many things to consider in regard to choosing a cuddle partner but I am ever hopeful as always and appreciate the advice/opinions of members here 😊
Report anyone who even asks for sex. They are on the wrong site. There isn't a shortage of places to go if that's what they're looking for.
💯 @Peony84
@Peony84
I wish I was closer to you. I don't even have the mental or emotional capacity for sex at the moment (or anymore). I just wish I had someone to just cuddle and talk with on a regular basis. The pros fill the need but I would love to find an enthusiast to save on the wallet a bit...lol
I don't understand why men always seem to have to 'go there'. I evolved past that stage a long time ago
@Calibrate715 Intentions can absolutely be convoluted. Keep heart though, platonic cuddles are real and you just have to hold out for them, much like a meaningful relationship over hook-ups. I've really been enjoying seeing you enter this community, and I wish you the very best! 🤗
@Calibrate715 🤗 yay I’m so happy to hear it!
@Peony84 Hang in there. The people you are looking for are out there, it can just take some time to find them.
@SunsetSnuggles (2nd post) & @xelda Agreed!!
Your posts both absolutely speak to my experience ^^ Excellent advice.
@EarthlyAngel003 🤗🫶🏼
@SunsetSnuggles thank you💕