Neanderthal males 😠

Bear65

I have recently had a community member cancel a meeting with me, not because of anything that I have said or done but the quantity of inappropriate messages received from the Neanderthal sector of the community.

These guys simply do not have the emotional maturity to be here, they do not understand the importance and benefits of human touch without things going further, we need to work out away of removing these rude, immature children and their poison before they drive away any more genuine female members, how we do that I don't know, any ideas ?

Huggycatbear

Two threads going. Sex workers and Neanderthal males. They sure do ruin it for the rest of us.

Especially for enthusiasts. I had finally connected with one and then she had a horrible cuddle with someone who was treating her like a piece of meat.

She came back for a bit and then deleted her account.

People need to really evolve their internal selves, but in a world of shortcuts, that kind of evolution be damned.

great_pillow08

On this site? You can’t! It’d have to be shut down, but in modern society? We have to start holding ourselves and others to a higher standard. This convoluted notion of what respect “looks like” based on personal perceptions and the “to each their own” mentality has corrupted what it means to be civil and it’s very literally going to lead to war.

I honestly think it’s been allowed to go on for so long that there’s no going back. The corruption has taken hold and everything’s become too “accommodating” in areas it never should have! We all have rights, but the lines of where those rights begin and end have become blurred by ever changing “feelings” so there’s no standard anymore.

disneysamurai

Unfortunately I’ve had that happen too. I had some great pros who ended up deleting their accounts. All you can really do is set a good example and be the ideal cuddle partner.

Huggycatbear

@great_pillow08 spitting facts:

The corruption has taken hold and everything's become too "accommodating" in areas it never should have!

pmvines

The culture of neanderthalism will continue as long as people are not held accountable , continue to not self reflect, continue to lack insight, continue to promote it as normal,and continue to become hyper defensive when it is spoken about. I am just waiting for the complaints about male bashing , men's rights , and misandry.

Bear65

I'm guessing there are trigger words and hopefully emojies too that lead to the sender being banned but by then the damage has been done, at least they get removed before they do too much destruction I hope 🤔

Bear65

Male bashing ? What about basic human respect both ways and basic human maturity, these guys need to grow up or get out ! 🫤

TheMidnightOwl

The culture of neanderthalism will continue as long as people are not held accountable, continue to not self reflect, continue to lack insight, continue to promote it as normal, and continue to become hyper defensive when it is spoken about. I am just waiting for the complaints about male bashing, men's rights, and misandry.

@pmvines
Thanks for saying what I was about to. I’ll add one more thing — much of this issue also originates with women who can also be so quick to jump onto the victim blaming bandwagon against women who talk about their experiences with the Neanderthals. Mothers have a gigantic responsibility to help raise their sons to not be Neanderthals, and further to not normalize that behavior as just “boys will be boys.” Fathers also have a gigantic role to play in this by modeling what it looks like to respect women, understand consent, learn how to communicate like human adults, and not be entitled to our bodies and labor. This is a worldwide issue that everyone plays a part in either creating, perpetuating, or stopping. As long as this kind of behavior is considered normal for men, this issue will plague us. And it’s very hard to reform the Neanderthals into decent, emotionally intelligent, respectful men. We have the report and ban option here. Unfortunately there’s no simple, foolproof way to catch them as they come into the door of the site so to speak.

TxTom

According to 23andMe, my Neanderthal ancestry is less than 4%.