Pretty much the title sums it up, have any of you guys cuddled with other non pro cuddlers before and if so what was it like? What was The experience like?
This is the goal of most non-pros on this site but it takes time to find the right person who is interested in cuddling with you.
One of the biggest differences is the “focus”. When a pro cuddles a client, the client is the center of attention or the “receiver” of the majority of the touch. When 2 non-pros cuddle, it is much more of a mutual experience.
Yes I have, and it was great. As @JohnR1972 says, it's an equally good but somewhat different experience.
The usual term is 'enthusiast'.
I would think that if you had a map, or a points to cover type of thing, you could orchestrate a cuddle, the goal in my opinion would be to enjoy the event but walk away with some growth..like when I get together with musicians to jam. Ya almost need a direction..so I usually suggest blues ..(everybody knows usually) because I think you are trying to join in the same area of the brain (as a cuddle) getting into the groove with music.
In the cuddleverse, if there was an ASMR approach as the goal, the vibe you are going for would be a gentle peaceful vibration.
So you could start with a vocal cue to get the oxytocin flowing. A caring phrase or name introduction, in the ear whispered, keeping things platonic of course, and maybe light touch from there. IMO if you take the lead, you would want to help create a cuddle story. (think fairytale vibe)
So it may be important to note that, it's up to one party to be sensitive to sensory retention so that the other party isn't overwhelmed..and be courteous, so that we don't become addicted to what is happening (this is obviously in an active cuddle situation)
-and lets not forget, most of us just want to chill. And watch TV.
For a fairytale memorable cuddle, pro or not, someone should probably take the lead or be given the option of leading.
-disclaimer all cuddles are awesome, all opinions expressed are based on personal experience
Hey guys, I am a female enthusiast, some measure of physical attraction and safety are key. So you cant be shy about your picture, the sooner you share the better. From a picture I look for kind eyes and hygiene standards. Obviously one picture doesn't say much but can be enough if you can communicate. I determine safety by how open a guy is about himself. Whether or not he has any friends or Karma reviews. From how a person writes I can discern intelligence, friendliness, experience and honesty. One sentence responses tells me you are defensive and not open. You should be prepared to answer your own questions open and honestly. Some guys want to ask a bunch of questions but give one phrase responses. That is creepy behavior. When dealing with enthusiast, communication that is reciprocal are the safest-feeling prospects. Also even though no one is charging to cuddle- everyone should expect to spend some kind of money, at least to meet up for coffee and lunch/dinner in a public place. I prefer to go 50/50 on expenses when I can just to keep things platonic in nature. I hope this helps.
@Gnomee3 SAY IT LOUDER! The first email needs to show even more individual effort, especially if the profile is anemic. Not just, "I like your profile. We should cuddle." The profile needs to be more than just a sentence or two saying "I want to try this." I'm going to tell the guy to hire a pro because I can tell he's not interested in putting in any effort.
I have, they were not bad experiences really. They are not always great, nerves and all that come into play on both sides. But usually they just go away or try to go pro and end up going away after a short time. They also get banned a lot, i just looked back through my messages and nearly 50% of the ladies i have messaged or conversed with are gone, banned, deleted, or paused.
The problem is when you start talking with them, many of them are quickly banned.
Hasn’t happened yet. It’s a cold world
Cuddling in public. I had a really nice cuddle on Saturday. We both met up in a city called Birmingham in the UK. It was just a train ride for both of us. We agreed that we would give each other a hug as soon as we met up, and we did. We did lots of walking, 13,000 steps, holding hands, cuddling and sitting next to each other in various places with arms around each other. Lasted from 11:00 am - 6:00 pm Very nice experience, we both felt great at the end.
Yes, cuddled with both pros and non pros (enthusiasts).
It’s a little bit of a different experience. If you just want to be pampered, go pro. And the obvious option if you travel a lot like me.
Enthusiast cuddles are rewarding in a different way but it usually takes more time to set something up
I’ve made unexpected friends with some pros though! So keep an open mind and try not to sweat the no response profiles
Non pro here who cuddles with only non pros. It’s much more challenging to find but the cuddles assure a more genuine experience since both parties are giving and receiving
Yes its grape. No booking, watching the clock, or using this app to communicate. So very authentic
With me, and not just with cuddling - with any kind of relationship, one side usually gets clingy. And I don't like being either side of that dynamic.
So hiring pros prevents that.
But yeah, I'd prefer an enthusiast if we were both wanting the same thing, same amount, etc.
I think it’s lovely as long as it’s consensual! Doesn’t have to be a monetary exchange
I’ve met two enthusiasts, both were very sweet and completely different experiences. Both good, just different vibes.
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I'd like to consider myself an enthusiast, but I've only cuddled a pro, but I do wonder how much difference there would be, would it really even be noticeable ? I'm not sure.
I think the hard part of cuddling with an enthusiast would be if one wanted to continue meeting and the other did not.
I've been on here a few months ...and as a woman over 40 with a photo, I can tell you a few things. I have had two cuddles, and one was a gentleman and a great person, and we just cuddled. The other one was like an octopus, and I had to end the session early as I did not get a great vibe.
There are many lonely men and probably women on here...and many predators, I feel. To tell one from the other is up to us. I feel bad for some of the men that write me but it's insane how few men either put a photo or anything more than 5 words in a profile. Women read profiles!
And one guy said to me that being on a cuddle site is a stigma...I was like what? I have not heard that before and have told several friends I am trying this and most wanted to try too..
that's my 2 cents.
@WriterGF now you make a very good point right there, I never even thought about that. What if someone becomes attached or something?
@VivianneBoston I like your 2 cents. A lot. You've got it sized up right already. I'm glad for you. You will have an easier time. There doesn't seem to be much point in telling guys how important a profile pic is, or at least to send a pic in their 1st message without being asked. You would think some of these guys are underworld spies the way they act like a pic is not doable, lol. There can't be that many people who have a job that requires that much privacy. If they dig in their heels or ignore my request for a pic then I know I don't want to know them.
but I've only cuddled a pro, but I do wonder how much difference there would be, would it really even be noticeable ?
Not much difference but I do know that enthusiasts that are really good are addictive, but I have had two enthusiasts that I couldn’t wait to get out the door. So in that sense they are not different—it can be hit-or-miss just like pros.
@achetocuddle how can you tell of your profile has a picture, I know that sounds stupid, I have a picture on my profile, I have a few. I notice when I comment on things it doesn't show me with a picture ?
@TheFunCartel well I'll certainly have to wait till I meet a fellow enthusiast and try it out. The person I usually got to who is a pro is absolutely fantastic.
Dear @TeddyCuddle45 LOL, I am the worst person to ask because I am not tech-savvy. But I know there are plenty of people here that can tell you how to fix that. I like your posts and glad you are here, btw.
Help please anyone?
@@achetocuddle lol no problem, I even went to my profile an they aren't private so I don't know. Thank you very much I like yours as well, now that I figured out how to "tag" people these discussions got a lot easier
Non pro is better as the women are real! Sweet regular quality women! Nice.
@TeddyCuddle45 Your pics are visible when you go on your profile. Have you made sure to star one of your pictures? That might be how it shows up as your main pic and may also show on the forums.
@AlexysDanyelle Look! I thought you might want to read one of the rare nice things said about enthusiasts
@HealerHiker Enthusiasts keep being told we don't exist and even if we did we wouldn't cuddle, lol.
@Aleron thank you I went back an checked it was stared, switched them around, so hopefully that fixed it. I appreciate the help IT DID HAHAH FINALLY