platonic cuddling?

I am somewhat new to platonic cuddling...and so my question is to help me learn. A site that is built to connect individuals for the sole purpose of a platonic cuddle buddy (paid or not) can not control what happens when individuals decide to meet up. What happens if two individuals (or more) decide to meet up and cuddle and something beyond the platonic cuddle happens? would we get banned for doing more than a platonic cuddle if both parties agree to it? how would you be able to tell the difference of a person reporting a person they met and (whether or not truth is involved) went beyond the platonic cuddle boundaries?

pmvines

You mentioned paid or not. If money is exchanged and more than platonic cuddling happens it is prostitution. There is no big brother policing what people do when they meet. However just realize that the site was created with the intent of people seeking out others for cuddling without the expectation of sex. So don't approach the site with the mindset of attempting to find a sex partner. Its not a date site.

I understand that pmvines...and I am not. I just know how this world has gone crazy with such things. I am just looking for input. I joined for that simple reason, just when talking with friends (who are not on the site)...they tell me this is impossible to have a platonic cuddle buddy. I know it's possible, but the reality of things can happen. I just don't want to be banned if and when I do, do meet someone off of here. I am strictly here for a platonic cuddle buddy.

SavageWhipsLady

Then just say no to mire...easy!

One goes into this with an agreement. If one goes into this thinking, "but if more did happen...", then one is already working outside of the agreement. How good is one's word?

If a person is clearly using the site for other-than-cuddle intent, they invite censure.

pmvines

What 2 consenting adults do off-site is entirely their business. Again, to clarify , to contact a paid cuddler with the assumption that other services are provided constitutes solicitation of prostitution and prostitution on their part . And again, this is not a date site , so those who understand this and seriously want to find a cuddle pal are not going to be seeking to hook up . Again, there is not big brother policing you offsite, however what is done and discussed on-site is subject to being monitored. Being on this site carries the assumption of adhering to the guidelines of not pursuing a quick hook up for that is not the purpose of the site .

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AndiCuddles

Agree with @pmvines (as usual).

But let’s talk hypothetically — if that were to happen between two enthusiasts... it’s their own business. But that’s definitely not what people should be looking for on here.

As a professional, even if I wanted something more to happen, I would not engage in that sort of activity with a client. (This would never happen for me for a number of reasons, but I’m still being hypothetical.) It would be unethical of me (and illegal if money had already been exchanged). That being said, if a pro and a client were interested in ‘something more’ the ethical thing would be to abolish the service relationship BEFORE starting any other type of relationship.

pmvines

@AndiCuddles I have a couple of friends who had to fire their clients because they wanted to pursue dating each other. It does def happen, and there is nothing bad or unethical at all about it, we are all only human and have varying needs. Just cant mix business with pleasure. I would be lying if I were to say that I have not ever had a cuddle pal turn into more than a cuddle pal. However when this has happened, it is mutual, genuine, and organic, and it is not something I have ever been in pursuit of on this site and not what I am actively pursuing from a cuddle pal. Also should be noted that I don't pay to cuddle, so there is not ever the risk of anything illegal that would compromise myself or the other person

CuddleStella

I’d second @andicuddles’ statement — it’s a sticky situation when the mix happens between the two. This is as a professional cuddler.. outside of that, I think as long as you don’t approach the site as a dating site, you will be fine. Intentions are important.

Thanks for your all's input.

Tonyc

Just think with the big head ...

Don’t confuse this with dating site. Intimate cuddling or affection filled cuddling may at times get you or confuse you if you are new. Pros are mostly smart to help you draw the lines.

@AndiCuddles , totally makes sense on the ethical approach if things mutually go beyond for any organically! Not to forget this site also has very small portion of non-pro trying connect to non-pros too for platonic cuddles probably that’s what @pmvines is eluding to when it comes to cuddle pal. @respectful , may already have stats for non-pros actively connecting with non-pros ! I am sure it will be extremely small number here as probably that’s where you may be better off hitting dating sites if you are looking beyond platonic cuddles.

respectful

@choicesvital It's hard to know how many non-professionals cuddle each other, since there's less motivation to leave karma than when cuddling a pro ...

@Theshystud I've read a lot of your recent posts and understand that you've got this figured out already but considering the influx of new members asking immediately for pictures or a phone number on first contact I wanted to bring this forward again for the newbies to read.

New members, read back more than a page before posting a question also, chances are it's already been asked.

It may help them to understand what this site is all about. Friendship, non sexual cuddles. No sex intent on this site. No I'm lonely at 3 am and who's available? Especially NOT on the forums. Go to missed connections on Craigs List for that and leave it OFF HERE.

Thanks

Tallmann

I believe all is well if you just stick to the game plan during your time together. Afterward, if you desire more-than-platonic cuddles, let the person know by phone or text. If you meet up again, you’ll both be on the same page. It’s okay to share feelings that arise but better after the session. To share such feelings during a session is called a bait and switch. And that’s not fair to your cuddle partner. I’m sure your feelings can be put on hold for the duration of one cuddle session then discussed by text later. Give the other person a chance to consider how they feel before scheduling another session with you. Trust is broken if you invite someone to your place and then try to change the channel when they’re in your bed. That hasn’t happened to me but I wouldn’t blame someone for reporting a user for trying to renegotiate terms during cuddles.

InVinoVeritas2

@pmvines have you seen the females on this site and they're photos? The number of highly suggestive photos of women suggests this site is becoming more and more like backpages.com and the old craigslist personal section. I flag when I can, but it's a losing battle.

pmvines

@InVinoVeritas2 yes i do notice that. I typically dont judge how one chooses to present themselves though i am weary of those with overtly suggestive pics who are paid cuddlers and also find there are many suggestive pics for folks charging under the radar without the proper process and being tagged.

InVinoVeritas2

I've begun using the free TinEye Chrome extension to check to see who is using stock/stolen images. Several women are using fake images in their profiles stolen from porn sites. These are immediately flagged and the members accounts terminated. I would suggest doing this if you suspect an image looks a bit too professional or too good to be true. https://www.tineye.com/

MissAdventurous

Or the tell tale question...."What happens if I get a boner?"

It's biology. We ignore it and do a different position if it's uncomfortable.

If you cannot be an adult and go into a situation knowing it's platonic. You should not be here.
If you cannot respect the line of what this site is for. You should not be here.
If you cannot understand that there is more to the human experience besides getting a quickie....
may I suggest tinder.

This is not a dating site.
This is not a "what ifs..." kinda place. The guidelines are clear. PLATONIC.

This is a community who tries to find a safe space for connecting with others.
This is a place to break the "norm" that human touch is a negative or salacious thing.
This is a place I have quickly recognized as something worth promoting.

Stop cheapening the human experience.
Stop expecting more and take a moment to maybe learn something about yourself.

Otherwise, good luck on your search.