Cuddle Porn

edited September 2017 in General

pmvines and I were discussing earlier what a great cuddle would be like. I'm going to put his questions to me out here for all to answer, as I think it's a great topic!

"What would you consider to be an ultimate cuddle? Like if you could be completely spoiled and selfish and let someone do whatever you like, how would it go?"

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  • I don't know if I could describe my ultimate cuddle. I can talk about some of the best sessions that I've had. I try to never put expectations on session and like them to just let them be what they are going to be.

  • edited September 2017

    The question isn't about past sessions or expectations. It is about if you could have everything exactly the way you wanted (naturally, within the constraints of the cuddle agreement) and it was all about you and not what you would give back, what would you ask for?

    I would make any or all of the following requests for things I find particularly delicious: hold me tight; cradle my head while I rest it on your shoulder; massage my neck, shoulders, head, hands, feet or anything else; caress my face; me the little spoon and you hug me tightly then switch with me the big spoon; face to face cuddle, one of my legs draped over your hip, as we look in each other's eyes, touching faces and running hands through hair. These are a few of my favorite things!

  • [Deleted User]DeliMan (deleted user)

    @blueiris I think what you just described would probably be the ultimate cuddle session for just about anyone

  • edited September 2017

    @DeliMan Thanks! But I bet others may have some ideas I haven't thought of, and that's what inquiring minds want to know!! :) Come on, cuddle people! Don't be shy!

  • Awww thats sweet, you described sessions with me, @blueiris hehe. Just kidding but I get pretty darn close ;P

    My perfect session is either comfortably silent, or great connection while having conversations we both enjoy. Insense and candles lit, jazz playing, Trading arm tickles or head scratches is one of my fav things! Super relaxing :p the whole feel of the environment is super important to me :)

  • Hugs on meating the person.. from there I'll take any form of cuddling ^^ I love deep long conversations but a quiet emotional cuddle while sobbing during bad mood swing is priceless.. soo after meet up in city go around to get a coffee or tea especialy in cold weather.. arms locked like old couples in love do with the elbows and stuff.. then have some lovely movie put on TV while lying on a sofa next to each other.. fingers of our hands intertwined as she lays her head on my shoulder and I lay mine on top.. leaned to each other we would tire ourselves of watching movie so we would get up and together prepare dinner.. :D there it is the time for the deep long conversations over the glass of vine ^^ and the fun preparing lovely meal ^^ after that the ultimate goal is to fall asleep in spooning position me being the big spoon.. left hand of my would be under her head (or pillow basicaly ) and my right hand would hug her while palm resting on her chest feling the heartbeat and hers on top of mine while our fingers are intertwined.. hugging tightly in this conforting position we would fall asleep.. ^^
    well that's the ultimate session.. for day like that I would be eternaly thankful :D

  • edited September 2017

    @Brandi, hey I thought you promised never to tell... LOL! ;)

    For me, the closeness naturally leads to conversation, which must include laughter!

    @Bali, now that's what I'm talkin' bout, Willis!!!

  • Not sure as there is nobody in my area to cuddle with lol. But I really do quite enjoy a lot of closeness, face to face, tight hugging, like to give and get rubs/scratches. Prob more on the giving end then getting. Also depends on comfort level. I wouldn't be snuggling up with someone who I were not already comfy and familiar with, and had some rapport. So i think its just a learning curve getting to know the person and what you are both ok with. And yes, its platonic, but some people treat it as being very sterile and clinical. I think when you can find a good cuddle pal who you trust and are comfy with, then just see how things progress and what you are comfortable with.

  • I'm a little uncomfortable with the term "cuddle porn" if we're trying to keep it platonic. I mean, even something like "bike porn" has the implication that considering the subject is so good it's almost erotic.

    That said, I think my Most Perfect Cuddle Session would involve both deep and mutually fascinating conversation and undistracted silence; in either case it's not distracted on either end.

    Physically, I think it would start with just my partner leaning her head on my shoulder, and then me putting my arm around her as she leans more on me. We'd hold hands, eventually I would give a back/shoulder/neck massage. Eventually we'd both lie down and sometimes embrace facing one another, sometimes spooning with her as the little spoon and me as the big one. At some point I think we'd drift off to sleep still holding one another.

    And then huevos rancheros for breakfast.

  • @BlueIris thank you ^^ I am new here :D just signed up.. and I found out that the closest person to cuddle is more than 100miles away :D so I'll have to relly on the random people I get to know in my town :D

  • @pmvines you say that you wouldn't be snuggling up with someone who you were not already comfy and familiar with.. so for you is cuddling about the emotional relief ? like you have to have trust in the person so you can mentaly and physicaly vent to them by this closeness ?
    I guess I could do the snuggles with anybody if we agread on basic terms and respect each others boundries.. I even thought to do FB account to promote cuddle buddy companionship in my area.. bcs I am more of a giver.. well don't get me wrong I do enjoy and take away some of that lovely feeling from session.. but I admit :D I am the people pleaser of sort.. I love to be helpful and basicaly there for everyone.. (totally enneagram type 2 :D )..

  • edited September 2017

    @JT1980 The Cuddle Porn phrase is meant to be a joke, along the same lines as food porn. Try not to take life so seriously, dear. You'll live longer. :)

    Plus it's working GREAT as a hook!! Have you seen how many views this thread has gotten already??? =)

    @Bali Tried to send you a private message earlier, but the forum bot says I have exceeded my message sending allowance for today. [Sulk.]

  • @BlueIris, yeah, I get the joke, don't get me wrong. But there's been some strife regarding people not keeping things platonic, and I wanted to help keep things from going too far into discomfort zones for some.

    But you're right, it's a real clickbait title for sure ;) Next up, "This one weird cuddling trick infuriates doctors!"

