The idea of receiving and giving affection in exchange for payment.

[Deleted User]Miles93 (deleted user)
edited September 2023 in Professional Cuddling

After signing up and using CuddleComfort to pay for a total of two cuddling sessions, I think its time I throw my hat down. While I love the idea of having a place where humans can come together to give affection to those who are in need, I vigorously disagree with the idea of receiving and giving affection in exchange for payment.

I just looked today at recent profiles on here that just recently signed up on CuddleComfort. I viewed ten random profiles on the front main page, and all of them had joined dates listed as August or September 2023. They signed up here less than two months ago, and guess what? They're all pro's with pink badges on their profile. I checked and they're charging between $80 and $100 to cuddle you. They don't have any karma, either. Geez, it looks like they literally signed up here with the idea to just earn a quick buck.

The first cuddle session I had was with a "pro cuddler" back in June 2023, and when it came to an end, I was apologized to by her after the timer on her phone went off, yes, seriously, she had a timer on her phone running during the session, because her time was more important than mine. She could care less about the affection I was giving her, and then I was swiftly escorted out of the hotel room by her. I never saw her again, and I left the hotel, checking my account balance and seeing the $120 that was subtracted from my checking balance from Zelle. In my opinion, I didn't feel all that money I gave her was entirely worth it, because I know she enjoyed it a lot less than I did. Afterall, she cuddles with so many men all the time, she has 70 karma, so of course by that time it probably gets old to her. Its literally a part-time job to her.

This suddenly made me think - whatever happened to just cuddling by itself? This website years ago used to be about finding a cuddle buddy near you, meeting them in-person, to cuddle and heal yourself and them. Its no longer about that now. Anyone who signs up here as a "pro," just does it as a side hussle to earn money. I don't mind paying for traveling expenses to get you here to me, but why should I also pay to hold you in my arms, as well? You want both affection and money? Along with CuddleComfort and a few other websites, they are also helping to turn cuddling as we once knew it into a "paid service" now. Really, are you kidding me? Honestly, when you look at it, this website in its entirely is being used as an index now to advertise "cuddling services" - give me a break. Ever since CuddleComfort launched the "pro cuddler" platform, all it seems to have done is turned cuddling into this "paid profession" now. It has hurt people like me who not only want to receive affection, but also want to give affection, as well. You cannot give affection if you're paying money for it. When you book a "pro cuddler," you are booking a one-way street: to receive affection from them in a service as they have advertised on their profile. They could care less about receiving affection by you, they care more about the dough. If any "pro cuddler" says otherwise, then why charge for it? You can't have it both ways.

There isn't any difficulty to become a professional cuddler either - just sign up and fill out a form. Pay $19.99/mo and allow 15% of your earnings be deducted for site maintenance. While it is being referred to as a profession, you don't need any specialized knowledge or training to be a "pro cuddler." It doesn't take any skill. You don't have to prove yourself or show evidence that you're a "pro" at cuddling. So to the "pro cuddlers" out there: what kind of great service are you charging people money for? The special power and skill of wrapping your arms around someone, being affectionate, and listening to their life stories and comforting them with interpersonal communication along with perhaps a quick massage?

When I booked two "pro cuddlers" in the past, they charged me $120 each for one hour, and they both gained just as much as I paid them. They went home with over a hundred dollars and a free oxytocin release from me, and all I went home with is just the latter, along with an $120 expense attached to it. Seriously? They did not give me anything more than what they received from me in-return.

Let's call it for what it truly is: Predominantly women on CuddleComfort using the "pro cuddling" feature to advertise paid "cuddling services" to exploit the loneliness of men as a means to profit off a side hussle to earn supplementary income. Its pretty damn obvious. Every cuddler who has signed up here as a "pro" is using CuddleComfort as a sidejob that will earn them earnings of whatever they are free to charge, in most cases more than $100, for a mere one-hour of doing nothing but laying in a bed and holding and hugging a male stranger and talking to them. That's a good chunk of money to earn in one hour that requires absolutely no exertion or any labor. After the session is over, they will leave, forget about you, careless, and go home and sit and wait for their next contact so that they can repeat the process all-over again.

Honestly, I really do love that this website, service and community exists. Its great, and I love cuddling. It feels good. But as of today, I have decided from this point on I am no longer paying anyone over a hundred dollars in exchange for affection that I am also giving to them in return. I believe the "pro cuddler" feature was a terrible decision by administrators to help with their server costs. I wish they would do away with it and come up with a different plan. Who on Earth came up with this idea and thought it was a good? My God. And the thing is, if they did do away with it, I would bet most of the "pro cuddlers" on here would leave. I don't believe they would cuddle anyone on here for free and use their valuable time for free. No way. Its all about the earnings.

