I’ve seen several profiles from pros who list physical benefits of cuddling from oxytocin release to better sleep and lower blood pressure. There have been numerous threads about the accuracy of these claims and I do not want to rehash all of that. Instead, I want to focus on a different benefit I have experienced over the nearly 2 years I have been on this site - self discovery.
One of my college professors taught me long ago “we see by contrast” and if you only know 1 thing, you really don’t even know that because you don’t have anything to compare it against. For example, being born in the US, by the time I turned 40 I thought I knew about everything there was to know about the U.S. But over the next several years my work took me to 15 other countries across 5 continents and now I see the US very differently because I see how we compare and contrast with other countries.
Cuddling has given me an opportunity to meet, hold, and have meaningful conversations with people I would have probably never interacted with if it weren’t for cuddling. People with very different life experiences than I have had and who see the world through a different lens than my own. Seeing glimpses of other people’s lives has given me new insights about my own life and caused me to re-examine many of my own ideas about the world.
What have you discovered about yourself from cuddling?