I'm wondering if anyone has had to end a cuddle session early. If so, what caused it? How did you go about ending the session without being rude? Have you cuddled with that person again?
Someone who reeked of cigarette smoke to the point that it lingered on the sheets after she left. 🤮
Nope. I get to know people beforehand and don't meet up with people who are apt to give me reason to leave.
I'm careful with my schedule and make sure my phone is on silent so nothing interrupts us. I often stay longer than agreed upon, if we vibe.
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Yes. I have. He got pushy with trying to be too handsy.. then had the audacity to blame me for his behaviors.
He was banned.
Ppl are unpredictable in person vrs online. No matter how long you speak to them, vet them out or think you know them . Some here, do have good intentions . Others do not.
I have 0 tolerance. I will kick them out, report them, block them and move on.
If I ended it short, chances are they were an immediate red flag. And I give zero, 2nd chances.
Yes I have and it was while being catfished yet AGAIN by ANOTHER pro showing up looking significantly different and much heavier than represented in her photos and body type description. (Please hold the backlash I’m not fat shaming anyone this is about transparency and deceit).
I tried to make the best of it but I couldn’t fake it and not wanting to hurt her feelings, I just cut the session short and said “it’s not you, it’s me”(even though a catfish knows she’s a catfish) but I was pissed. I took the high road, gave her the full amount and gently implied it was time to leave.
This has happened to me a number of times and quite frankly I’m getting tired of it.
On another incident as I’ll call it, after she came into my home, when I had politely mentioned how different she looked in person than her profile not only did tell me that she’s heard that before, but she actually had the gumption to admit she’s been rejected at the door before by other clients for being a catfish! One would think she would learn, but she had no shame about it. Again, I wanted to report her but didn’t want the drama and the worry she might make up some crazy lie and counter report me for some made up b.s. story; it’s quite unfair.
It makes me want to meet them at the curb to prevent some of this and I’ve even thought about penning an OP on this topic before but I haven’t. Maybe I will one day and call it “What’s the best way to deal with a catfish”?
@WestsideMarc I’m a pro, and I unfortunately hear catfish complaints from clients fairly often. I’m really sorry this has happened to you so many times — it’s incredibly frustrating.
I was wondering if it might help prevent this issue by asking a pro to send a quick selfie taken in the moment before the session? I’ve had clients request this from me, sometimes asking me to include a specific gesture (like a peace sign) to confirm that I’m the person represented in my profile photos. I’m always happy to do it.
Sadly, catfishing seems to have become much more common, so I completely understand why clients want that extra reassurance before meeting someone.
Yes, I have definitely had to do this , that is why I take payment upfront. If a cuddler decides to behave inappropriately, I am leaving. They usually are banned afterwards, I would assume other people have reported them.... 🤷
Absolutely. And let me just say, you can vet someone all you want to, get to know them ect. And do all the things… Some ppl are very good at “playing the game”.
Had a great sesh, good convo, respectful, made sure I was comfortable and BOOM! He made one slick move, flipped me over and shoved his whole damn face in my ass! 😳😳😳😳 Just because I’m small doesn’t mean I’m not feisty AF! I grew up gangster 🤣 Needless to say he got kicked in the face and I grabbed my stuff and left. Didn’t even collect payment that time, just wanted to leave ASAP. Wasn’t worth it to me. By the time I got home and attempted to report he was already banned. 🤷🏽♀️ I move with extra caution these days…and I too collect payment upfront now as well.
I certainly could have and maybe should have but I soldiered through and never saw those people again.
@WestsideMarc good on you. I had the same before. The pictures were the same person but obviously at least a few years old once we met. I decided to still hang out with her and we got along fine. After we met and of seemingly her own volition she changed her photos to more recent and accurate representations. I think she was new
@BrokenWillow So sorry that happened to you. You should change your user to brokenface. Based on that story @pmvines would have told you exactly what to have done in that scenario! Lol. Or maybe change it to FeistyAF…..
@Velvet_Heart Thanks for that. I was going to add this in to my original comment but thought it might be a bit superfluous, but since you had mentioned what you did, I had noticed a rather vast array of photos in her profile that varied quite a bit in appearance, age and such, so sensing a possible “situation”, I specifically asked her which of the photos was the most recent and accurate. She said her main profile pic so that sufficed for me. And still it turned out as it did.
For the record, aesthetics are by NO MEANS the only criteria for me here! Are they of fair importance to me? Sure. I’m guilty of being a man. But there are a number of other qualities and characteristics that get me to the Booking button, but I won’t bore you with those…
It's just not very reassuring when things start off with dishonesty.
@WestsideMarc I will be taking your name suggestions into consideration 🤣🤣🤣
I've had multiple clients show up looking SO different from the picture they sent me that I was unable to recognize them. I was appalled. I refuse to have sessions with people who do this. All my pictures are recent and I don't use filters either.
@SpicyNSweet (That sucks TOO. I am certainly not minimizing your experience; I’m only adding that it’s extra frustrating when you’re paying for the service). Both are not cool…..
Yes, I agree no one should be doing this. Client or pro or enthusiast.
@WestsideMarc I also lose money in these circumstances, after first driving to the meetup location and then losing the money from the session. I blocked out that time frame for the client and now it's lost. So we both are in the same boat really.
only once. he was an ex priest who kept going on and on about what other cuddlers "let" him do, non-platonically... beyond that the bulk of the conversation was him talking about sex... I wasn't even feeling unsafe, at a certain point I just did not want to be there anymore. I made it half an hour, gave him half the session fee back and ended it there.
I wrote a review for him too. He was upset about that and called me to leave a complaining voicemail. I believe he is banned now.
All the boundary pushers I had to deal with early on, this guy felt easiest to kick out, and he's the only one I didn't feel unsafe just uncomfortable which is an interesting distinction.
I confess, I look nothing like a jet airliner. I am slimmer than that. I look more like a drone.
The whole picture not matching the person is part of the reason I require at least a brief video chat first in most cases. Unless I've talked with them extensively first and have received multiple recent photos. I want to know who to look for when meeting up and know that they're being honest at a very basic level. I have zero interest in anonymous or semi-anonymous cuddle partners.
Exactly, @cuddlefaery
I was recently ended.
It was the second time we were meeting to cuddle. The first visit was absolutely amazing and so enjoyable.
Some days later she asked for another cuddle meet. Of course I was excited to meet and cuddle with her again.
In the midst of cuddle and chatting she asked about some of my personal beliefs. Evidently my beliefs did not align with hers and she politely asked me to leave.
I left.
I am certain we will not cuddle again. I presume she blocked me cuz she no longer appears where she did prior.
@sr182 I state in my profile beliefs I would prefer not to entertain or cuddle the people who hold those beliefs. But once in a cuddle I think that’s absurd to ask and then not accept the answer. That is more of a vetting question before the cuddle IMO. I am sorry that happened to you even if we do not align in beliefs (I don’t know if we are aligned or not—just saying). A cuddle should be a safe space of mutual respect. She should have just “don’t ask, don’t tell” the situation.
All my cuddle sessions have been great but that’s because I usually do some form of vetting prior, including a virtual call.
Sorry to hear that brokenwillow but glad you know karate
@trysdet oh I definitely know some things lol as we all should.
I have nothing to add excecpt some of these replice are making me LOL.
No but probably going to start doing that if it's appropriate