Has anyone else found it difficult to ask for what they want? If you’re desiring to be held, is it challenging to ask for that?
I have trouble first identifying my needs. Just getting to the realization that I could use some physical affection is a struggle. Then comes the task of admitting to someone that I have these needs. I guess i imagine it makes me seem weak, which wouldn’t be an attractive characteristic for a guy to show.
In the past I would wait and see if my partner would just love me out of the blue. As if they could read my mind. This passive aggressive approach always failed me.
The inability to request the emotional support that I need has repeatedly harmed my romantic relationships. Now I’m doing the work to identify my needs and learning how to ask for what I want. It’s too important to go without. And I want my dating relationships to be freed of this destructive pattern.
Does this happen to you? How do you approach this?
Here’s a video of a little green bird that knows how to ask for the cuddles it needs:
https://www.facebook.com/thedodosite/videos/1943238389314718/