So, someone I've never spoken to sent me a cuddle proposal the other day & I don't know what to think of it? Is this person fake? Why didn't they say hello first?
It may just be due to the way the system is set up. Potential clients have a button saying "Request to book" and when you click it the the diary interface for proposing a date is at the top of the page. If the client is new he may not even have noticed that it is possible to send a message.
thanks, @CuddleDuncan! It looks like the person deactivated their account, I just noticed... so sketchy!
Definitely could be sketchy .... but it could just be somebody new and nervous.
My current impression is that starting with a bare booking request is not necessarily sketchy in itself, but I will defer to the opinion of any experienced professionals who happen along.
I always decline the proposal and say that I need some back and forth conversations before making solid plans. Then I ask my questions: where to cuddle, meet in public first, go over rules and boundaries, travel charges if need be.
I do think the 'Request to Book' needs to be modified in some way. It could definitely be confusing to a new person.
I personally would decline, message them a hello and see how they respond. I've had some get iffy about me declining right away - big red flag. But I've had most of them say more along the lines of "oh, sorry about that, figuring it out" etc
I have started to get that a bit more so I added a little blurb in my profile stating I will not accept a blind request, etc etc. My last one was for an 11pm snuggle with no Hi or anything...ummm negative ghost rider lol. Immediate decline but I do message them stating why I declined and let them know we can chat a bit and look at other dates/times if they're still interested in booking.
Since this site is primarily for booking to cuddle, I accept and politely message them...if it feels weird then I cancel. So many people get angry or irritated over a blind proposal, but a little bit of kindness goes a long way, especially for those that don't know any better. When I first signed up, I sent proposals as I thought that's what I was supposed to do. (I don't message my pizza place before putting in an order, lol.) Once I discovered that there even was a forum, I learned to do better and now all is well.