Cuddly vacation

Falco

Hello!

I had little to no time to plan my vacations, so not only I am asking you an advice, but also hope that, thanks to the community, a wish can become true.

Is there something good to see/do in September near where you live and are you willing to cuddle with a 40yo man? I prefer nature (lakes, waterfalls, mountain panoramas) over big cities, but for art I'm willing to make exceptions.

If enough proposals come for the second week of September (within a reasonable distance one from another), I could decide to come to your area!

About my profile: I can understand many people are not used to meet a person without a picture, but while my main concern is privacy (not all people are like you), I think that it's good not being biased about people appearance as much as for invisible things. And how can you compare the thrill of figuring on the other person in many different ways and find none of it is the right one? About the karma, if you want to test your solidarity, you can check the active users in my area and draw a conclusion. Of course we won't meet if you don't trust me, but I promise the experience will be fulfilling in return for your trust. 😊
One last word, remember that preferred doesn't mean mandatory. 😉

Happy snuggles to you! 🤗

TxTom

Falco

If I had to choose one song, it would be Der Kommissar, but who cares. I'm thinking about changing my nickname, since it has nothing to do with the Austrian singer.

Back to topic, I'm not getting messages about it, is it too early? I can't believe all of you live in ugly places or there's nothing nice to see for miles from your home!

Falco

I still have to look at the places nearby, but the combination of flights and active profiles here brings following options:

• Bournemouth (UK)
• Dublin (IE)
• Helsinki (FI)
• London (UK)
• Stockholm (SE)

Probably I'll have to DM people, but if you see this message and have some place nearby worth a visit, please suggest it!

SunsetSnuggles

@Falco
The lack of responses is not because people "live in ugly places" they can't recommend for you to visit. It's threefold.

One, the majority of users on this site are in America. Being in Italy, and even though you are willing to travel around the UK (which is great), one is simply not likely to find many active cuddlers. The community there is still small.

Two, this particular board receives very little traction. It is mostly a place to corral cuddle requests so they don't take over the General board, so that board is kept clear for productive discussion. Cuddle request threads most often go unanswered, as you can see if you look down the line of this board. The most effective way to find cuddle buddies is to message active users in your area, or your travel destination, directly. In your case that is difficult, as you don't have a destination in mind.

Three, you are asking people to invite you to their area, to cuddle, without knowing you, seeing your picture, and with zero Karma, despite being on the site for five years. One of these may not be a dealbreaker, but all of them together is enough to make anyone with vetting skills say, "pass".

There are a few steps you could have taken to provide a safer proposition. You could have offered to get to know people through messages, before meeting up. You could have said, as countless men do, that despite not posting a photo publicly, you would be happy to share one through messaging.

The photo requirement of many people here has nothing to do with "bias". They need to know, for safety purposes, who they are meeting. It is not about someone's race, attractiveness, etc. It's about safety.

Regardless of responses here, I hope you find somewhere beautiful to visit, this fall. 🍁

~ Sunset Snuggles

🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover

Happy summer vibes! 🐬 🎹

Falco

As I already thought, I'll try with DMs.

Without knowing me: it can start from messages.

About the picture, I restate that there's too much to risk. Most people don't pay attention to it until the disaster happens.

About the hiatus, I've had a girlfriend for almost 4 years and I didn't felt the need to search for external cuddles. While searching for other things in my e-mails, I've found one of CC and decided to give it another try, even if situation is not so better here. And I also tried to be active on the forums, I think that taking time to add suggestions on how to improve the site should be a sign that I care.

About the Karma, the nearest users are far away and I suspect them having registered and forget about the site shortly after. I like my job, it would not be wise to leave it to go e.g. one year abroad only to have more chances of cuddling and having karma.

I took for granted that cuddlers and me would have known each other through messaging before meeting, my bad not explicitly writing it here.

The only difference between having a profile picture and sending one through DM is restricting the search if something goes wrong, but if it does, it is already too late. And I don't tell lies, so I'm not going to tell that I'm happy to share pictures of myself. 😅

It's NOT about safety at all. If you want, it is about perceived safety, but perception is fallacious. What are you going to do with a picture? The Google reverse image search doesn't work anymore, but a scammer could easily steal a credible one from social media anyway. If that still doesn't convince you, I'm going to throw in the AI problem. Never heard about https://thispersondoesnotexist.com/? Go there and refresh the page, you'll be amazed if it is the first time visiting.

I'm a big fan of "there's more than meets the eye". That said, I believe that we'll never know who we are meeting neither after many meetings (in good and bad sides). But I'm willing to provide everything in my chances to let people know that they are safe with me (and that a picture can't).

So thank you Sunset Snuggles for the suggestion and:
European people, come on! Since my message won't arrive so early, don't wait for it! If you want to add a good experience in your life, write me and I'll be happy to connect with you! 😊

achetocuddle

Dear Falco,
You seem intelligent and interesting and I hope to come across as helpful and at least an ok person in this message.
I mean to be. It's kind of aggressive and off-putting to announce you will grace someone with your company without a pic, or at least mentioning and acting agreeable to sending a pic in your initial response to any DMs you might get.

The Southern US can be different from the rest of the US and really different from the rest of the world, but I've known a wide spectrum of people and I feel confident in saying that you would find it hard to get any takers in the US (should you ever be interested) and I'm gonna speculate that not many in your area would find this an enticing offer. It's very unusual and could be perceived as anti-social? and even dangerous to agree to a proposal such as yours. I just re-read this sentence. Not the best wording but I think you will get what I'm saying. I'm old and tired, lol.

It is not a good look to be so adamant about your pic. I'm nobody, but you will have to change your approach to have any success, especially if you want someone that is not a scammer or the like.

You come across as having something to hide. I wish I could say differently.

Best wishes on your cuddle quest.

starrynitecuds

@Falco Most people on this site won't post on the forums because of the potential of being attacked for helping. Happens all the time here!
(DMs are better anyway, more personal.)

Falco

@achetocuddle: thank you for your kind words; you never know what people are going to do with your picture, but I do! 😁

Well, jokes aside, even if I'm less of a target, being a man, I've read about the odyssey of a poor girl who innocently gave her picture(s) to the wrong people and ran through a hell. I want to spend my time in a better way than that. Maybe cuddling, if possible, but safety comes first. And I mean the real one, not the perceived one. I can offer safer methods for both. As I said in another forum, I would be OK for signing an agreement with policemen, but even if you're the best person in the world, I cannot know it right now and so I can't trust you beforehand unless you sign a GDPR-like agreement.

@achetocuddle: that said, even if you had your post rooting for me, safety comes first.

@starrynitecuds: Unfortunately, I've discovered it before reading your reply! 😅

Suggestion for everybody: you can read the public and reply in private.

Carrie_Anne

I would be very surprised if you would find anyone interested unless possibly if you paid for a Pro.
Your reputation here precedes you and has been a turn off. I think you have zero understanding of women and what they think & want in a Cuddler.
You have been rude to me in DMs and on the forum so I will not bother to use sweet comforting words before showing you reality.