Ahhh I have my settings set to send me notifications but I’m just seeing all the responses. @pmvines the points you make are very important. Are you aware of platforms or whatever I could direct people who are looking for extra services to? I feel telling them I don’t offer such services moves them on to find newer cuddlers to take advantage of? Or in that case does one just report? I feel if that’s the case over 90 present of people looking for cuddles on here would be banned. If men are not reporting the women offering more even if they don’t partake how can that be addressed?
@ReltvlyCanshes
there are other site and apps for stuff like that…
And some of those sites post direct links to profiles on this site.
I discovered those links while reviewing where traffic to this site comes from (bookmarks vs search engines vs direct links from other websites). About 8% of CC traffic comes from adult websites according to a subscription Internet traffic monitoring service I used.
Last November I offered to provide a list of those websites linking to CC so their links could blocked. But instead of accepting my offer, someone deleted my thread.
Nope. Kvetching about Pro pricing is not allowed in the General Forum. There's a whole thread to complain about it elsewhere. No can do it here. [-Sid]
@CuddleBoost Please report. You don’t need to be a referral service, I’m sure those type of men know exactly how to find those kind of websites. We intentionally don’t list the names here, nor offer info on sex sites, please don’t. Anyway that’s how I personally feel about it.
@CuddleBoost - Do not give these people the time of day. Just report them. They aren't stupid. They know how to use Google to find what they're looking for.
Thank you for that!
Messages aren't monitored the mods can't get into people's accounts to monitor conversations unless it is someone they are investigating stemming from a complaint or report.
Thanks for clarifying, @pmvines. But I think @frankparker9 's point remains. People who don't want to get booted off the site won't say anything in a message against the terms of service, because they know they could get reported and then the messages read.
Not "monitored" in realtime, but investigated after a report is made. Six of one, half dozen of the other.
@JohnR1972 we have discussed what you've discovered before, my question now is at what point does this site become a "site like that" because it just may be and some of us missed the memo. I know there are some that follow the rules and see no reason to vary but could to ere be a majority that see this all together differently and treat it that way. Right under the rests noes.
@JohnR1972 - please message @Mark and @Gary with your findings. This is the first I've heard about this. In fact, feel free to flag any post and it will initiate a ticket. Thanks much.
@ReltvlyCanshes - Speculation. CC is a platonic site. The people who break the TOS and site rules, Pro or enthusiast, get shown the door: Banned Camp. Here's the unfortunate kicker: any banned person could appeal their ban. Some HAVE successfully appealed and were let back on - I'm talking about both Pros and enthusiasts.
A better question for everyone would be:
Should banned members be allowed back on?
THAT is the elephant in the room, not the accusations, innuendo, or speculation that CC is a den of iniquity.
@Sideon i am not making accusations at all. I'm only speaking to what I've witnessed. Interactions I've had and reported. Experience tells the story and experiences i read in the forums tell a much louder story.
They aren't stupid. They know how to use Google to find what they're looking for.
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@Mike403 Smh...I don't know, Mike. 😆
I'm starting to believe that a lot of them (or they😆) are stupid and really don't know what Google (and it's purpose🤦🙄) is meant for. 🙄😆
Has anyone considered the con here because they found what they are looking for? I mean i know we'd like to think it's a certain away but some point you can't ignore what is happening.
It's also possible they are here precisely because what they are seeking is not allowed here. It's the lure of "breaking the rules" and trying to get away with something. That's not going to exist on a sex worker site.
This thread made me laugh. Thanks y’all.
@Katota - They know. They're predators trying to lure women into doing something that's not allowed here. It's like a game to them which doesn't give them the same thrill on a site for non-platonic encounters.
Has @starrynitecuds actually been banned? Or is she in Timeout and the site isn't set up to tell the difference? Because she is someone who puts in blood, sweat, and tears daily for this site to be a safe, platonic place.
