Are you getting good Karma? I have a feeling that it maybe more difficult for men to get good Karma. Especially men like me that are not paying professional.
No, I don't find it hard to have positive karma, but I also typically already have a good rapport and friendship with someone prior to meeting. So it's not like I'm meeting people cold turkey site unseen. We already know each other and what to expect, so there's a comfort level and organic nature to it.
Also, it helps to not be an ass hat
Protip: seeing a professional cuddler is cool and fun and half the time you get a nice karma comment which feels good
Ive had a few and Its went very well but never received any karma, I like to think that they are keeping me as thier secret favorite lol 😆 yeah right!
I normally find some dirt on my cuddle partner, then leverage that into quality karma. It’s like a karma insurance plan.
But really, what @pmvines said. Don’t be an asshat, be a fedora.
I prefer a good newsboy cap myself
Remember. I'm not just the president of the cuddle karma care club for men. I'm also s client . (Christ I just dated myself big time )
While not everyone you cuddle with will give you karma, all you really have to do is be nice and respectful and provide a safe, comfortable and enjoyable experience for your cuddle partner.
Being the right kind of hat will definitely help— also, communicating with your cuddle partner, whether or not they are paid professionals, that you would like to exchange karma would likely go a long way to obtaining some.
That said, in my experience, a significant proportion of enthusiast women do not leave karma for a number of reasons, including wanting privacy, and that should be respected. If you really desire karma that much, booking with a pro and communicating that desire to them will be your best chance at success.
I leave Karma for all the men I cuddle with, and I'm a female enthusiast (not a Pro), so from my perspective, it's not hard for men to get Karma. 😄
But what is generally known to be hard is for men to break into cuddling, as a newbie without Karma. Shouldn't be that way, but alas...
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I am a professional and I always leave my clients karma unless they ask me not to. It helps them to get booked by others in the future, especially because I am often a client's first practitioner and their entry into this world. Not all my clients will stay with me long term, so this helps set them up to move successfully into either hiring another practitioner or just regular cuddling.
@Blake1844 I wish I could offer a solution for you, but I think the best I can do is offer empathy. I’ve cuddle with a couple of enthusiasts, and in both cases we cuddled multiple times. Neither left positive karma, but obviously it’s not a requirement to and I’m not entitled to it. We had a great time, and I’m grateful for the times we cuddled. Nevertheless, not having positive karma does probably make it more difficult to be set apart from those without it. Good luck my friend! ☺️
Not from enthusiasts but I've got pretty good karma from the pros I've seen, not all of them give karma at all tbh.
I usually ask my partner if they want to exchange karmas. Some do & some don't. I never leave karma without asking first because some people don't want karma for whatever reason. I'm an enthusiast who cuddles with other enthusiasts.
Honestly I don’t even think about. Unless someone mentions it it’s not something that’s on my mind at all. Sooooo sorry to those who I never left karma for! Not intentional, I just get spacey 🤣
@Blake1844, ask the people you cuddle with if they would have a problem giving you karma. Make it clear if they would prefer not to that's okay and it won't change your opinion of them or how you treat them in sessions going forward.
But let them know why it's important to you (you could let us know too, and maybe people can give you more tailored ways to get karma).
Your current cuddle partners may have a legitimate reason why they don't give karma or they may just not think about it. In my limited experience, some enthusiast are not looking to be part of a bigger cuddling community, they just want one or two people they can cuddle with, and that's enough. They don't want/need karma so they don't see value in it, so they're not thinking about it
I've been blessed with some great karma from a few of the pros I've cuddled with. Others don't leave karma but give me positive feedback personally. Everyone is different, which is one thing I enjoy about this place.
I have cuddled with a few guys that asked me to not leave Krama, I noticed there profile showed being straight and only cuddles women. I’m ok with that as I assume they just didn’t want people to know he cuddled with a guy.
Not hard at all... Manage expectations, treat with kindness and respect, pay them as agreed. Never a problem receiving karma.
If you want karma from a pro, it’s best to just ask. That’s what I’ve always done. They’ve always been happy to do it.
With enthusiasts … it’s not something I personally do or would ask for. That would feel like leaving a review of a friend haha. However if an enthusiast friend really wanted one, I’d oblige.
@waynewv is there a way to leave Karma anonymously? If not, I wonder if that’d be a good feature to have for when people want to be more private about who they cuddle with. Might be good for people who leave the karma too if they can keep it hidden on their profile that they’ve left karma for someone, but it still shows up on the other person’s profile as “karma from anonymous.” And perhaps the person whose profile you left it on can see who it’s from too. It’d mainly just be to keep others from seeing 1. Who a person has left karma for and 2. Who’s left karma for them.
I admit it might be an awful idea lol. I just read your post and thought about it. I don’t even know if you can currently see who all a person has left karma for.
@BigAndCuddly29 , yes I think that would be a good idea. No way to do it now that I know of. I wish I could have left Krama and not have to leave my name.
I definitely have a few favorite cuddlers I don’t want to leave karma for because I want to keep them all to myself. 😩😂 But this community has been so good to me that I always end up sharing the love anyway. 😁
I had a cuddler friend years ago tell me that it was very belittling to her as a woman to have a bunch of different men leave karma. She said imagine being a woman in an already oversexualized world, and your trying to provide a genuine service but have a bunch of different men giving reviews on how a woman cuddled them. She said she wants each client to meet her for themselves, without the expectation of what previous clients have put down about her. That made sense to me. And her explanation of how she felt as a woman having a bunch of men give reviews had me empathize with her quite a bit. So I don’t require them or give them unless requested.
Kaybloom , haha i knew that was the reason they didnt leave karma! 🤣
I honestly wouldn’t worry about it too much. I almost never check karma anymore because I’ve discovered on the 2nd or 3rd cuddle session, it becomes obvious why someone has a high number of good karma-
Demeaning insinuation redacted. - BlueIris
It’s become harder to find decent cuddle buddies because of this, but they’re still “here”, I believe. Most of mine are no longer on this site for various reasons, but you can’t take ANYTHING around here personally! It’s really NOT THAT serious!!
If i host i try to make sure the room is clean, sheets are washed that day, and regardless if i host or am a guest i always shower right before. So I think those help
Well after a couple of days I'm guessing Blake isn't chiming in so this topic isn't about his specific situation any more.
Is it hard to get good karma as a man? No. It's fairly easy. Don't be a jerk. (I am not directing that at anyone, just a general statement). The vast majority of karma on this site is positive, someone has to have a real bone to pick with you for them to give you poor karma.
Now, some people choose to NOT give Karma, their reasons vary, but not giving karma is very different than giving poor karma.
Before becoming a professional I always left karma for men unless they asked me not to.. as a professional I do the same.. gals gotta keep gals safe! 🤗