Is squeezing / pressing considered sexual ?

[Deleted User]sjay2020 (deleted user)
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Hey All,
I am new to cuddling and I always wondered if squeezing / pressing a cuddlers chest is considered sexual ? Or it depends on the cuddler ? should I take her consent before I attempt to do that or is she going to walk away the moment she hears that ? Appreciate any advice / suggestions. TIA.

Jay.

Comments

  • Lisa123Lisa123
    edited February 2023

    Your hands should definitely NOT be on her chest.. especially squeezing. Now if you're talking about a hug that squeezes the two of you together, that's very different.

  • [Deleted User]sjay2020 (deleted user)

    So, our bodies could press against each other ( including any erection), but hands should not squeeze.

  • tacpmurgtacpmurg
    edited February 2023

    Why yes, squeezing into each other with an erection IS sexual, thanks for asking.

    Mods this one right here please!

    Maybe dont do that during a session. Though im sure pros have to deal with it all the time and each have their own solutions for it such as repositioning so you are facing away.

  • pmvinespmvines
    edited February 2023

    Are we expected to assume that this is a legit question that you genuinely don't know the answer to and not trolling ? You are 43 and have been on the site 4 years now . I am having a difficult time taking your question seriously

  • Lisa123Lisa123

    @pmvines Like I used to be told as a kid, "This is why we can't have nice things."

  • tacpmurgtacpmurg
    edited February 2023

    @pmvines is touching each other in the no no places sexual if we are cuddling? 🙄🙄🙄

    Religious folk hate(love?) this one little loophole.

  • RezzRezz


    If you value your manhood don't touch any woman's chest or anywhere else for that matter without consent.

  • cudbud64cudbud64

    If a person who wasn't your doctor was touching your undercarriage, would you find that platonic?

  • [Deleted User]emotionalsponge (deleted user)
    edited February 2023

    If you are hugging from the front and she wants a tight close cuddle, that's fine.
    If you are hugging from the back, just be aware and careful of where your arms and hands are.
    Ask her if she is okay with feeling an erection, if not you can still hug tightly and angle your body slightly so that you're not pressing against her.

    Best thing for me has been to just focus on holding her hand and rubbing it, or rubbing her back, or something like that that's not sexual and it will sometimes help the erection go away, if that's a problem.

    Communication is very important.

    How about you be responsible for your own body and erection and DON'T make anyone feel obligated or somehow responsible for YOUR issue, @emotionalsponge . Note, your comment was flagged by Pros, and rightly so. [-Sid]

  • Hamtaro1Hamtaro1

    @sjay2020 From the way you are describing the kind of experience you would like you just want to go to a strip club or hire an escort. The type of contact you would like is past the rules listed on Cuddle Comfort.

    From my own experience I've laid my head on my cuddlers chest male or female, but I'm not kissing, rubbing, or sucking on their chest. If they are a male I may ask to scratch their chest.

    I'm taking this seriously since I know how it feels to be inexperienced with contact with women.

  • Lisa123Lisa123
    edited February 2023

    Let's be VERY clear here.

    DO NOT PRESS YOUR ERECTION AGAINST ANYONE YOU ARE CUDDLING FROM HERE. THERE IS NOTHING PLATONIC ABOUT THAT

    Every word of this. [-Sid]

  • pmvinespmvines
    edited February 2023

    OP is in his 40s and joined site in 2019, so I'm certain he knows the answer to this . He is obviously baiting.

  • SideonSideon

    @sjay2020 - consent is everything on this site. EVERYTHING. If you don't have consent, there is no touching, no doing, nothing. The community has rightly called you out here. I have nothing else to add other than KEEP IT PLATONIC.

  • stormydaycuddlestormydaycuddle Mod

  • SideonSideon

    Locking this up. Good grief.

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