Logically, I should have the energy of two 23 year olds.
Good one!
@HealingSystem posted: "Are peoples ages on here actually true?"
Mine is. Judging from the five or six people who jumped to defend an anonymous person who someone mentioned had lied about their age by seven years, recently, I no longer have automatic trust in this lot. 🤪
@HealingSystem posted: "are there really people on here that are that old?"
The oldest I've cuddled is 75. The oldest I've messaged was 80-something. Anyone listed over 100 has typically been someone in their 50's, trying to be cute. 🙄
@CuddleDuncan posted: "In my experience the vast majority of ages listed here are true."
You checked their ID's, eh? 😅
@JoyfulHeart posted: "111.1 years old is pretty impressive. 😁"
@Morpheus posted: "There’s a pro on here in particular whose age varies in a range of about 20 years."
Pathetic.
@QuietTimes posted: "I am pleasantly surprised that it doesn't matter to many pro cuddlers."
They're getting paid, frequently by men who are divorced or in touchless marriages. They'd be out of business fast if they decided to enforce ageism.
@g_w_t_w posted: "Is the actual age from our DL the most important to people or is it the way we look, our state of mind, our way of conversation, our point of view our health?"
Age is irrelevant to me. But honesty is very relevant. Looks/attraction shouldn't factor into platonic cuddling, in my opinion. Health shouldn't matter, unless you're going to infect someone with something. State of mind and point of view don't have to align, that's what makes getting to know people fun. Way of conversation, yes.
What's most important to me is clicking with the person as a friend, feeling they are trustworthy, and both of us respecting boundaries.
~ Sunset Snuggles
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@jimmylee the longer I’m 93, the more I enjoy it. I’m fine just the way it is. It’s always surprised me how often a profile isn’t actually read by people clicking on it.
@interalia626 No one should take themselves so seriously. According to that same study....
I once cuddled with someone whose profile said 100 years old and she was from Antarctica. She wasn't either. Very pleasant person who wasn't looking for a lot of cuddles.
@Snickerdoodle17 I bet she was one of the cooler ones, right?
@g_w_t_w good point about people not reading the profiles. I've been guilty of scanning a profile.
@SunsetSnuggles
I wasn’t trying to be cute. I was trying to be honest. But the site wouldn’t let me enter “none of your business” as a DOB.
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It’s strange question to be expected to answer. This is especially true in the context of pro cuddling and in the US, where protection against age discrimination prohibits prospective employers from asking almost any age-related questions.
@MonkeyNeedsAHug They get around that by asking your college graduation date.
It's not just the age that people are being discreet just look at the people's username that says it all
Don't presume to speak for others and in most cases how would I know if someone shades a few years either way, but for me the age on my profile is my true age. 🤷♀️
@WriterGF
There are ways to skirt both the spirit and the letter of the law. But those dates are redacted from my resume and I have never been asked anything too specific about it. (Maybe they are more careful interviewing attorneys).
Except for the month my age as shown on my profile is correct.
just look at the people's username that says it all
😁👍
@marc89144 Lol!😀 I have to agree some of these usernames are a dead giveaway for people's obvious reasons of joining CC. Smh!🙄😆
I reported one that had "xyzmushroomtip" as their username, like really? 😔🙄
Perhaps, it's a "code word" for something else maybe related to Mario Bros...??? Lol 😜
As I am Gen X, and I am behind the times on what lingo is considered "hip to the cool kids" these days. But only one thing comes to mind with a username like that...😏
So just in case it isn't (and that I am not wrong in my overthinking) I did report.😁👍
It’s always surprised me how often a profile isn’t actually read by people clicking on it.
@g_w_t_w Ha! Me too. 😁👍
@MonkeyNeedsAHug You may well be right. I spoke to a woman on LinkedIn the other day who had been complaining about age discrimination and told her to delete her graduation date off her profile and cut her resume down to the last 10-15 years. Most places, the graduation date question is optional, but not all. And I have seen few job applications where they flat out ask you for your birthdate as a mandatory question.
I had a wonderful conversation with a woman enthusiast who visited my profile. She did not have a photo and her age was shown as significantly older than me but still a very plausible age to be on the site. We had a great conversation via DM over the course of a couple days then she shared with me she was actually a little younger than me but had inflated her age on her profile because when she first created her account she was getting too much of the wrong kind of attention from men.
And I have seen few job applications where they flat out ask you for your birthdate as a mandatory question.
I am pretty sure that isn’t legal but I don’t doubt that some places still do it (just like they are not supposed to ask about marital status or children).
Would it not be legal in every state? For every job?
Of course they can ask you your age. In CA you have to be 21+ to serve alcohol. The restaurant owner needs to know your age. It becomes illegal when you discriminate due to age (for example, a club refusing to hire someone over the age of 40, for instance).
Years ago I was denied a job simply because I am male. I'm pretty sure that's illegal.
I’m sure the 101 was just to fill in the necessary field, although I do however have a theory that there are a lot of people that do fib about at least one thing here- like age, weight/body type, or heavily edited photos. Just a thought.
@BashfulLoner @jimmylee You are right, I was going from what I was told by the HR department when I was a hiring manager several years ago. It is legal to ask about age but it was against the company policy to ask because the company was afraid if someone wasn’t hired after they divulged their age it would open the company to a lawsuit.
However the company was absolutely paranoid about lawsuits. One of my direct reports had applied to work for a 3 letter agency and I got a phone call from someone within that agency who wanted to interview me as a part of my employee’s background check. HR insisted the interview take place in their office with them present and they repeatedly interrupted me to prevent me from answering legitimate questions about my employee. The interviewer showed his credentials and gave HR a copy of a form signed by my employee giving me his permission to answer any question the interviewer asked but none of that mattered.
I ended up escorting the interviewer out to the parking lot where I answered his question without the oversight of HR.
Some of my clients have 100% lied about their age. I know some who've lied about their age a whole 20 years😂 I think it's just funny when they slip up while telling me a story about their college days in the 80s-90s or something like that because they get comfy with me.
That is funny, lol.
Nobody likes you when you're twenty-three, according to a 1999 study by DeLonge, Hoppus, and Barker.
@interalia626: and are still more amused by TV shows/prank phone calls. 😁 Thank you, you made my day! I think 1999 is one of the best years for those studies. Another one from other authors (but same year) suggests to "Pay your surgeon very well to break the spell of aging", which makes me think why some people believes that aging is a spell instead of a blessing!
Mine is. I have been told I look younger than my age so it's a complimentary position for me to be in. The converse in that aspect is true too with stating an age too young... It might not be mentioned but the thought may very well be... You aren't aging that well then. Just own it... We're all only heading one way.
Yep but no one believes me.