@Myrddyn , agree with @HappinessHenry . You look like a cool guy to me. Nothing in your pics or profile say you are not cuddle material. If you are near Birmingham drop me a line. My experience here is going well. Not a pro. Been here maybe 6 weeks? Met a cool regular cuddle buddy who I won’t call out but he can out himself here if he likes. He was good at introducing me to the cuddling world. Cuddled with a couple of other folks but not ongoing for whatever reason. Spoke with someone who was coming in town. I was busy but my friend here did meet with him and it went well. I chat both by message and phone with a really neat guy out of town and now consider him a friend. Hope to meet him in person at some point. Spoken with a couple of local guys who seem scared or ambivalent so it never works out. I try not to think of them as time wasters. I’ve gotten 2 women friends to join the site so feel free to thank me. I’ve offended people by needing to vet them before meeting them at my house or a hotel. Sorry guys, safety first. Like others have said, it’s good to be flexible if you really want to find someone to cuddle with. My friend here went out of town for the weekend and was able to meet up with someone near her destination. There are many nice and interesting folks here but it takes some work and investment. I keep hearing it’s so easy as a woman. Maybe easier but definitely not hassle free.
I think i’ve Responded to every message i’ve gotten here except 1. The profile looked fake and didn’t feel right. I forgot to say i’ve Messaged with folks and thought it was going well then they abruptly stop chatting or delete their account. Go figure.
And while we are bigging each other up @Worthy In your main profile pic you are a dead spit for the actress who plays Lady Bryan of Tarth in Game Of Thrones. And hope you consider that comparison positive, as she is stunning.
Awww, always good to big each other up. Nice antidote to all the negativity out there, much like cuddling. @HappinessHenry I checked out your profile. Very cool. Wish you were closer but I’m sure that side of the world needs cuddlers. This GOT thing is so big it’s getting embarrassing that I haven’t watched. How many days of straight bingeing will it take me to catch up? ? I will look her up and thanks.
@Worthy does good food
@pmvines , thx friend. I try.
@Worthy i am no foodie but good is good!
15 months, zero. I've had a couple of possibilities but they were in other states and too far away. They contacted me. I've never had a response to any message I've sent out. When you are an older person, most people rule you out right away. My early experiences were so negative, I haven't tried very hard since. From reading the preceding messages, obviously it's much easier for women than for guys.
@UKGuy not tryin to pick at ya, but i notice your profile does read that you will not send a message, that if a person wishes to speak to you they will need to be the one to reach out to you. You say with regular routine that you havent had any luck here. You might be adding to this by not reaching out to folks.
@Myrddyn Based on your profile and pics, you look like a prime cuddle candidate.
I've been blessed to meet and cuddle with so many great people. I've been on the site a year and a few months and 10-15 enthusiasts double that in pros give or take a few. this site makes the world a little smaller. I've met and talked with and became friends with so many people that I would have never crossed paths with in any other way without this site.
1 month, 4 pro cuddle friends and 1 amazing regular. All in all, 5 awesome friends in my first month!
@happybear Your experience matches mine. One year about 30 cuddlers and repeats with many of them. I think it helps to closely read the lady’s profile. Sometimes I will see they like the same TV show as me...bingo...conversation starter. Perhaps we are just two Wild-n-Crazy guys.
@pmvines - I don't see the point in sending a message to someone who isn't interested. It states in my profile that any visitor that is interested is welcome to contact me. In any case, the vast majority of visitors I get are men. And the vast majority of the women visitors are in other countries or other states. I've never considered visiting someone's profile to indicate anything other than curiosity.
@UKGuy You don't know if they aren't interested til you try though. Most of the folks who I have formed relationships with on here are ones I have reached out to. If I had not put in the work I would have missed out on getting to know some really great people.
@FunCartel Communication is what's most important. Understanding expectations, boundaries and consent. Cuddling is the easy part it take two people being present. Listening is huge in communication.
@pmvines is right. Out of all my cuddlers, only one reached out to me. I went and reached out to them.
@happybear That is what I was saying somewhat. If you can’t even begin a conversation and open up a channel of communication then boundaries and expectations mean nothing because nothing will happen, especially cuddling.
@FunCartel With the knowledge that the men far outnumber the women, and the women have more at stake in terms of safety, trust, etc, it is foolish for any man on here to believe they don't have to put in the effort in order to stand out. Stand up be seen and be heard, it is the only way some folks will take notice. Don't let fear of rejection stifle that. I am sure @UKGuy is a great person to know, and folks wont know what they are missing unless he makes them aware he is present and accounted for.
I agree,. Its like cold canvassing or being a door to door salesmen. You have to knock on many doors , deal with the rejection of most, open the door by communicating your likes, wants, listen to theirs and talk on the phone, meet and cuddle.
I've had only a few solely reach out to me and say let's cuddle. Those definately make me a happybear; You have to put in the work.
I don’t know about the ageism either. I am chatting with the most interesting and lovely 79 year old man who I would be privileged to cuddle with.