At this point, I'm probably not going to be visiting this website often, and I may never experience a cuddling session again anytime soon, seeing as how over 90% of females on this site are wanting to cuddle in exchange for money, which I won't do. I'm sure I'll try to find free cuddlers out there, but there are such few options. Like, very few.

I may get slack for this rant, but it's just so frustrating how cuddling has all but turned into a business now. I'm a good cuddler who will give you affection and hug you - and that's what you will get from me, and I won't charge you any money. So, if anyone wants to cuddle around the NYC area, feel free to message me. Happy cuddling!

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  • [Deleted User]Miles93 (deleted user)
    edited September 2023

    I just want to make a quick correction regarding my 90% comment. It turns out, among female cuddlers, there are 1,497 free cuddlers, and 1,499 paid cuddlers as of this moment. This number also includes accounts that are inactive and haven't logged in for weeks, months, or even years. It just seems that, anytime I find someone who I'm interested in cuddling, they're 97% of the time a "pro cuddler" and want payment. It has frustrated me lately. I don't mean to sound entitled if I'm coming off that way.

  • I don't mean to sound entitled if I'm coming off that way.

    You 110% are. But please, continue. I love a good trainwreck to jumpstart my weekend.

    ( Original post in the event it's dirty deleted. )

    After signing up and using CuddleComfort to pay for a total of two cuddling sessions, I think its time I throw my hat down. While I love the idea of having a place where humans can come together to give affection to those who are in need, I vigorously disagree with the idea of receiving and giving affection in exchange for payment.

    I just looked today at recent profiles on here that just recently signed up on CuddleComfort. I viewed ten random profiles on the front main page, and all of them had joined dates listed as August or September 2023. They signed up here less than two months ago, and guess what? They're all pro's with pink badges on their profile. I checked and they're charging between $80 and $100 to cuddle you. They don't have any karma, either. Geez, it looks like they literally signed up here with the idea to just earn a quick buck.

    The first cuddle session I had was with a "pro cuddler" back in June 2023, and when it came to an end, I was apologized to by her after the timer on her phone went off, yes, seriously, she had a timer on her phone running during the session, because her time was more important than mine. She could care less about the affection I was giving her, and then I was swiftly escorted out of the hotel room by her. I never saw her again, and I left the hotel, checking my account balance and seeing the $120 that was subtracted from my checking balance from Zelle. In my opinion, I didn't feel all that money I gave her was entirely worth it, because I know she enjoyed it a lot less than I did. Afterall, she cuddles with so many men all the time, she has 70 karma, so of course by that time it probably gets old to her. Its literally a part-time job to her.

    This suddenly made me think - whatever happened to just cuddling by itself? This website years ago used to be about finding a cuddle buddy near you, meeting them in-person, to cuddle and heal yourself and them. Its no longer about that now. Anyone who signs up here as a "pro," just does it as a side hussle to earn money. I don't mind paying for traveling expenses to get you here to me, but why should I also pay to hold you in my arms, as well? You want both affection and money? Along with CuddleComfort and a few other websites, they are also helping to turn cuddling as we once knew it into a "paid service" now. Really, are you kidding me? Honestly, when you look at it, this website in its entirely is being used as an index now to advertise "cuddling services" - give me a break. Ever since CuddleComfort launched the "pro cuddler" platform, all it seems to have done is turned cuddling into this "paid profession" now. It has hurt people like me who not only want to receive affection, but also want to give affection, as well. You cannot give affection if you're paying money for it. When you book a "pro cuddler," you are booking a one-way street: to receive affection from them in a service as they have advertised on their profile. They could care less about receiving affection by you, they care more about the dough. If any "pro cuddler" says otherwise, then why charge for it? You can't have it both ways.

    There isn't any difficulty to become a professional cuddler either - just sign up and fill out a form. Pay $19.99/mo and allow 15% of your earnings be deducted for site maintenance. While it is being referred to as a profession, you don't need any specialized knowledge or training to be a "pro cuddler." It doesn't take any skill. You don't have to prove yourself or show evidence that you're a "pro" at cuddling. So to the "pro cuddlers" out there: what kind of great service are you charging people money for? The special power and skill of wrapping your arms around someone, being affectionate, and listening to their life stories and comforting them with interpersonal communication along with perhaps a quick massage?

