Fetish or no?

TrippleaTripplea
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I have been wondering about this for a long time now but have never gotten a straight answer from the people I have asked.
Now is it possible for cuddling to be a fetish and I dont mean a sexual fetish for someone to get off I mean just having someone in your arms ?
Hopefully I got my point across but either way maybe I can get some feedback.

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  • [Deleted User]BigHugsCA (deleted user)

    Maybe you need a different word. A fetish is by definition something that brings sexual gratification, unless you are talking about some kind of object of worship.

  • UKGuyUKGuy

    @Tripplea - You don't seem to know what a fetish is. Maybe you mean an addiction.

  • [Deleted User]simontudley (deleted user)

    There’s nothing kinky about cuddles... unless maybe you’re doing it in a diaper and calling the other person mommy/daddy!

    It’s an emotional thing - feeling comfort, connection, intimacy, or all the nice hormones that get released.

    I’m sure it can be sexualised, but the intention of platonic cuddles is not to sexualise, kink, or fetishise it.

  • alexb2alexb2

    I do not think it is a fetish. It is just a most basic form of affection, or belonging to a group. Many animals cuddle, and they do not have the mental capacity to come up with things like fetishes.

  • CatloafCatloaf

    I am sure there might be some people who think of it that way. Rule #34, folks. I would not say it is a particularly common fetish, but it can be one. That's not what we are about at CC though. People need cuddles for so many different reasons that while broad, can be broken down to suit the individual.

    Echoing @BigHugsCA, there are two definitions of the word 'fetish'. One is an acute and overpowering sexual attraction to a particular thing, be it body part, object, whatever. The 'worshiping' definition is more hyperbolic, or exaggerated. A lot of people use the word 'fetish' in a silly way to describe something they love or admire on a deep level, but they do not in fact have a fetish.

    I particularly prefer to separate that word from describing my love for platonic cuddles.

    There’s nothing kinky about cuddles... unless maybe you’re doing it in a diaper and calling the other person mommy/daddy! It’s an emotional thing - feeling comfort, connection, intimacy, or all the nice hormones that get released. I’m sure it can be sexualised, but the intention of platonic cuddles is not to sexualise, kink, or fetishise it.

    Fun and possibly controversial fact: Cuddling shouldn't be sexual, no, but in proper BDSM and kink scenes for instance, where consent is the true master, platonic cuddling actually does play a huge role. It's called aftercare. That is where you stop the activity you are doing if one person starts to object to it, and you hold them and talk it out and make sure your partner feels safe and loved; not taken advantage of or disrespected.

  • bobsmith788bobsmith788

    It can be a sexual fetish. Get really teased up by cuddling next to a beautiful person and not doing anything sexual.

  • pmvinespmvines

    Anything can be turned into a fetish. Not really the intent of this site though.

  • TrippleaTripplea

    That's my point is that I don't see it as having to be a sexualize aspect yet I have been told it's the best part of sex? That i don't understand because in my eyes it's more of a energy thing that some of us need to recharge from time to time. I have been able to cuddle with many women in which I had no sexual attraction to but we both needed that connection.
    Btw thanks for the feedback!

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