when is negative feedback allowed?

cuddlygamerbae

made plans this evening to meet.
time set and everything. cool

I mentioned I am 100% platonic

cuddler went silent, I ended up waiting an hour thinking we were still on,
he doesn't cancel, he doesnt respond at all tho

that was the last thing I said before he went silent was "im 100% platonic'" (he asked)

evening WASTED...I looked him up and he is listed on this site as having done basically the same thing before to a pro (unfortunately she gave him 5 stars yet wrote that he had been rude! I should have looked more closely)

ANNNND he is on a blacklist for the same behaviour two years ago.
bad behaviour on "sugar daddy" sites. NSNC.

I can read between the lines here, im not stupid. I understand what happened here

if I write my experience as feedback on his profile, when is it considered "retaliation'? and when is sharing your genuine bad experience ok? the review system seems to punish leaving a bad reviews and for that reason I missed the first bad review he had (she was afraid of leaving 1 star but wrote that she had a bad experience

I feel genuinely SICK to my stomach that I almost met this predator

You are allowed to leave karma if someone ghosts you. It's not retaliation if it's true and your conversations back up your review.

I'm so sorry you experienced that. But yeah, I say leave the bad karma. Probably best to block them as well. Maybe even leave a private note on their profile before blocking them so you know for the future (in case their username changes or something).

Sorry that happened. But I imagine it's very complicated for pro cuddlers to leave negative feedback. I'n addition to retaliation, that person has your contact info and in some cases knows where you live. That being said, leaving no karma is almost the same as 5 stars. There are "5 star" cuddlers who have driven be pros away from this site with their behavior. Karma is just an indicator, not the whole story. Reach out to fellow pros whenever in doubt.

@cuddlygamerbae

"he is on a blacklist for the same behaviour two years ago.
bad behaviour on "sugar daddy" sites."

Was this in his Karma? Where did you read this? It sounds like bannable behavior.

"if I write my experience as feedback on his profile, when is it considered "retaliation'?"

Retaliation is a response to bad Karma, so it inherently must be done by the second person.

@supertouch posted: "leaving no karma is almost the same as 5 stars"

Can you elaborate?

~ Sunset Snuggles

@SunsetSnuggles if someone with only 5 star ratings is acting like a fool, and people who experience the foolishish stay silent and do not rate appropriately, then the fool still has 5 stars, giving the impression that the fool in question is not, indeed, a fool. Adding that I totally understand why this happens and not sure how to fix except to normalize pros messaging pros about clients.

@supertouch
Got it, thank you for expounding!

Pro's definitely message Pro's about clients, and they have a private message board where they can share, as well.

I think we need to normalize 2, 3, and 4-star Karma's. If we only ever do 1 and 5, it gives no feedback to facilitate improvement. If an okay cuddler and a phenomenal cuddler are both given 5, it reduces the impact of the phenomenal cuddler.

It's hard to do, it feels very personal. But I think the usefulness of Karma is weakened dramatically unless the culture around it changes.

~ Sunset Snuggles

@SunsetSnuggles I wholeheartedly agree that the culture around leaving karma that accurately reflects the experience is needed. I also agree that it's hard because it feels personal.

It's a reflection of the corporate rating system, where only 4 stars means a write-up.