I joined the site a couple months ago and I'm having MAJOR difficulties trying to keep feelings out of these cuddling relationships. I know I've annoyed guys who literally want a total physical experience without ANY emotional crap but what if you aren't cut out that way? I have no delusions of permanent relationships (I'm already in one) or happily ever after (now certain this is an irrational ideation). But I can't figure out how do this without shared spiritual warmth, mutual nuturing, and a deep bond of friendship. I'm obviously on a different page in a different book. What was supposed to bring a little joy into my life has brought some demoralizing pain. Maybe i just don't understand how this should work. =(