What are the oddest requests that you ladies have been asked to do??
I went to my first cuddle party 5 days ago. There were about 15 women there. We were going around introducing ourselves and answering what we were looking to get out of the experience to find potential matches. This guy on the other side of the circle from me asked the ladies if they knew the "Congress of the Cow" position. Nobody knew what that was.
He said it was mentioned in a movie called First In Show. Apparently it was so odd that it traumatized their dog who had accidentally walked in on them seeing it and now they had to take their dog to therapy. Now I'm trying to find that movie to get more info on what was going on.
I was sitting outside with a guy. It was a bit of a chilly afternoon.
He wanted me to sit on his feet "to keep them warm." Ugh. He was a boundary pusher all in all. Though, he got dealt with. That was so cringy and had red flag written all over it.
Did he think I was a free king chicken, and he an egg? #rhetoricalquestion.
I like "free king chicken" @Lovelight . Took me a second.
@DonLonG not necessary to watch the movie. And prolly not so appropriate for a cuddle party.
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Congress of the Cow
To: @littermate yeah that was a creative term, going to have to remember that one. Also: @littermate OMG that's a real thing? I thought that either the guy or the movie was just saying a funny made-up term. I can't believe he asked a room full of cuddlers that question now.
@DonLonG spectacular use of imagery, thank you.
I've had a couple men ask me to touch their penis or while cuddling tried to force my hand down there. I've had a few want to kiss me. I was about to show them these hands 👊👊💪💪.
Funny but I'm so serious. Lol
@SoftPetals Why did they want you to touch it? They couldn’t find it themselves?
Sounds like there's rapists all over this site. WTF
Not sure we need another post about all the horrors of cuddling do we ? And why just asking ladies.
Well I'll skip all the sexual requests but I did have one guy request we have a messy food fight and then cuddle in the aftermath, lol.
I was asked to sit/lie on top of a person and put all of my body weight on her so she couldn't move. I asked if I needed to move several times and she said no . Once I could see she had trouble breathing I topped though , and she wanted me immediately to do it again .
@SoftPetals next time that happens, touch it and whisper in a seductive voice "would you like me to pull it off?" when he says yes, grip it and give one almighty tug, hold up the penis and say "ok you did say you wanted me to pull it off".
@FunCartel hee hee
@pmvines that sounds 100% sexual to me. I mean not the act but the desire to have that seems like some sort of kink. Not judging but just what popped in my head.
@SoftPetals id think they’d find a more clever way to get that thrill with out saying it, right? Like oops, what did you do? I don’t think this is what we are supposed to be doing but i liked it...
@BashfulLoner sometimes people with trauma want to be weighted down... not necessarily sexual. Just grounding.
@littermate thats fair, it is just out of my experience realm.
@BashfulLoner
What @pmvines described is a position called the Pressed Grilled Cheese, commonly referred to as the PGC.
I guess I am just hungry right now.
@FunCartel otherwise known as the panini
I can relate to the body crushing, and in my experience it was never sexual. If cuddling gives a steady drip of oxytocin into the system, getting smushed was like squeezing every last drop out of that gland all at once with an explosion that floods my body. Just a few minutes can give me a natural high that leaves me euphoric for hours afterwards. And on stressful days, it is very comforting and therapeutic.
I was too young to recall how I discovered it, but since I was a toddler I loved being squeezed. As I grew bigger, I would ask my mom to sit on me because no one could hug me hard enough anymore. She was too afraid she would break something, so she suggested getting underneath my mattress. It worked for a while, but it was awkward to balance the weight and as a teenager it wasn't heavy enough to get the full effect anymore.
I saw a true story film about a woman who revolutionized the cattle industry called Temple Grandin. Being autistic, Temple would get overwhelmed easily and have fits. She visited a cattle ranch, and would see the scared cows being herded. The ranchers would put the cows in a small pen and pull a lever to secure them in place to be worked on. The cows instantly calmed down. She asked the cowboy why that happened, and he said, "They just like being squeezed".
She made a machine to squeeze her and it would instantly calm her down when she was stressed. Her autism made it uncomfortable to be touched by other people, but her squeeze machine was like simulating a hug. When she told people about this, the college administrators thought it was some kind of sex toy and banned her from having it. She had to do a whole research paper on the health benefits of it to get permission to have her squeeze machine in her dorm.
When someone puts their full weight on me, it feels like they are squishing my soul back into it's body, and maybe if they squeeze me hard enough, my broken pieces might stick back together. It may be an odd request, but for me it's not sexual. It just a temporary respite from all the worries in life.
Yeah I did not really take it as being sexual . I know a thing or two about BDSM and this wasn't it . I was just afraid I would crush their chest and impede their breathing lol was worried for their safety as I'm not exactly a lightweight
@pmvines I met a girl who thought she was being clever by making her safe word "harder". I accidentally revealed my inner geek when I told her that her safe word needs to be at least 8 characters long, contain one uppercase letter, one number, and one special character.
Lol then you would need to write it out instead of saying it 😂
Would be like safe word Pictionary
Very interesting stories everybody!
@DonLonG
Didn't see your notes under the chicken - I failed to see the small print next to its magnificence.
No special knowledge on my part - I just googled it for ya. Yes, that's a little out of the platonic-cuddling realm.