Flakes

Janelle19Janelle19
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Cuddlers please for the love of all that's good and holy only book a session if you can follow through, with no communication at all if something has come up . I assume you're a flake and 95% of the truth me I've already paid my sitter. I will not see you or plan to after this. I just know only say find a different cuddle buddy. Now if you cancel cuz work or anything else as like long as there is some courtesy and communication that's cool. Why are men like this? I'm thinking power fynamic

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  • GuyverGordonGuyverGordon

    I'm sorry that has happened...

  • TxTomTxTom

    Why are men like this?

    Probably due to a combination of being inconsiderate a-holes, and just the extremely informal nature of this site.

  • Janelle19Janelle19

    It's ok but this is why I refuse to see them, unless you communicate like any courtesy human being would do . I will not book or see you

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    It's not men. Women do exactly the same thing, it's just that all your clients are men.

  • SeekerInVASeekerInVA

    Why are the certain subset of men that have booked with you in your specific geographic location and time zone like this?

  • JennaBethJennaBeth

    @Janelle19 So sorry you had to deal with this, probably for the 100th time :/
    Maybe consider requiring a deposit prior to meeting, at least for new clients. I’ve done this and it’s made ALL the difference 😊
    It weeds out flakes and I’ve not had any non-communication issues since. also I’ve had zero problem with good clients being willing to pay deposit. 💜

  • Janelle19Janelle19

    You know what I can't explain it . Or even fathom why. But it's like ok I paid my sitter already cuz we agreed on x time. And they don't show. So I just think it's rude and disrespectful so when they want to book again, I nicely tell they they would be better served finding another cuddle buddy. I'm not gonna be a doormat just because I'm mice

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    @Janelle19
    I’m also very sorry this has happened to you and unfortunately it does to so many people on this site. Just bad clueless behavior and lack of respect for other humans.
    💯 Definitely require a small deposit for anyone new!
    Especially when you have actual out of pocket expenses you pay to make a session possible for them. Also cost of driving to them if you’re not hosting.
    Some people are so self-absorbed and being empathetic has never occurred to them.
    And you’re also missing out on another possible session with someone who does pay and is considerate.
    I just don’t get today’s culture of people being so thoughtless and selfish It truly is not the environment I grew up in. It’s Just more entitlement when people think - I’ll get what I want and I don’t give a sh*t how my actions affect others. Low level people imo.

  • Janelle19Janelle19

    I never considered a deposit, only because it kinda feels impersonal. But I guess I no have to consider the idea

  • [Deleted User]lovelydelight28 (deleted user)

    So grateful for those who follow through with their sessions, but I totally have been cancelled on. It sucks.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    Yeah, sadly, you do. People complain about being asked to pay deposits, but this is why they're being asked.

  • pmvinespmvines
    edited October 2024

    No flakes are exactly the same l, just like fingerprints

  • _marC_marC

    🥣

  • Janelle19Janelle19

    pmvines nope all the same entitled pos

  • ReltvlyCanshesReltvlyCanshes

    Head and shoulder works i hear

  • friendlyj311friendlyj311

    Yes totally agree!! I had 3 of those today. Absolutely ridiculous and a complete waste of my time.

  • SoosonSooson

    Flaking is not unique to men.
    And apparently neither is pissing and moaning, right @pmvines ? 🤣🤣🤣

    I got flaked by two pros after a booking was confirmed. On the other hand, I never flaked on anyone and never will.

  • pmvinespmvines

    All genders piss and moan it's only natural

  • BrianOceanBrianOcean

    Somehow the "Deposit" topic has found its way into this thread.

    @Janelle19 -Time wasters are always annoying not matter what the gender or situation.

  • KittyPukkaKittyPukka

    Unfortunately 😕 I too have been a victim of flakes 🥹🥲

  • Allen1974Allen1974

    I always liked frosted flakes. Tony the tiger marketing worked.

  • VitaminJVitaminJ

    Cancellation with communication and notice = considerate
    Last minute cancellation with communication and/or pay cancellation fee= not ideal but we are good and you may book with me again
    Ghosting or cancel last minute without paying fee= no more access to me
    I sometimes do a deposit if there is driving or zero karma client involved. Case by case basis.

    I don’t book hotels or outlay cash without deposit unless I’m traveling and booking many clients. I’ve done dumbs things like paid for an uber, etc and had client ghost. Never again!

    I like to have communication and confirmation leading up to the cuddle 24 hours before and day of. I have been burned before and it’s so…frustrating. But mostly have had amazing clients who show up and good outweighs bad.

  • KatotaKatota

    Probably due to a combination of being inconsiderate a-holes, and just the extremely informal nature of this site.

    @TxTom 😁👍

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    This is definitely a genderless topic as I have been cancelled on a few times at the last minute over the years and I know pros have been cancelled on by clients. There are enough flakes to go around for everyone and I think the ability to digitally do it without actually calling the person engenders flaking by taking the easy way out, especially when it is based on a lie.

  • KatotaKatota

    I never considered a deposit

    @Janelle19 At least request a deposit to cover "time wasted babysitting fees", I remember having to pay babysitting fees for my kid when he was young and in need of one then. Sighs...Which were many, as I could not always afford to pay my main sitter all the time!😊

    I was SO HAPPY when he turned 11 and said, "Mom, I don't need a babysitter. I can stay home."

    Lol! Those words brought tears my eyes, AND relief to my purse. It was beautiful!😂😁

  • KatotaKatota

    All genders piss and moan it's only natural

    @pmvines Yep! 😊👍

  • ReltvlyCanshesReltvlyCanshes

    Part of the reason people flake could be they are nervous about what they are getting in to. They could have gotten the feeling what they are expecting is different than what they believe is being offered;, or they are not clear in what to expect. If they believe they are paying for an hour cuddle at $100 dollars but then it seems like there will be additional cost or more than they expect they bail. There is the people who want something other than is agreed upon and they feel their time is going to be wasted. Either way it's probably a communication issue.

    I mean there are plenty of other reasons of course. Just offering that.

    I've cuddled not knowing what to expect and been surprised and disappointed. But the most satisfying are after clear communication. If both are new it's probably difficult to describe. If the pro is new they could be explaining something in a way that seems great to a regular enthusiast but to a newbie is unsettling. It's not always that you need a deposit you may just need to make a new person feel comfortable in what they are doing.

  • [Deleted User]Ihavenoidea2 (deleted user)
    edited October 2024

    I had a pro cancel on me 45 minutes before the session was scheduled to start just the other night.

  • pmvinespmvines
    edited October 2024

    As much as people complain id be afraid to make plans with anybody for fear of them accusing me of ruining their life if something came up

  • Janelle19Janelle19

    To be clear this isn't a male vs. female topic.nits more about basic human decency.

    And to those who are only here to joke and make light... Isn't there a dad joke thread you should be on?

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