Does this site actually work?

This is my second time back. I talked to one man on here for several days. Nothing came of it. He kept saying we should get together. He initiated the contact. But seemed to be just playing some kind of game. Any tips?

irene

hi. i'm feeling like guys just want to chat on here so now treating it like a messenger service and not really expecting to meet anyone any more. would've been nice to find a cuddle buddy or two but i'm not hopeful.

i do wonder if some men expect more than a cuddle and so when they don't get the vibe that you're up for anything more than that they lose interest?

4cuddles

Hey u guys.

Think its all of the things you've both mentioned. Some people may also be too anxious about meeting up just for cuddles, meeting a stranger, in need for connection but not able to go past their anxieties or too scared to make the connection real, when it's crunch time. Shame when there are not able to come out right to say this.

Maintaining just the online chats could also give a sense of connection without really putting one self out there.

Don't lose hope though, not that I've given much reasons not too.:). Though this site seems to developing daily.

pmvines

I would love to find a cuddle buddy but nobody really in my area. Mostly just trying to connect with some folks and maybe it will pay off in the long run

geekcat9215

I'm just not very hopeful because there aren't many people near me.

@mrf1971 yet another member who starts a thread and then poof, their profile is deleted only a couple hours later lol

TacticalTeam

A couple of hours seems to be the average attention span lol.

funandadventure

YES YES YES but you do need to hang around for more than a couple of hours.
John and his trees, Auckland NZ.

If you don't want to pay, this site isn't the best. If you are willing to pay and in the right market, this site is great. If you want a relationship, I suggest you try a dating site. There are cuddlers on here that charge for things other than cuddling like phone conversations and outtings, if you're looking for that and are willing to pay, I suggest you go to rentafriend.com those girls charge a fraction of what the pros on this site charge. The average fee on there is $20 an hour for a social outting. The two girls I met on there didn't even charge me in the end.

@Morpheus
I met a girl on that site I took out to watch a movie and she waived the fee. I just paid for her ticket and meal. For non cuddling rent a friend is better than this site. I mean we still cuddled a bit during the movie so that was nice too.

Zionscalling

Been a member since November 2014, and I've met 4 people through this site living in San Diego and Atlanta. Abundance of users though non-active and constantly getting denied because they say: "Cuddling you will be like cuddling a child."(Frustrating doesn't do my feelings justice.) Quite frankly, I'm not sure why I'm on this site.

pmvines

Whether I find a cuddle friend or not, I am just glad to know the folks on here. Some of them I have a pretty decent connection with and it feels good to have something to do when I have spare time!! I may not have everything in common with everyone on here but I feel everybody on here is a truly good person and I feel like I am part of something bigger than just me.

Thanks for all the comments! I guess I'm just confused because this guy took the time to reach out and say let's make this happen and them stalled. He even said he's met several people on here that he regularly cuddles with. I just felt a little. Played. Lol. And he shows up at the top of the list every time I get on here. It is just annoying. Oh well. I don't really have the money to pay someone to cuddle but it sounds like a good idea if you can afford it.

angela10

I think the purpose and concept of the site advocates is great but it really depends on how the members use it.  It hasn't been successful for me to find a cuddle buddy but I love reading and participating on these topical discussions.  I have learned a lot from everyone's experience and wisdom.

irene

that's a shame @zionscalling
i have 4 kids and would actually feel more comfortable cuddling children. did think about offering my services for newborns who need cuddles but i'm a smoker so decided it wouldn't be in their best interests, but thinking about doihng this has motivated me to cut down and some days i don't smoke at all so i think i'll be a quitter soon.

I definitely agree regarding the community on here. I do enjoy that and the message boards.

onehalf

I agree that this is a great idea and great community sharing their experiences.
Morpheus, thanks for posting about rentafriend.com -- that is a really cool site, as well.
Also, I have been on this site for three months or so and have yet to find a single cuddle buddy.  Most of my messages go unanswered -- I did get one response and then radio silence again.  I hate to keep messaging and be a pest, so I just let it go if I get no response. Anyone have suggestions?  Check out my profile and let me know.
Thanks!

alexb2

Does it work? In my experience most women  log on once to have a look and never come back. I often wonder why they ignore any messages sent and never log on again. Those that do not come back never look at my profile when i message them. I would be curios if someone messaged me, but those women have no interest in coming back, even to check messages.

I have had one really good chat, and one brief chat so far. I like the site and concept, so i do keep coming back. I think your experience with the site would improve if you are in  a big city. In the UK this site is much quieter outside of London, where I live.

I think I spoke to soon...this guys seems really nice that I've been talking to on here.

Yea sounds like this isn't for you

Well, it took me ten months to find my first cuddle buddy, and I didn't find them on this site - I found them through Reddit (the Cuddle Buddies page). Having said that, at the time I was wary and only willing to cuddle women, so that restricted my options dramatically. Now I'm open to cuddling all genders, it's easier to find a cuddle buddy... but still takes time, perseverance, and the willingness to take initiative by messaging a lot of people. I think you'll find the majority won't reply but if you send out a lot of messages, you will get at least some response - and hopefully get to meet a few people.

I also started a FB group for cuddling and for some reason a lot more people are on my local FB group than this website. I think it's because it's less work and they don't have to create a profile. However, I do mention this website in my FB group, so some people have found this website and created profiles after I shared about Cuddle Comfort. I've noticed an increase in local cuddlers on here since I started my group, and I think it's because I've been spreading the word.

I went of lf FB for a break this year. But I bet that is a good place as well. I may get on again. I'm just paranoid and weary...I had some not so great experiences but then...I've met good people on the internet too. I met one guy 14 years ago and we are still friends.

lovelyday43

Ive met people to cuddle with on here. At first i wasnt really hopeful but its been cool so far. I live near DC so maybe living near a larger liberal city helps. Maybe try messaging someone thats not local and plan a cuddle session at a halfway point.

I have come across a few women who chatted with me for a bit. The first stopped talking to me when she found out I am shorter than her, the second, just stopped messaging when the subject of cuddling came up. Two people is too small of a number to make any conclusion from, even though there are about six profiles, meeting my search settings, that had users who have been online in the last three months.

Yes the site works but for me most(not all) people I message don't talk back. Messaged 7 people and nothing

BenMac

Worth it or not? Honestly, I have only met with one person from here. With maybe a hand full of short conversations. Longer with people further, or to far away to make meeting reasonable. Many more silent profiles than active within 100 miles. Whether it is because they are inactive, or simply were not interested.

That said, I do enjoy reading, and participating in these conversations every now and then.

Worth it? For what I am searching for, nope. For finding things I wasn't expecting, yep.

pmvines

It keeps me reasonably entertained.

I had my first cuddle experience. It was a nightmare. I made a post in the forum about it. Live and learn.

Yikes

Sorry to hear that Mrf1971! I actually had a bad experience with an unpaid cuddle buddy I met on here. She turned out to be quite mentally unstable and I even had to call the police after a cuddle session, because she got suicidal. I felt bad for her but I had only known her a few weeks and was pretty overwhelmed.

Thankfully now I have three regular platonic cuddle buddies, two male and one female. One found me through Reddit, one I met through a FB group I created, and the other found me on OkCupid.

Yeah...I will have to be careful. Honestly I may just not be cut out for it. I'm sorry you had that experience. I think that people who are like this guy get close to me because I am so open. I don't judge and I don't set and keep healthy boundaries well. I've had 4 rough years in my life. This didn't help. But...I need to heal and screen people better. And make sure I can handle it.