For Clients: How is pro cuddling different for you compared to enthusiast cuddling?

One thing I’ve learned on CC is that some people view cuddling with a pro extremely differently than how I view it.

For me, a session with a pro is VASTLY different than what it would be like with an enthusiast. I’ve learned that’s not the case for everyone.

So I wanted to find out more about that. I know it’s going to vary from session to session, but speaking generally…what you do differently or what do you look for in a session with a pro vs. if you were in a session with a fellow enthusiast?

Comments

  • @Will564
    This would get a ton more visibility if you edited and switched boards from Professional Cuddling to General. Mostly this board is used by the Pro's, and many users don't even know it exists.

    🤗

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover

  • @SunsetSnuggles

    Thanks for letting me know! This whole time I've misunderstood it. I thought this was a board ABOUT pro cuddling, where people just talk about any topic dealing with pro cuddling. I didn't realize that it was mainly a board where pros just talked about their individual questions and situations about BEING a pro.

    I always wondered why this board had so much less activity than the general board when it feels like there are so many more pro/client situations than enthusiast ones on CC now. So that explains it all now. I'll have to keep that in mind going forward. Part of me doesn't know if I'll even bother reposting this one now, just because some other threads have heated up again.

    Thanks for the heads up!

  • @Will564
    No worries, mate! There are definitely some threads in here about Pro cuddling, as the name implies, but for the most part, it seems to be used by Pro's to talk about Pro things (though they also have a private board for that).

    So I wouldn't say you misconstrued the purpose of this board so much as that it's just very underutilized and doesn't receive many views from the community, at large. 😊

    Alternatively, we could try to turn the tide and start posting a bunch of (relevant) threads on Pro cuddling, here. 😄

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover

  • edited May 14

    I always read new stuff when I see it here, so more activity sounds good to me. As an enthusiast, I think the biggest difference for me is my mindset.

    As an enthusiast I used to cuddle with tbe mindset that the two of us would be present for each other in a 50-50 way.

    As a pro, I enjoy cuddling or I wouldn't do it, but when someone is paying me it becomes me holding a container where it is 100% being there for my client and his or her cuddle needs.

  • @HarleyGirlKate

    That’s exactly how I feel about it too! I really like how you described it as a container you hold.

    It’s just been fascinating to me to realize just how many people on CC don’t view pro cuddling in that way.

  • edited May 15

    Not a client, so please feel free to ignore if my input isn't helpful, but in my experience I've found that some clients actively want a pro cuddle to be/feel the same as an enthusiast cuddle, while others are seeking a more supportive 'holding space for them' session.

    This definitely makes sense in the context of the skewed ratio of male to female enthusiast cuddlers, which leads to lots of men who are actually seeking an enthusiast experience seeing pros because that's the option more easily available, rather than because they are looking for the focus of the session to be on them.

    In my opinion I think part of what sets apart a good pro from an okay one, is their ability to understand what a cuddler wants to achieve/feel from a session, and the skills and willingness to provide the appropriate type of session to meet those needs.

    (Edited for clarity)

  • @CuddlesByGracie
    Love your perspective; communication is everything! But you clarified why some men want to be a giver even when paying, in a way I could never quite put my finger on, before. Excellent articulation! 😊

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover

  • Thank you @SunsetSnuggles - it took me a minute to find the words that matched what my head was trying to say!

  • edited May 16

    @CuddlesbyGracie

    I love your answer so much. It’s exactly what I’ve tried to convey to others in the past about what I believe about pro cuddling, but it seems like the way I’ve worded it before has kind come across as preachy or rubbed people the wrong way.

    I think the way you said it is much clearer and more straightforward.

    And I definitely really appreciate a pro who knows how to do both so well! That adaptability and versatility is amazing.

  • Thanks @Will564 - the wide realm of different benefits that people seek from cuddling really is fascinating. And for what it's worth I always find your comments very eloquent and not preachy at all!

  • I've not cuddled with any enthusiasts from CC, only Pros, and at other times in my life, with a g/f or wife.

    In the most strict sense, the actual act of cuddling, itself, isn't any different in my experience, only the feelings or sentiments behind it.

  • @HarleyGirlKate
    That is why I’m planning to hire a pro for a session In the near future. I want the experience of being a client and feeling the care and attention. To be able to completely relax with no obligation or expectations. I am concerned that this may be difficult to find in a male pro but I hope not.

  • @carrieanne

    Forgive me if you’ve already thought about all of this in detail, but have you ever considered seeing a female pro? My thought was that if you have this strong desire to get the full client experience but it may take you a while to find the right male pro, in the mean time you could use a female pro to get the experience you’re looking for so you don’t have to keep on waiting. It may not be the optimal experience you’re looking for if your top preference is a male, but it might be better than how you might currently imagining it if you’ve never had the experience of being the client of a female pro.

  • I thought I explained above, I want to feel the strength and pressure of the hugs from a male pro. It’s also not about looks. It’s about masculine strength only. Platonic. A tight strong hug presence.
    A feeling of caring safety. Someone stronger than me. I don’t know how else to explain it.

  • edited May 17

    Ah, ok, I didn’t realize you were looking for that particular kind of masculine energy. I guess I forget about that sometimes because even though I’m male, I’m pretty small. I’m sure there are female pros out there quite a bit bigger and stronger than me. So that actually makes it even tougher, because you’re looking for a particular kind of male pro, not just any safe male pro.

    I’m sure there are definitely male pros somewhere out there like that, though it’s hard to say how hard they are to find. But I do hope you find the right one for you!

  • Pretty much any adult male is bigger than me. This isn’t complicated or unusual. It’s ok if you don’t know exactly what I mean. This is just something I would like to experience. Whether I ever will who knows.
    My dad has been gone for many years. I think I would just like that protective feeling again. Please don’t read anything into this that isn’t there.

  • @g_w_t_w

    Your assumption this morning was incorrect.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover

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