I secured my first cuddle for this Saturday afternoon. The thing is I am highly sensitive to touches. I do not want my cuddle partner to think I am some kind of a pervert. What should i do?
stay home or deal with it. as long as you keep things in your pants. a normal guy gets some form of autonymous reaction throughout the day and it isn't a problem. you don't need to make a big deal out of it. Just shift or move. You don't need to freeze-up. you don't need to explain anything to your cuddler. keep in mind that it doesn't give you permission to start fantisizing or acting on your arousal.
I would have been a little nicer knowing it's their first cuddle.
I would try to remember that this a platonic cuddle. Cuddlers have different boundaries. Ask what theirs is and abide by them. You will have a good cuddle then.
@indiansfan4life IF4L, Read the OP's profile and you'll see that they are asking to be "honed" by life. I'm just trying to break it down and deliver. There was NO malice in anything I said. Just an old dude talking to a young dude and keeping it real. Thanks though. Had the situation been different, I'd be the one chastizing myself. grin. Thanks!
LOL It's perfectly normal/natural! Just keep your hands off "bathing suit" areas and you should be fine. Definitely keep your thought process "in check" and don't lead on as if anything unnormal is happening. It's happened when I was cuddling with new people, and I just ignored it, so they did too. I do not recommend "acting on it" in any way, shape, or form. The admins on here are extremely responsive to "concerns", so it's not worth it!
Stay calm and remember this trick: If you get aroused, tighten your leg muscles for 10 seconds. The blood will flow to your legs and you'll lose the erection. Just try not to kick your cuddle buddy when you do.
Most adults know how to deal with atousal and there are far too many threads on the topic to list. If you require a dissertation do a search
How do I go about finding my first cuddle.?
@NYKnickfan24 like i told you in a previous thread when you asked this question . You are a male pro in a market with the deck greatly stacked against you as great majority of men are the ones paying to cuddle, not women , and you will only cuddle women. If one were to wsnt to book you they will contact you through the site by messaging you. You might try reaching out to the pros for advice
Sorry to take away from the thread, lol but @NYKnickfan24 I see you're a pro in New York, which I'm betting is populated to the brim on here with users to pick from. Simply connect with enthusiasts in your area on the site! Just strike up a conversation with people whom you think you would like to get to know, ask them what brought them to the site...that old chestnut. Let your personality shine through, do some reading on other professional cuddlers, what kinds of experiences they provide and take inspiration from that.
Please visit the professional section too. It's filled with advice and other users who can help you get in the right mindset, and will be there to support you through your endeavour as a pro cuddler. Be sure to report suspicious users there, as well.
Thanks for the advice @carload and @pmvines