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So I’ve had about 6-7 cuddle sessions. About 10 mins in the client gets too excited and the cuddle seems to get awkward. I feel saying it’s okay is too sexual but what do I do they can’t control it. Question is which would guys prefer be less Awkward?

Catloaf

Honestly, I just ask them to switch positions or I let them know I will be doing so. I never shame someone for getting an erection, because unless they're trying to egg it on it usually isn't anybody's fault. If someone continues to brush on me or whatever, I get up and I let them know from here on out we can take a break until it passes or else I need to leave.

boomerang86

Maybe make a “is that a small candy bar in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?” comment. That should alleviate the issue.

BoomerSpooner

@Alohat I think some of these issues could be addressed proactively by eliminating verbiage in your profile that some will take as “coded language” such as calling yourself a lover and saying you can be whatever you want them to be. There are Backpage expatriates that take those terms as an invitation for extra services.

In addition, you are charging $130/hr. In other threads some guys have said they interpret that as offering more and a couple of them said that anything over $100/hr is escort pricing. You can charge what you want, but you may be sending out mixed messages through no fault of your own.

Catloaf

@FunCartel is 100 on the money, pardon the pun. You need to distinguish your service by avoiding ambiguous terms or image, and it will significantly cut down on the amount of times this happens. Not all of it because some are just persistent and really don't give a crap what kind of law you lay down, but it will help immensely.

Requesting a position change would probably be the better thing to do in most circumstances, the guy will know he's having that sort of reaction to you so shouldn't cause an issue. If they protest to the change then that's a bit of a red flag, unless he's really immersed in the cuddle he's going to realise he has an erection - if he hasn't said anything you can assume he's also really embarrassed and doesn't know what to do, but if he speaks up and it's a negative reaction then that's not so good. But if that's the case then hey, you just found out they're probably after something you're not comfortable providing without things progressing further.

And I agree with @FunCartel in regards to your profile. Read it out of curiosity to see the context of the phrases he mentioned and can absolutely see what you might mean - you mean exactly what you say you're an affectionate person who wants the other person or people involved in the cuddles to be as comfortable as possible. But the guys on here that are after something more are going to think otherwise and assume you're giving a bit of a wink wink nudge nudge.

RaindropSweetie

@boomerang86 hahaha

BoomerSpooner

@boomerang86 A small candy bar? More like a king sized Twix.

pmvines

So is this like a reverse boner thread or something ?

IMO getting an erection should be a reportable offense

It is 100% controllable with mindset and only happens if A ) the person is having sexual thoughts or feelings B ) the person is sleeping. Those are the ONLY two times if the area isn't being physically stimulated. Definitely confront it, like he should have mentally done before even requesting a session.

BoomerSpooner

@Jim_To_The_Min If you invoke the rule you suggested the pros would starve. Medically speaking, you are wrong. Some people do get them with touch, others just happen and there are a multitude of other reasons why men get erections. Talk to a urologist sometimes or even just Google it. With that being said, a lot of the times it can be avoided but different people can get them for non-sexual reasons.

boomerang86

It was not about your genitals Funcartel (or mine). But at least you did not say a Twizzler 😦

BoomerSpooner

@boomerang86 I was going to say a Marathon bar but I did not think those under 35 would know what I was referring to.

Kense

Jim's post is ridiculous. lol

BoomerSpooner

@Kense Not to the sole 80 yo impotent client who will suddenly find his dance card filled if that rule came about.

Thanks for the advice all😘

Annichka

Erections are pretty normal, especially if someone has been touch starved for a long time. I usually just request a position change to me being the big spoon/ head on chest/ etc. And people usually catch my meaning and comply pretty nicely.