    When I booked two "pro cuddlers" in the past, they charged me $120 each for one hour, and they both gained just as much as I paid them. They went home with over a hundred dollars and a free oxytocin release from me, and all I went home with is just the latter, along with an $120 expense attached to it. Seriously? They did not give me anything more than what they received from me in-return.

    Let's call it for what it truly is: Predominantly women on CuddleComfort using the "pro cuddling" feature to advertise paid "cuddling services" to exploit the loneliness of men as a means to profit off a side hussle to earn supplementary income. Its pretty damn obvious. Every cuddler who has signed up here as a "pro" is using CuddleComfort as a sidejob that will earn them earnings of whatever they are free to charge, in most cases more than $100, for a mere one-hour of doing nothing but laying in a bed and holding and hugging a male stranger and talking to them. That's a good chunk of money to earn in one hour that requires absolutely no exertion or any labor. After the session is over, they will leave, forget about you, careless, and go home and sit and wait for their next contact so that they can repeat the process all-over again.

    Honestly, I really do love that this website, service and community exists. Its great, and I love cuddling. It feels good. But as of today, I have decided from this point on I am no longer paying anyone over a hundred dollars in exchange for affection that I am also giving to them in return. I believe the "pro cuddler" feature was a terrible decision by administrators to help with their server costs. I wish they would do away with it and come up with a different plan. Who on Earth came up with this idea and thought it was a good? My God. And the thing is, if they did do away with it, I would bet most of the "pro cuddlers" on here would leave. I don't believe they would cuddle anyone on here for free and use their valuable time for free. No way. Its all about the earnings.

    At this point, I'm probably not going to be visiting this website often, and I may never experience a cuddling session again anytime soon, seeing as how over 90% of females on this site are wanting to cuddle in exchange for money, which I won't do. I'm sure I'll try to find free cuddlers out there, but there are such few options. Like, very few.

    I may get slack for this rant, but it's just so frustrating how cuddling has all but turned into a business now. I'm a good cuddler who will give you affection and hug you - and that's what you will get from me, and I won't charge you any money. So, if anyone wants to cuddle around the NYC area, feel free to message me. Happy cuddling!

  • edited September 2023

    I just want to make a quick correction regarding my 90% comment. It turns out, among female cuddlers, there are 1,497 free cuddlers, and 1,499 paid cuddlers as of this moment. This number also includes accounts that are inactive and haven't logged in for weeks, months, or even years. It just seems that, anytime I find someone who I'm interested in cuddling, they're 97% of the time a "pro cuddler" and want payment. It has frustrated me lately. I don't mean to sound entitled if I'm coming off that way.

    I have a pro cuddler booked at the moment for next month and she charges $180. This is what caused me me to post. I have never paid that much before. There's almost no guarantee I agree to that asking price. Maybe I might try negotiate something lower with her.

    How about you not. You can filter pros within your price range. You can also hide pros entirely.
    I'm not touching that rant because it's leaking entitlement garbage everywhere.

    I went to your profile expecting to see at minimum a bio. Empty. Photo, absent. Yet, you want US to give our energy and time to someone who has absolutely nothing to say about themselves, why they are here, or a generic photo, for FREE? 😂

  • Yeah, don't try to haggle her rate. I find it rude and disrespectful. Find a lower priced pro.

  • [Deleted User]Miles93 (deleted user)

    Okay, well sorry if I'm coming off that way, Rezz. Regarding my profile, I just value my privacy. I don't even use social media to begin with. Yes, I try to use the filter.

  • Okay, well sorry if I'm coming off that way, Rezz. Regarding my profile, I just value my privacy. I don't even use social media to begin with. Yes, I try to use the filter.

    Cool. Well I and many other pros value our free time. So we charge for it. 🙃

  • This is entitlement a bajillion percent. You don’t like the idea of paying, then don’t. It’s easy to not book a pro but to write a whole essay devoted to slamming what I do for a full time job, is not cool dude..

    I understand it can be frustrating. I want food for free but I have to pay for it. I want massages from a licensed massage therapist, but I have to pay. I want gas for my car, but I have to pay. I want a haircut, but surprise, surprise, I have to pay for it. You feel entitled to women falling all over you and cuddling you when you want, how you want and where you want.

    I normally am a bit easier on people with this take, but you just kept going and going.

