Poll: clients pushing boundaries

I cuddled someone today who mentioned that about 70% of her clients are "not so good ones" (pushing boundaries etc.). There have been quite a few posts recently about unwelcome behavior too.

So I wanted to ask professionals here:

  1. What percentage of your clients do not act according to the client agreement?40 votes
    1. 0% ... all my clients act respectfully.
        2.50%
    2. 25% or fewer push the boundaries.
      12.50%
    3. 50% or fewer push the boundaries.
        2.50%
    4. 75% or fewer push the boundaries.
        5.00%
    5. Over 75% (but not 100%) of my clients push the boundaries.
        7.50%
    6. 100% ... all of my clients so far have pushed boundaries.
        7.50%
    7. (I am not a professional, I just want to look at the results of the poll).
      62.50%

Comments

  • @respectful I am not a paid cuddler but have some close friends who are (and ive been here since 2016 so I know quite a few of them both past and present ) and all of them have had experiences with this, to one extent or another. I would say it is likely up there with top reasons that they stop cuddling altogether.

  • edited April 2019

    I answered 75%.

    Over the past year that I've been on CC, I have only successfully carried out 3 sessions, though I have had a bunch of consultations. These clients were respectful for the most part, but I also advertise elsewhere (usually esoteric or the health & beauty section of a few classified sites). Many of the clients that I obtained from these avenues tried in some way to turn things into more. Some were overly pushy, some were warned once and never did it again. As for those I consulted with, something either threw me off about them and I decided that service was not a fit, or they ended up making inappropriate requests (which could technically be a boundary push).

    I put this down to "cuddlers" in my area teaching clients on the same sites what their version of a "cuddle session" is. One is a known escort masking herself as a "sex coach" and I happened to come across a couple clients of hers who ended up admitting that she was in fact cuddling topless, and allowing sexual activity.

    Here is the ad I have to "compete" with.

    The review she has up on her listed website is from an escort review board from a man called "hornyinYYC". Very telling, obviously. I wouldn't be surprised in fact if the majority of my clients had at some point enlisted services at said forum, but didn't want to let that on.

  • [Deleted User]denveromelette (deleted user)

    As long as she is following the rules of this site why try to shame her? She may be a single mom just trying to keep a roof over her head anyway she can, and now you are shaming her.

  • edited April 2019

    She's not on this site, @denveromelette

    She's advertising alongside other genuinely platonic professional cuddlers on a popular Canadian classified ads site. One client of hers who also booked me had tipped me off that she is providing sensual and sexual activities. Another two had pushed boundaries, and one had sent me harrassing messages comparing my lack of sexual services to hers.

    I have nothing against sex work. What I am against are women who offer sexual services, and hide behind professional cuddling in order to provide them. It puts those of us who are offering a genuinely platonic service at risk of having our boundaries violated, because their clients are being given a different version of cuddling, and so they assume we must all operate that way. This is a huge problem in Calgary, where I'm from.

  • [Deleted User]denveromelette (deleted user)

    Maybe she has herpes and is intentionally spreading it. Or possibly HIV.

  • @denveromlette like me you are NOT a professional.

    This was a sincere thread started for professionals. Pmvines seems to feel like some sort of pseudo professional and is pretty much accepted at this point to needlessly contribute, even to things he has no idea about.

    You on the other hand are being purposely inflammatory. I for one don't appreciate it and I'm sure I'm not alone.

    What @catloaf stated and copied is extremely clear and valid. First, it's solid data; second, she's a PRO.

    Please go back to the General side for your vitriol and agitating. Or at least do it on one of the pro threads that's not clearly labeled PRO ONLY. In fact I had no intention of commenting either since even though as a woman I could partially answer I'm not a professional so it's not my place.

    The only reason I'm saying this now is to call you out before the thousands who read this as behaving badly. Knock it off.

  • I apologize to you @respectful for being off topic.

  • edited April 2019

    I dont claim to be a pseudo anything, nor did I realize there were guidelines that were being broken when I posted my thoughts. I posted on conversations I have had, much like the OP when prefaced the topic of the forum. If you are only posting to complain about other posters, you are not actually contributing to anything but your own ego. None of which really matters to be honest.

  • [Deleted User]denveromelette (deleted user)

    Paula, you seem like a very angry person. I am not going to get into a back and forth with you.
    The woman being demonized may very well be someone struggling to keep a roof over her and her children’s head. So while you may be ok in publicly shaming someone you have never even met- I am not vindictive enough to do the same. Goodbye ?

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