Indulging in fetishes while cuddling violates the terms of service.
"Personal boundaries
You agree to never use this Website for the intent of meeting another member for sex. You also agree to never attempt to progress a meeting, organised via this website, to a sexual nature.
When communicating with another member, you agree to never indicate a desire to cuddle while doing any of the following: (1) being nude, (2) wearing only underwear, (3) kissing, (4) groping, (5) satisfying a fetish or kink, and (6) anything of a non-platonic nature."
Member contacts me and the word "diaper" appears in their screen name. Red flag. I ask why, they tell me they wear diapers. I ask is this because they are incontinent or because it's a fetish? I'm assuming the latter because most incontinent people would not be drawing attention to it by putting the word "diaper" in their screen name. They answer:
"I’m incontinent but it’s a fetish to relax me and stuff"
I really don't care that people have fetishes but I do care about them involving me in them without my clear and enthusiastic consent and it violates the TOS of this site. I suggested to the individual that they reread the TOS, delete their account, start over with a name that has nothing to do with their fetish, and not bring their fetish into cuddling with anyone they meet off this site.
Their profile hints at it as a fetish, too, though they are trying to argue with me about it, "I'm sorry, I didn't want to lie to anyone," they said about their screen name.
"Makes me feel loved and wanted and little again" Cuddling makes them feel little again? Said by a man who advertises he wears diapers? Lack of bladder control sounds suspiciously like an excuse, there are products available these days that someone else wouldn't even know they were wearing them.
Not sure if they are worth reporting or not but considering that the men I'm meeting seem like they are either interested in more than platonic cuddling or clueless beyond measure, I'm getting a little cranky.
Words of wisdom, anyone?