Some people need more help then a cuddle site can provide. That's unfortunate but true. The women cuddlers on this site are generally warm and loving people that are here to provide a cuddle service that will soothe, relax, and comfort their partners. We provide a safe place for emotions and an acceptance to all walks of life.
I am not a therapist. I'm a cuddler, and a damn good one I might add. (One of my glowing Karmas - "Breaking News! An Angel has fallen from heaven and now frequents among mortals. She takes heart-broken humans in her arms and restores them back through cuddling. The experience is divine.")
If you lack self-control, manners, respect and a general understanding of how to behave, handle that before you climb into my bed.
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You still dont get it.
Find comfort in helping one another feel validated. Both of you have no clue.
Literally, LOLing! We don't get it.... Actually, belly laughing!
It was nice seeing that some men are here who have basic respect in this thread . They didn’t try to lower the bar . Those are the ones I would happily cuddle with !!
Me too, Sister! To all of the cuddlers out there with common decency, respect, manners and that love and appreciate and understand women.... YOUR PROS LOVE YOU!!!!
@Love_Arcitect Once again you are hurling comments that you know full well are instigative and provocative and then trying to plead ignorance when you are called out. It is one thing to say that you do not automatically \know these things to be problems and that you wish to work on them, but what you are doing is saying this, and then when somebody attempts to provide you education as to why something is and provide needed criticism, you turn it into a fight and pretend to have done nothing to provoke, and blame everything that is wrong with your sentiment on the other person,. You will not only get nowhere that way, but it will leave you with very little credibility or support on here. And if your goal is indeed to find a cuddle, pal, particularly one you don't have to pay to spend time with you, this is not the type of attention you want to attract.
@cuddlebutTM and @Scarlette, you two have more patience and grace than I do.
My summary of the thread:
Behave inappropriately and push the platonic and romantic/sexual cuddle limits (straight guys, why is this so difficult to "get"?), then blame women for your poor choices and delusional expectations (the world doesn't revolve around your penis), THEN absolve oneself (depression!), followed by the inevitable men-are-so-misunderstood (clearly), women-have-too-high-expectations (seats down, close cabinet doors, thank you, please, etc), and you-all-don't-get-it sympathizers (look in the mirror, buddy). Bonus points: permanently scarred by "sex kitten."
Did I miss anything?
@Sideon - I love you!!!
Nope exactly right Sideon
To be clear, I'm not saying all gay guys are angels, either. I practice equal opportunity critiques, liberally.
Same with women , I’ve known a few very aggressive women and I will call out that crap too !!
@Sideon and @pmvines - You can always be counted on for the voice of reason. Super big hugs to you both!
I must admit I am rather confused as to why this thread was started.
It seems to me to be 'soapboxing' instead of actually wanting to enguage in informed discussion, but I could be missing something.
I think He was hoping people would agree that he wasn’t wrong with his behavior
I think murry is bored. My take is that he probably needs a conversation partner as much as he does a cuddle partner (if that is indeed what he is looking for).
He wants attention and this thread has put him front and center until the next new Cuddle Comfort Forum Drama makes its debut. And now here I am - party to it too! Lol
I do find many of his points presumptuous and dripping with condescension. "You must understand...", etc. and speaking in generalizations about men's attitudes on sex v. affection. Generalizations. We can do better than that.
The term mansplaining is overused these days and provocative (I am ready for the onslaught) - but in my opinion, his exchange smacks of it (mansplaining).
Ok - now back to our regularly scheduled programming...
I understand most of you lack empathy... So hey have a care.
@SjSpooner Its alright my bestie uses the term mansplaining all the time lol. That is nothing compared to the conversations we have had resulting from the womens rally she attended this past weekend. Most of us who aren't part of the problem have thick skin
@Love_Arcitect It is not about empathy. You are again attempting to provoke
Youre correct I am provoking them to have a care... Good job @pmvines
"sex Kitten" Absolutely uncalled for and seems forced. The person asked an unrelated question. "Not rate my picture."
*Like many others, I too did not find that remark complimentary.
It's one's own responsibility to know what not to say in certain situations, settings and or at certain times. One would......... or at least should know better not to make crude jokes in front of kids/youngsters, in different social settings and in most workplaces, or walk up to their boss and tell them how "sexy" they look.
Men and women are not that different either when it comes to respect and most things.
A person's looks especially in a Platonic setting like this has little to nothing to do with the connection. Unless one is giving friendly and general compliments like the ones one would give their family members and friends or a stranger they sat with for a while.
Peace.
Good job @pmvines!
@Scarlette well I do try
Agreed.
The probability of this being troll/bait is too high to ignore.
To me it really seems a one 'man's attempt at first being inappropriate and then trying to create drama out of it.
Out of here.
Funny thing is, once you have been around a while, you tend to notice a pattern with some of the trolls that are eerily similar. Almost as if they are same people with different accounts. Once there were as many as 4 on here at the same time all the same person. And from time to time someone will pop up, disappear, get banned and what not, then a while later someone else is there to take their place, only they seem an awful lot like trolls of Christmas past.
@pmvines I think you're right. I kept think that no one could really be that idiotic and clueless.
I would not have been as nice as her. And i am a nice person. Ijs.
smh are you serious right now! You do not understand this guy either.. I guess you dont really understand what he is trying to accomplish. You people just see what you want to see for your own enjoyment. The guy needs healing. All anyone can do is talk shit about the guy. He said sorry for his actions... what the hell else do you want from him... ? He knows now not to say (sex kitten) Im sure he didnt create this thread as a troll...click bait...or to validate himself for how he was talking to the woman. I believe he just wants some love and affection some cuddles, he came off inappropriate, he said sorry, hes showing respect.. you have to tell a person how you want to be treated.. Not everyone knows.. or likes the same things.. or expects the same things.. maybe there are some girls that like to called sex kittens.. idk.. I would really like to hear what he has to say and his feeling on everything instead of myself and everyone else creating their own idea of the situation. What do you resonate with OPer?
@courageous1 Well I will agree that you are super nice