  • @Bali I do have to feel comfortable with someone and feel some level of connection before cuddling with them. I know there are others who see it more as a type of touch therapy and energy exchange to be given quite freely, but I'm a little more guarded. Also even in the platonic sense, there can be a lot of intimacy and closeness and space sharing that i would not feel comfortable with a stranger.

  • I actually have a blog dedicated to cuddling and along with some other more risque things.

  • @JT1980 "Next up, "This one weird cuddling trick infuriates doctors!"" LOL! Can't wait to read that one!!

    @pmvines "I do have to feel comfortable with someone and feel some level of connection before cuddling with them. I know there are others who see it more as a type of touch therapy and energy exchange to be given quite freely, but I'm a little more guarded. Also even in the platonic sense, there can be a lot of intimacy and closeness and space sharing that i would not feel comfortable with a stranger."

    I feel exactly the same way.

    @jmbank So give us a link to your blog!

  • edited September 2017

    Of course no matter what my perfect cuddle is, I would of course have to have a cuddle pal first lol. There are quite a few people here who I would love to cuddle the crap out of, but of course they are in MD, TX, VA, CA, TN, NC, FL, the UK....The list goes on and on and on

  • edited September 2017

    @pmvines: Cuddling the crap out of someone would make for some very weird cuddle porn.

  • @aaronchi there is a website for everything these days

  • It is all about connection! My ideal cuddle session would entail an immediate connection that would grow from there. We would be able to talk about any subject. Whatever position we are in would be what is comfortable to us both at that time. We would both give and receive equally.
    <3 Jim

  • [Deleted User]VIPirate (deleted user)
    edited September 2017

    Previous statement rescinded.

  • [Deleted User]DeliMan (deleted user)

    @I_am_Polylover
    I think a lot of our connections begin here in the forums.

    And that is a good thing
    Dale

  • Oh my goodness @Brandi
    [quote]Trading arm tickles or head scratches is one of my fav things![/quote]

    The arm thing for me is amazing. I can feel tingling all through my body when people lightly touch my arm just right, It's amazing.

  • [Deleted User]cuddlefan1 (deleted user)

    My ultimate cuddle would be... we would have the cuddle mattress (you know the one with the slats to put your arm in so it doesn't fall asleep while it's wrapped around your partner-I really want one of those!) We would both be wearing light soft tshirts and cotton shorts or pants, something breatheable and the room is slightly cool so our bodyheat is comfortable together - nothing to constricting (no jeans or button down shirts) he's laying on his back and I'm curled in laying on his chest with my leg draped over/on him. We are listening to comedy on Iheart radio... we don't have to talk... he's lightly touching/rubbing my leg and/or my back... it's nice and quiet except for the radio and fan (I need air flow lol). Pretty simple.

  • [Deleted User]cuddlefan1 (deleted user)

  • edited September 2017

    @bali You described it perfectly, all the little nuances that I like. I do agree with @pmvines, it would take an immense level of comfort to feel that kind of intimacy that I love best. I think it would take a very special person. There are some I can meet in an instant and feel totally comfortable, because I can just tell they are someone I can totally trust. With the right person, that would be the experience I would want. Total embracing each other, all outside worries just vanish and it's a day made just for us and falling asleep in each other's arms.

    @cuddlefan1 Yes, I've been thinking about those too. Conventional cuddles to require some shifting, even when you're completely comfortable. I'll say in a spot for a while, especially when the other person is in that perfect spot and you don't want to move. I have wondered if that special bed would make a difference. I enjoy having the head rested on my shoulder and the arm is free to give back scratches and rubs. Though I like being as close as possible and some positions the arms almost seem to get in the way and I wouldn't want my partner to have their arm circulation to cut off.

    @pmvines Again, totally agree on that, there are a few I know, but all are very far from me, or even across the pond that I would give anything for and are ones that I feel unconditional feelings for I would cuddle like no tomorrow. Distance is a difficult thing to have to bear.

  • Hook, line, and sinker with the title (click-bait!), but it's an enjoyable thread. Thanks for initiating, @blueiris!

    Comfort level and mileage may vary for folks. As others have said more eloquently than I can, it would take getting to know someone and a good level of trust on my part. Big/little spoon? No problem. Head on someone's chest or vice versa? No problem. But face to face? Not immediately, not even for Jake Gyllenhaal or Angelina Jolie. I'm not sure why I find that so incredibly intimate, but I do.

  • [Deleted User]nahp (deleted user)

    I personally had my best cuddle from someone on this site. I cuddled with her twice the 2nd time wasn't nearly as good cause i was exhausted and it takes me an hour+ to get to her house. Partly why I stopped going over there... I would go back if we talked about it. but we turned out to become good friends on facebook and through text.

    Anyway, it was really good because we both cuddled each other equally if that makes sense. it wasn't just big spoon little spoon normal boring stuff. it was her squeezing me and me squeezing her. like we both really needed it. It was netflix and chill but we were actually chilling and watching the tv wasn't even part of it. So much better without the TV to be honest. it was my first from this site and most fulfilling cuddle I've ever had. Now I'm actually kind of feeling like giving up on this whole thing.

  • [Deleted User]AntoineD (deleted user)

    I would really like something "organic" meaning that it just "happens" without a word spoken, as if connected telepathically - one would automatically see and understand what the other needs and feels, be connected this way.
    I believe I can, to a certain extend, go really deep into understanding what another person feels and seems to need ( though I might be mistaken of course ), but I feel a bit a lack of reciprocity and mutuality.
    Perhaps this is a unique competence and that's somewhat overwhelming to cather to another's needs while one's own aren't really taken into consideration ( it happened before, but I also lived through a cuddle session which changed my outlook on the matter and in which I felt deeply, deeply connected and enjoy that very much ).

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