@TheFunCartel
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I have a wife and a daughter so I have all the sugar babies I can afford. Everyone else gets vinegar 🤣
Whoa, quite intense accusations here. I've never accepted payment of any kind to cuddle. I've only cuddled with other enthusiasts and it's been a very positive experience each time. Never had any issues with moderation either. Recently I've been getting flooded with requests and just wanted an answer to my question so I knew for sure that it's not completely outlandish or sketchy.
I call it a session because it's a session. If you have a free therapist, do you not call it a therapy session? Don't understand the skepticism that's completely unrelated to my question.
Post note: Jumping to accusatory conclusions in seemingly bad faith isn't a good thing to do. Especially when it comes to violating the agreement to use this site. I'm autistic and I quite literally can't fathom breaking a rule. I don't appreciate people even asking that, because it then brings into question my integrity as a person. I like cuddling, talking, and meeting new people, without payment. The reasons I've applied to be a pro is because of the sheer amount of people messaging me, safety, my travel expenses(since I don't drive), how long cuddle sessions tend to be with me(6-10 hours), and I kinda think cuddle pro prices are crazy, so I'm looking to make it real affordable😂. Really doesn't feel great to have my character questioned by people who've never talked to me when all I wanted was advice.
@KuddlyKoala I'm a pro, going on 2 years here (and many years of experience with other humans on this earth lol) and I wouldn't travel that far to meet anyone I've never met before. For any amount of money. I know you're an enthusiast.... But I'm just saying that I wouldn't even do that as a pro for pay.
Absolutely trust your own intuition....we tend to have amazing intuition! But I also second everything that @TheFunCartel wrote, especially this part:
Don’t assume anyone on here is safe or who they say they are until proven in real life. This site is not real life, so take appropriate steps to vet everyone.
It may seem flattering, but ALL the people who have ever made offers like that to me on here, were also making the same offers to many others....and just seeing who would take the bait. Because whatever they offer is truly only bait....they never intend to follow through one way or another. This is for complete strangers....not at all any of the awesome clients I've already met with 😊
Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and are super self- aware already tho, so all this is stuff I'm sure you already know. But if you'd ever like to message me if you have questions....I'm always here! ☺️💗 Good luck! 😌
@RedFox16 Thanks for the input! I've never even considered going anywhere that's 1. Not a city and 2. Not a single train away. I was referring to people trying to fly to me. I'm still kinda iffy on it, so I'd much rather be safe than sorry. It's unfortunately not all sunshine and rainbows out in the world. Again, thank you so much! I appreciate you.
Of course! And thank you back 🤗
Oh gotcha! I totally thought you asked about someone trying to fly you to them. Reading comprehension is tricky Haha 😂
Much less sketchy for sure and still good you're trying to figure out why.
Just a thought... If it's not someone that is travelling for business....sometimes it might be someone who's hoping that a cuddle session will turn into a relationship. That even happens with pros.
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I took a train trip recently, and was thinking, won't it be a cool if I met up with some local cuddlers on the way? Cuz traveling is hard and would be nice to unwind. So maybe it's something like that.
Cuz traveling is hard
How so?
Anything over 20 miles is a stretch for a cuddle. Over that I’m assuming they’re hella lonely. Over 50miles write a will if you’re gonna chance it 👍
400 miles is a bit too much in my opinion that'd be like a 6 hour + drive... Most of my cuddles have been 50 to 100 miles away and about an hour and a half drive each way. Unfortunately cuddling isn't very popular in my area yet.
@KuddlyKoala you have the right thoughts on the subject. There may be reasons people travel to cuddle but that's not your problem. If it doesn't feel right don't do it. I don't understand traveling 30 miles to cuddle but some people do. I may travel to visit some one, buy something tangible and if i find one along the way it's great.
But you've received some good input, take that in to consideration and do what feels right to you. And good for you for protecting your character in a matter of fact way, accusations fly around in here like flies.
Question for the galley: if not a session?l, what is it when without pay? All things scheduled generally infer a cost. Appointments, scheduled, session..... i don't think there is a word that would indicate a set time and place of including another individual that you wouldn't use in most cases for pay, unless my brain isn't working right.
People use the words confirmed appointment, scheduled appointment, session, booked, session and many others how did this word become an issue today? What did it miss?
@BashfulLoner I don't think you missed anything. There's a hunger for controversy on here, and sometimes people will parse posts looking for something to raise questions about.
I'm still pondering the fact that the OP does 6-10 hour cuddle sessions, which must be amazing.
I've just decided to not accept things that seem like a grand gesture. @WriterGF I actually haven't had any short cuddles! All over 4 hours. Love keeping people company, sometimes reading books to them or singing. Just genuinely good times!
