Is there such a thing as an exceptional cuddler?

Every cuddle experience is as unique as the cuddlers involved. Each has it's own unique qualities that make that particular cuddle experience special and unique for each cuddler. If one could list a few qualities, regardless of the cuddlers or cuddle experience that makes any cuddle or cuddler great or exceptional in a universal kind of way, what would it be?

Here are a few that comes to mind:

1.Openness to others regardless of their appearance or background: communication and intent

2. Being responsive
3. . Being patient and intuitive: aware that everyone is different and adjust accordingly.
4. Being gentle and mindfully engaged: aware of others presence and needs, willing to honor them within reason and without prejudice.
5. Being respectful

What qualities make a person an exceptional cuddler; a cuddle experience an exceptional one?

By "cuddle experience" , I refer to the activity of messaging, reading and writing profiles, general communication and the actual cuddle act.

WKplatonic

1. Know what you want and what you are looking for.
2. Have clear, concise boundaries and be able to communicate them effectually.
3. Be warm and affectionally.
4. Don't bring outside problems into the cuddling session.
5. A well-written profile is huge with me.

Sideon

Everyone's (myself included) is a cuddle legend in their own mind.

In all seriousness, your five items are on point, @Bles , especially being mindfully engaged and aware of other's presence and needs. @WKCuddles brings up great points, also - and I fully agree regarding boundaries and communication.

I've had great experiences that were marred by pre, post, or during actual cuddle moments that took away from the cuddle experience as a whole: such as, their profile or messages being different than who they said they were; various shades of dishonesty; not respectful of time; and unable to let go of their phones. In every case, I'm given the opportunity to take them at face value at that moment and go with it, or walk away. I've chosen to go with it.

All in all, I've not had a BAD cuddle experience.

TheFunCartel

Exceptional requires judgemental thought processes and is highly subjective by its very nature. The passage of time alters perception of what is exceptional. What I once thought was exceptional changes over time. Criteria changes as well. As @sideon noted there have been several sessions where someone has met a lot of the criteria yet fall woefully short in some ways. Exceptional, at least to me, is very temporal and is only exceptional at a particular moment. I can only experience an exceptional cuddler in the present moment. I see the warts in hindsight. That is human nature.

geoff1000

As a wag once said of sex, "When it's good, it's very good ; and when it's bad, it's still pretty good".

I guess he was a man.

MrPaul

@Bles
All that you have said, and more. I can sense when I meet a great cuddler, just like meeting a great hugger. It is self evident and difficult to describe. You each meet the other’s needs. Like you’ve known each other for a long time. An energy, a feeling of positive vibes, trust, and kindness.

waynewv

I would say YES!!!. I have only had 4 different cuddler's, 3 pro's, I felt 2 of them were just there for the money !!!, and did NOT enjoy what they were doing. I do understand that they want paid, I'm OK with that. But when you get the feeling that they are getting a little equal enjoyment of the cuddle, it sure makes one feel better about that time together, at least for me it does. One seemed to be clock watching, which does not make you feel real comfortable. And one, while spooning felt tense, not sure why, I am always on my BEST behavior !!! I have one cuddlier that I have found is great, I assume I should not put a name here, but the very first cuddle after 20-30 min's we both dozed off for a few mins'. Now that to me shows full trust and comfort !!!!, I felt so relaxing & comfortable after 1 hr., since then we do 2 hrs., and the time just fly's by, I would give her 10 STARS if I could.

Sheena123

Lol @waynewv I don’t mind you saying my name 😹😹 I feel the same way hun! 😄 you’re so easy to cuddle!!

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Sheena123

@SurfingStephan I think some of the things you said were a little more attacking then helping. Please read your posts a little more before you send. Or send it to him privately because he is an absolute sweetheart and I think he’s perfectly fine exactly as he is.

hugonehugall

For a cuddler to exceptional in my eyes they would have excel at a few things.
1. The logistical stuff IE showing up on time , hassle free scheduling , and not having to wait weeks or even months before they can fit you in to see them. Also affordability ( at least for my budget lol )
2. Hygiene is critical and also maybe not as critical but certainly important a clean cuddle space if they're hosting. Doesn't need to be spotless just not gross.
3. And 3rd attentiveness during the cuddle both mentally and physically. Don't be on your phone or exhibiting any other behaviour that tells me you'd rather be anywhere other than here. Also don't be afraid to initiate touch and suggest positions !!

Thank you all for your comments.

Having read each and every one I have deduced the following:

1. The word "exceptional" carries a value judgement and subjective tone with it. Each cuddle experience is as unique as the cuddlers involved. Time and different experiences over time as well as individual taste and expectations change over time. So what may have made a cuddle or cuddler great today may make him or her lousy tomorrow. Great points @Sideon and @FunCartel . Your insights are always appreciated.
2. Connection as well as the vibes and the energy one feels with that person all add to making a great cuddle experience that stands out. Great contribution there @MrPaul , @waynewv and @hugonehugall .
3. Clarity with concise boundaries and a well written profile adds solid foundation to building a great cuddle experience. Thanks for those bullets @WKCuddles .

Again thanks for all your comments and shares. Carry on the discussion as always.