    You’re shocked that these pros (and stop using quotations around the word pros. They make money selling a service. They are pros) all start out at $80/hour with no experience. The site is the one that suggest that starting rate so blame it on that. And whatever area they are from, most of the pros probably match what’s around them. When pros come to me for advice, I do advise them to lower their amount until they have more experience and karma under their belt. But it’s a free market. They can choose what they want.

    For the pro cuddler you had that used a timer, that’s normal. Most jobs that have an hourly service required staying on track. Whether you like it or not, you bought a service, not a girlfriend. You are paying for her time so of course she’s going to stay on time. And it looks like she gave you exactly what you paid for. Sometimes I stay well after the timer for my well-established cuddlers because I genuinely enjoy being with them. But if I’m busy, or have other things booked after my cuddle, I gotta go shortly after that timer. I don’t get up and zip out immediately but I stay fairly close to it.

    This website may have started off without pro cuddlers, but ask most of the men that were here from the beginning. Even without pro cuddlers, there were hardly any women to cuddle with. A lot of people are actually happy we’re here because they can book a pro and get their snuggles without having to message 40 enthusiasts, hoping one of the messages land. We’re just an additive to the site. You can still get free cuddles, but you have to put a lot of work into it! Good luck! They’re out there!

    And it actually costs money to keep this site up. Our cuts they take off our cuddles help them. You’re welcome. If you have other ideas for the site to make money, tell them… but there are plenty of people that are happy we’re here. And remember, if they did away with paid cuddling, you would be left with exactly what you had before we showed up to begin with. We don’t “take away” from the pool of free cuddles you could have.

    Say you were a mechanic. And I really needed something done on my car. If I came to you and said “what? I need this done but it’s ridiculous that you’re charging. Why can’t you do it for free?” Because that’s your job… I heavily enjoy doing this for a living. Everyone wants to wake up to a job they love. Guess what? I do. And that infuriates you? Too bad…

  • You said you don't mean to sound entitled, yet this post is dripping with it. Cuddling is a purely consensual activity and nobody is obligated to cuddle with you.

  • edited September 2023

    If you're not making the same demands of men and cuddling them this is nothing but disrespect toward women. Value women as human beings much as you value yourself.

  • I don't know what area the OP is in since I'm blocked but I was gonna say to look and see if there are any group cuddle events in that area. They are much cheaper than private sessions and you can meet people that way.

  • [Deleted User]Miles93 (deleted user)
    edited September 2023

    Okay, I reread my post and yes, I came off as very entitled. So, no one has to tell me anymore. The thing is, I have to pay or no cuddle. I'm addicted to the cuddling now. I have no one else to cuddle with. But Sheena, you said your cuts come off from the cuddles. Not sure if I'm correct, but isn't that money coming from those who are paying a pro cuddler, like myself? Shouldn't I be saying you're welcome? We are giving it to you before the start of the cuddle session.. yeah.

    Mike, I usually block a ton of accounts... that wasn't recent in anyway, and for no reason. Nothing personal or anything. I'm located near Orlando.

  • edited September 2023

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    Say your welcome to your dentist, accountant…

  • [Deleted User]Miles93 (deleted user)

    Stormydaycuddle, I did read your other post before you deleted it. You said you think I'm disgusting, and claiming I think of women as objects?!? Really? How can that be when I'm showing them affection during the session just as they are to me? I never claimed in my post that women aren't people. I do value them as human beings!

  • edited September 2023

    🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

    Uh, huh. Then stop suggesting you should have free access to women’s bodies. You’re not treating us as such in the novel you wrote. Your words are disgusting. I’m holding out hope for you.

  • This thread is making my head hurt. If you value them as human beings with their own thoughts, emotions, and wants, then act like it. Three women has already called you out on this thread and rightfully so.

  • Yea, a gross individual for sure….

  • edited September 2023

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  • edited September 2023

    I don’t know if someone else addressed this, and I have yet to read all this, but the fees that pros pay are different between men and women. Men pay a monthly fee whereas women pay 15% of each session. It’s not both for everyone, which is how I read it. Also, if you don’t want to pay for cuddles, don’t book a pro. Put in the work and meet fellow enthusiasts. It’s not easy to meet up with them but it can be done. Even I have managed to cuddle a fair amount of fellow enthusiasts and my confidence in myself is non-existent.

  • Ok I have read enough. It seems pretty clear this is yet another petty post whining about pro pricing. There is a mega thread for that. I am gonna lock this.

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