If you had to estimate, what percentage of your clients are women? Have you ever had a woman try to book you at all?
One out of twenty.
I've cuddled with only 6 women clients. Only 1% of my clients are women clients, 99% are men clients.
I'm interested in these results
Officially, zero. I was contacted by a woman who wanted to possibly schedule something in the future. She was part of a husband/wife combo😬
@AvaAnne so what you're saying is they wanted to have a cuddle threesome? Sounds weird
@Andrew_1 yeah kinda weird. She never did pursue an actual session so I was perfectly fine with that. I probably would’ve declined anyway. Not my cup of tea 🫖 lol
None yet 😕 but staying hopeful!
I wonder if this simply reflects that women don't need to hire pros, regardless of which gender they prefer to cuddle.
@Andrew_1 cuddling threesomes are a Thing, if a rare one. A small number of professionals combine with other professionals to offer this service. Similar and larger group cuddles occur at some cuddle parties and workshops. Sometimes these are called a 'cuddle puddle'.
It is also the case that some married people are anxious about experiencing the intimacy of a cuddle with somebody other than their partner, and I can easily see that some couples might want to start with having a cuddle together with a professional.
Obviously I don't know anything about this particular case, and if the professional felt it was a bit weird, then history teaches us that it almost certainly was.
@AvaAnne
@CuddleHugs01234 some professionals would love to have 5% women clients! That's the highest figure I've encountered in all my conversations with professionals on this question. What's your secret?! @CaringSoul's 1% (or less) is a more common experience.
Only once and it turned out to be a man catfishing 😭
He got banned quickly!
I’m very open to it, but I’ve yet to have one. I’m sure cuddling with a woman would be so great! I’ve cuddled with ex girlfriends outside of CC and it’s always so nice.
Oh it looked like this thread was locked. Glad to see it isn't. Only because there is a heavy mention of men cuddling men would be an option because women are open to cuddling women. Are they really? Or is it similar statistics.
@WriterGF i dont know man, from what I've observed women seeking women seem to struggle at least as much as men seeking women (average men). Example: https://www.reddit.com/r/LesbianActually/comments/10yav17/what_is_the_typical_lesbian_experience_on_dating/
So far as a professional I've only cuddled with men through CC, though I'm happy to cuddle women too or anyone, really. When I was an enthusiast, I cuddled with two pro women, and had a very positive experience both times.
@HarleyGirlKate Did you try to reach out to enthusiast women first prior to pros?
In the 5+ years of pro cuddling, I’ve cuddled 9 women. I would say it’s a very low percentage.
@Andrew_1 wrote: " @HarleyGirlKate Did you try to reach out to enthusiast women first prior to pros.
Yes, when I was an enthusiast, I did reach out to several enthusiast women in my area, and also one man. I ended up cuddling with the man more than once as an enthusiast, found the experience wonderful, and we remain good friends. 🙂
Would have loved to have cuddled with some of the enthusiast women in Santa Cruz I reached out to but none of them wrote me back.
Since then I've struck up a couple of friendships with other women through CC and hope to get together in August with one woman I like and admire very much.
@HarleyGirlKate There seems to be a myth out there that women respond to women at a much higher rate than they respond to men, but I would wager its probably almost the same
So far 0 but if they reached out I would definitely cuddle them as I would anyone else.
@CuddleDuncan Sorry, I don’t think I listed it properly. I’ve seen twenty people total (in person or virtual), one being a woman. A couple of other women showed interest but have not scheduled. So for me all men, one woman. So probably one percent.
@Andrew_1 posted: "There seems to be a myth out there that women respond to women at a much higher rate than they respond to men, but I would wager its probably almost the same"
I respond to everyone, and men frequently tell me that it's extremely rare, as an enthusiast. I've never had a woman react with shock or gratefulness that I responded. My guess is, that "myth" is not a myth, and the enthusiasts that didn't respond to Harley were likely not active, or else weren't sifting through their messages. I often avoid my inbox for long periods of time, because it's so overwhelming.
But yes, to be more direct - I am more apt to prioritize a response to a woman, frankly, because their messages are usually more purposeful, heartfelt, and of a serious nature.
~ Sunset Snuggles
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@SunsetSnuggles based on what I see on Reddit and other forums lesbians seem to struggle about as much as men in getting women to respond to them
@Andrew_1 There's a big difference between your initial "women respond to women" in a platonic cuddle setting, and lesbians seeking dates, as in the link you posted. Neither I or @HarleyGirlKate were referring to the latter.
When women seek out other women to cuddle with, it is typically because they feel safer with them than with men. Sometimes they are overcoming trauma, or sometimes they simply appreciate that other women often have a good sense of boundaries, and feel relief knowing they are not seeking anything non-platonic.
@SunsetSnuggles I was referring to more generally and not specifically just here
Outside of CC, I have catered my pro cuddling experiences mostly towards gender minorities - women (trans and cis), trans men, non-binary, gender fluid, agender, etc. Because of my LGBTQIA+ connections, I'd hazard a guess that at least half of my cuddle partners/clients have been anything other than cis men. If we count folks I've cuddled with at cuddle events, that number will be larger, as most the cuddle events I've attended the past few years have been gender minorities only safe spaces.
On CC, I've had femme/enby friends talk about cuddling, but no potential non-masc clients 🤷🏻♀️ it's just not the overall culture here. Now that I've curtailed doing pro cuddling I am hoping to focus more on cuddling more diversely with what little spare energy I have, but I'm definitely not against cuddling men still.