@KuddlyKoala My guess is you will be quite successful as a pro. Just stay safe, please.
@KuddlyKoala Yes some people are quick to jump to bad conclusions and it gets old. It sounds like you are a really good cuddler. Best wishes on your cuddle quest.
Dedication. A woman who travels after booking w me will be top notch.
@acheticuddle and @cuddleduncan thank you, everyone is quick to assume they may be coming to see her which seems normal if someone is coming to a cuddlers area. And while that could be her question- I have had people pose that I they would like me to visit them.
One man recently began to message me full of compliments and long messages about how well he is payed and how he has flown other cuddlers across the country to visit him. That he had developed bonds with them. Was saying he could fly me out.
He had briefly mentioned he may visit my city soon when I asked, but quickly changed the subject to suggest that we connect on SnapChat. I told him as per the rules that I would not exchange off-site information without a booking, but that we could be friends here on the CC site and to keep me in mind if he visits nearby. I even friended him here.
His response? "I don't pay for conversation and I guess it's all about money for some people" , and some other things to put me down.
I reported him and blocked him. This was all a red flag. He was interested in having me travel across the country (I wouldn't have) the first time we exchanged messages. He wanted to go offsite for free time and what I assume to exchange photos. But had a prpblem with building a repitoire on this CC site only. The whole thing was rife with manipulation and he wasn't happy I didn't play along. Please avoid those at all costs.
Also- he mentioned working/living between SF and Seattle and Vancouver (West coast) and I wonder if it was the same person.
Is it that unusual to drive an hour or two for a cuddle? I’ve had to drive at least that far for most of mine, but I also live out in the boonies so maybe it’s different for city dwellers
A few thoughts, just thinking out loud for debate purposes, hopefully none of this is offensive:
There are several females who have profiles that specifically say I'll travel to you, just fly me there, there are accounts with the term "FMTY", "fly me to you", stating they'll go out of state, etc., encouraging this. I'm all about equal treatment so if this type of talk and requests are considered to be red flags by guys then seems like we shouldn't have girls openly inviting such things but nobody questions that, only the guys. If it's a red flag for a guy to request it then it should also be a red flag for a girl to openly invite it, no?
Keep in mind that some areas of the country are just plain boring, not just from a lack of cuddlers but just a lack of anything interesting. I will regularly fly 1,000+ miles to Colorado just to have something to do. I would think nothing about a weekend in San Diego across the country. This summer I'm spending a few days in New York just for the heck of it, might to go Broadway, walk around Central Park, get a sandwich at Katz, and not much else. If I saw someone I thought was interesting, I would think nothing about adjusting travel plans to make a meeting happen.
If it's a professional platonic service, why does it matter where they are from? I mean if I advertise something unique on eBay and somebody from across the nation buys it and travels to me to pick it up and pays me in person, why does it matter? If it doesn't matter, what's the difference?
@hoosierdan76 I think anyone requesting that you travel a distance for a cuddle should be handled with caution, regardless of gender. There are plenty of male pros here too. And yes that goes for people that may become pushy about "fly me to you" although they may jist be expressing that they are willing to travel. I think a lot of communication before any big travel (I have regularly traveled 2 hours or so out here in the country) or reserving that kind of arrangement for a repeat cuddler that you've gotten to know a bit, as well as clear expectations and boundaries, having a safety plan- is in order.
Someone mentioned Las Vegas--I have also had someone book with me, cancel the booking, then ask me if I would come spend a weekend in Las Vegas, he had memtioned he goes there regularly. That offered to fly me out and cover all expenses. I was NOT interested but it sounded familiar to see that here in this thread as well. Makes me wonder if it is a scam or trafficking.
"offered to fly me out and cover all expenses. I was NOT interested but it sounded familiar to see that here in this thread as well. Makes me wonder if it is a scam or trafficking."
I mean, I'm going to a concert in a different state and flying someone else from yet another state to go there. Also going to a business event in Chicago and flying someone else from yet another state there to help me with it. Perfectly innocent. The most dangerous guy you could meet could live 5 miles away and you might get a false sense of security while this type of stuff could be very safe and very platonic. However I could very well see how this would look very fishy if you have never met the person before, seems like a lot of money and effort to do this for a random stranger. I personally would only do this for friends that I know I get along with very well. If nothing else there's too big of a chance that the meeting could be a disaster otherwise so I have no idea why a sane person would offer this to a stranger actually.
@hoosierdan76 I think what you're talking about is apples to oranges to a strange man contacting you online to fly you out when you don't even know them to cuddle
Offering to fly someone out, or asking someone to fly you out, seem like red flags 🚩 in general.
@pmvines read the second half of my above paragraph... "I have no idea why a sane person would offer this to a stranger actually"