I am no contact with my father and I hope to never see him again. If I had to be in the same room, I’d try to tolerate it as long as possible and then remove myself as soon as I felt really uncomfortable. I’m not sure if this is good advice, I’m careful about my energy now and others’ and I would be nervous about “ruining” a good time for any others by letting them notice my feelings or anything. I’m sorry you’re going through this… hopefully you won’t have to see him again.
Hey, Sorry for your loss and about the situation; Be kind to yourself, you've made decision and have practiced saying no to others when you have to say yes for yourself, in this situatiion, its been years, dont lets yourself get sucked into that back and forth pattern, find a way to pause, check-in with yourself and if you feel a pattern is repeating, see how you can change the narrative using all the tools you have and some of the great suggestions given. Sounds to me your way more prepared than you think. And should a olive branch 🕊 🫒 arise, maybe you can find a way to let go or what was, embrace the present, being resentful of past stuff stinks, maybe let go a bit, melt your way 😉. Hugs and Embraces from afar.😊
@MeltMyWay Thanks for your weekend update! 🙏 Getting to hear how you were able engage your father on your terms, and then set it aside, to move on and focus on showing up to offer love and support for your brother and his family was very inspiring and heartwarming. Thank you so much for your generous and thoughtful gesture, with everything you are going through... taking the time to share with us. It can be so easy for me to get caught up in fear of emotional pain for really difficult situations and people, until that fight or flight mode will kick in for me and I will do every possible thing imaginable to just completely avoid that pain and fear... unable to even see how and where I might not show up for the people I love and care for (including myself!) when I get stuck in those dark places... I have so much admiration for what you managed to navigate and accomplish... I hope it's left you in a good place for the remainder of your trip, able to enjoy a rewarding visit, that lets you embrace those precious opportunities to relax and be present for friends and those you care for! 🤗
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