I am going to attempt to split this thread since it has gone off topic, but that topic is not one I would want to shut down. Please bear with me. Pun intended 😑 ...I'm so sorry 😅
Update: The split comments have been moved here: What are platonic forms of public cuddling?
Also I am trying to stop being needy.
@alz480 I don’t think you can just throw a switch and stop being needy because being needy is a symptom of a lot of things from mild to severe—loneliness, trauma, insecurity etc.—-so you can’t say you will stop. I think you need to be self-aware of your neediness and recognize when neediness is the motivating factor in your thinking. Then you can rethink what you want to say in a more levelheaded manner.