@JohnR1972 posted: "About 8% of CC traffic comes from adult websites according to a subscription Internet traffic monitoring service I used. Last November I offered to provide a list of those websites linking to CC so their links could blocked. But instead of accepting my offer, someone deleted my thread."
Wow. 🤨
~ Sunset Snuggles
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@SunsetSnuggles - One of her posts on this thread got edited by @Sideon saying she's a previously banned member with an image of a ban hammer.
I wondered about why there’s no red ❌ on @starrynitecuds name if she’s banned, (which she is).
@g_w_t_w - They ran out of X's and have to order more.
@SunsetSnuggles
Because she is someone who puts in blood, sweat, and tears daily for this site to be a safe, platonic place.
I remember exchanging DMs with Starrynite around a year ago. The fact she was on here for around a year before being discovered to be a previously banned member STRONGLY suggests someone who knew her previously ratted her out for some reason.
So… what was the REAL motivation for someone to report her and get her banned? Was it BECAUSE she was so focused on helping to keep this site safe and platonic. It would be really hypocritical if the person who reported her happens to have a LONG history of violating forum rules himself. 🤔
No ❌ may have to do with the fact that the account was deactivated at that time of the ban. She was deactivated for a while and didn't even know until I asked / told her about it. A handful of people knew for a while. Maybe someone ratted her out and if that's the case than not cool at all, considering she contributed a lot, not only here in the chats but also what @SunsetSnuggles said. I am aware of the policy, but it is possibly one of those cases where it could have been overlooked and forgiven.
It makes me wonder why her other account was banned in the first place.
This is all interesting. Yes she put a lot of time & energy into getting out the non-platonic accounts, I appreciate that - we all benefit from that. But as @Mike403 said, why was she banned the first time? And isn’t it against the rules to make a new account after being previously banned? She deactivated first, before being banned so that’s likely why there’s no ❌ I wish the best for her, but she’s probably glad to be gone. Or she will be back!
In terms of message monitoring, I don’t know how it is actually done, but as clients, we are told messages with pros are monitored. There is no expectation of privacy. So it would be fine/preferred for mods to read as many messages as possible or use automated monitoring. I kind of assumed there’s at least a filter that looks for phone numbers exchanged before first booking; other sites do stuff like that, and I have heard of pros getting in trouble for breaking this rule. And as someone pointed out, even if messages aren’t reviewed in real time, if you say anything shady, you are creating a record that will be used against you later.
In cases where things are not so clear-cut, I don’t envy the job of the mods. I do think they kick out a lot of pros, and in some cases clients make false reports to get back at pros who turn them down for things. A pro who sends anything inappropriate to a client in a text message is being particularly foolish, I think, because the client can screenshot and report it, if they feel like it. Even if the client’s intentions aren’t wholesome either, he now has the power to get the pro kicked out.
I know one or two pros who got suspended or banned without good cause, according to them, and did not get to share their side of the story and be heard. I’m sure mods would say all attempts are made to do so and be fair. No one ever knows the whole story in these things, so I can’t judge. I’m just saying, I don’t believe the mods are as absent or lenient when it comes to policing pros as some people suggest.
@starrynitecuds was a previously banned Pro for non-platonic activities whom appealed and was reinstated, and she had created other accounts.
Ratted out? Sit down with your conspiracies. She ratted herself out. Pride goeth before the fall, and all that.
I think members that were banned for giving out there phone numbers too quickly should be given one more chance. Or anyone that had another profile on other websites in the past but was not during their time in cc should be reinstated.
If someone sends me a message with just their phone number it makes me think they’re looking for sex. Because why would you have a problem with sending a message on here unless you were going to ask me to do something inappropriate? I never respond to people who give me their phone number in one shot.
@curvyycuddles - please report them. Every time.
@Sideon Thank you for giving us clarity on @starrynitecuds. That is so out of character from what I experienced with her in PM, and very disappointing to me. 😔 This is sad information.
@g_w_t_w even if someone shows a lot of skin in their pictures, doesnt mean they are offering anything. Sad to see people thinking in these lines.