Any suggestions on connecting with a cuddler who lives in a different state?
Train several pigeons to carry letters between the two of you.
Recommend the internet, a phone or Skype.
@hobgoblin, are you here to just always be sarcastic, or pick on people? It just seems you only ever comment at someone else's expense.
@yogig77
Their site name is literally a variation of troll...
If you connect with someone out of state, try to have a call first. Then decide if you want to invest the travel time for a cuddle. If a pro, book on the site.
I'm planning to travel 6 hrs to see someone since we had such a rich, interesting dialogue; filled with long paragraphs and complete sentences. And we have a ton in common. Very refreshing!
A quality cuddle for me involves some conversation as well, but I realize I could be a minority in that department!
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I travel all the time and cuddle in different areas all the time as a result. I send a message and explain that I travel and tell them the dates and my availability. I also provide my e-mail if they want to ask questions of me off-site which is fine for pros to do if they want as long as you book on line. Enthusiasts can do it however they want. Sometimes it goes to the level of exchanging phone #s but I do not do that unless I pretty much know I want to book and I am already clicking with that person. So it varies by person, but it all starts off with a simple message about myself, dates and basic info along with a pic. Good luck.
@hobgoblin, but this is a site for connection, and many of your comments seem derisive, and border if not outright break the rules, one of which is to not be rude. Sarcasm is valid sense of humor, but it kind of comes off that you enjoy having fun at others expense, which is diametrically opposed to the intent of a site like this. I'm pretty sure Reddit has plenty of forums where your particular sense of humor is more than welcome. I'm not trying to come at you, but maybe soften up on people here in the community. It won't grow if people feel like they will poked and potentially ridiculed for asking questions they may be nervous to ask.
I met someone in a different state when I knew far enough in advance that we could introduce ourselves over message on the site and got to know each other well enough we wanted to meet and subsequently cuddle up. I suggest keeping the conversation casual and not even talk about meeting until you have achieved rapport.
I have several out of state folks I see. If you are willing to both make an effort it can make for a great day trip . I work 2 jobs and have a son and pets but still am able to make it work albeit infrequently
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@yogig77 You have to get used to it or stay out of the forums, the hassle isn’t worth it. Some of the vets find enjoyment from responding to post like the hog did yours. You’ll find it’s not worth coming to the forums because they find comfort in bullying people they are suppose to be here to help. Forums are suppose to be a place to find help and I found it’s the furthest from what I ever found here as I found what you did in this thread. Bullying. Some of the folks here have nothing better to do. It’s why you see they post daily, this is their life.
@CreativeCuddles, I think I'm going to try and do something to make these forums a little more welcoming. There are moderators, and ways to report. There are people.coming here with trauma issues, or just may have really anxiety around being touched, and it may be a huge leap for them to reach out, so for all those people, I'll say my peace in defense.
@yogig77 I totally agree with you! Mostly I've avoided the forums for this very reason, I live my life in a very intuitive low stress way and while love cuddle time and healthy touch I highly dislike this kind of bullying. Even less than bullying when its non supportive or negative feed back in a thread, I quickly move on as I have no need to part take of others toxicity. But as you stated there are many people coming here for accepting caring support as physical touch is a vulnerable persuit. I understand the delicate place that the human heart can be in and how easily it can sustain long term hurt. So if you have the heart as an operations director to make a difference here, more power to you.
I have many out of State cuddle buddies/chat friends, that I travel to or travel to me on occasion. I find it helpful to invest time into getting to know the person over messaging, phone or other communication options. The first meet up and cuddle tends to go smoother after establishing rapport.
I am totally in agreement with yogig77 and caringtouch . I think it’s important for any community to be kind and welcoming to anyone who dips their toe into our/your midst.
Sometimes people want to participate and be part of the group but don’t know how to begin. Using their entry as a place to exercise your snark isn’t very welcoming.
While some of the posts fall under trolling, I find the condescending, self righteous finger wagging and saying others have no life equally appalling as it just as much an attack as trolling.
Closed. Please try again. 15 JUL 2019 15:50 EDT