Hi Friends!!
I'm Ace from Denver, CO. I'm a new guy in Cuddletown. I'm a proud self proclaimed dork! I've been checking out this website for quite a while and I finally found the courage to create a profile. I struggle with social anxiety, lack of confidence, trust issues....etc but I'm proactively working on improving my situation! I've already scheduled a session with a pro Cuddler and I'm super stoked!!
There is no doubt that we live in a majorly touch deprived and oxytocin deficient society. A few years ago, I was at the mall, and a group of people with "FREE HUGS" signs walked up to me and kindly offered free hugs. I gladly accepted hugs from each person in their group... and let me tell ya, it was at that moment that I realized how oxytocin depleted I had been that day! I felt alive and rejuvenated! I felt loved! I felt important! It literally brought tears of joy to my eyes! I do get hugs from my little family and occasionally from friends when I have time and get the rare opportunity to hang out, so I'm not completely deprived of touch... but I will say that I'm addicted to hugs! Just can't get too many hugs. And I know hugs can make the world a better place. Although I don't have a lot of free time to actually meet people, it's nice to support one another, even if it's online.
I thank the creators of this website and similar sites for creating and offering a place where people can seek meaningful connection and friendship with others. Facebook has become cold and bitter Anti-Social media... so it's nice to be in an environment where we all have similar positive goals in mind.
Cuddle therapy is so REAL and it is powerful! I feel that the cuddle community is still relatively small and found only in random localities but has the potential to flourish! There are so many people in this world that can benefit... and take what they learn out into their daily lives. I know it can be scary out there because some people actually behave like disgusting abusive creeps and cause trauma and trust issues... and to those negative people I say, DON'T BE YOURSELF! ....instead, BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.... Be Excellent!
So, anyway, I wanted to throw out some ideas on how we can help to grow the online cuddle community and make it a fun, safe, approachable thriving environment and spread the love and create a flourishing and burgeoning cuddle scene! Cuddletopia!!!
I probably just need to be more patient... after all I am brand new here.. but I've sent many friend requests, but only 4 people have accepted. I've sent a few friendly messages and did not receive too many replies. It's not like I'm sending wedding proposals! And friendship online doesn't obligate you to meet in real life... and you can always unfriend. I just want to connect with locals and get to know where other people are at emotionally. And honestly there's not really a lot of people locally to even connect with... most profiles have been abandoned. It would be sad to see this great concept fade away due to lack of participation. I've noticed that not many people have many friends in their friends list. It's like we're all at a party dancing in our own corner by ourselves.
As we all know, positive human interaction contributes to oxytocin. Whether it's a hello, a smile, a high five, or a simple head nod... We feel noticed, validated and we get a dose of oxytocin. Smiles are contagious, laughter is medicine. A smile begins on your face and moves to your heart. A virtual smile moves from the computer screen, to your face, to your heart.
So anyway...
...Here are some ideas bouncing around in my head that I would like to share/brainstorm with you:
♥ Send and accept more friend requests
♥ Let your friends section glow and blossom
♥ Say hi to people... have fun.
♥ Support your local cuddle scene!
♥ Meet others online. If you find someone being inappropriate, just report them... They will weed themselves out.
♥ Men... add other dudes to your friends list. Don't be afraid of each other. We're just online friends. It's Platonic for ALL.
♥ We have platonic and good intentions here and we hope to receive positivity from others.
♥ Be proactive, if time allows, take the lead in being kind and friendly.
♥ Schedule a session with a pro... support their noble profession while also getting a start on cuddling
♥ Don't ignore messages (even a thumbs up or a smiley face reply is better than total rejection)
♥ Be creative with your profile and express yourself. Show your beauty.. this isn't a job application. Be yourself.
♥ Be a little warmer, after all this is a cuddle site, is it not?
♥ Give virtual hugs. Even an ogre like me needs a hug. 🤗
♥ Use emojis, show emotion, be human (or alien or robot if your are that) Be the best version of yourself.
♥ I was not hugged as a kid, and when people are kind to me.. it means the world to me!
♥ Don't ignore people. Rejection hurts! Just reply back.. a quick reply. A quick smile emoji. a thank you...etc
♥ Lets make this place flourish with kindness
♥ Flood this place with virtual oxytocin!
♥ A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step
♥ Be the change that you wish to see in the world
♥ Emancipate yourself from mental slavery... none but ourselves can free our minds.
♥ Be Bold! You can do it!
Some Safety Precautions:
🚫 Of course don't be naive... not all have good intentions and some could have ulterior motives.
🚫 Be safe and be smart... don't give out personal info until you know who you are talking to
🚫 Get to know people first, the ones with ulterior motives will weed themselves out
🚫 Don't treat this like a dating site... it's a friendship site. There are plenty of other places you can go for dating.
🚫 Report inappropriate behavior
🚫 Report inappropriate profiles
🚫 Don't be crude or rude
🚫 Don't be inappropriate
🚫 Don't be aggressive, many people have been socially traumatized and need kindness and gentleness
🚫 If a person ends up being a phony, don't be discouraged, move forward, there are plenty of wonderful people out there
🚫 Don't take yourself too seriously... be willing to smile, laugh, and play
🚫 Don't beat yourself up... nobody is perfect, it's okay to make mistakes. Love yourself! 
🚫 Don't let rejection take you down. BE THE CHANGE... get on that upward spiral
Thank you for your time!
I love you all!
Ace
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